For that matter, none of the superficial shidduch disqualifications make any sense. Let’s do away with all of them. But I think the abuse issue needs attention first because of how far behind we are in handling abuse and because suffering in silence compounds the trauma of abuse.
Please read the article and let’s start working together on the healing process, both individual and communal.
Also, read this related post: A Victim of Abuse “Writes-In”
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