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Two Kinds of Jews: Ashamed and Proud

But what does it mean to be proud of your heritage? Is that ethnocentric? Even supremacist?

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I write this in memory of my father, Lyle B. Federman, who was killed on April 21, 1998, the victim of police misconduct.

My father grew up with little to no Jewish tradition. No Shabbat. No Passover. No Menorah. No Kosher. He spent much of his life searching for an identity. He eventually discovered and embraced his Jewish heritage at an Oglala tribal meeting on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota.

My father had no interest in Judaism. He strived for a belief system that was all-inclusive. Connected with nature. With a social justice mission. Those values were reinforced by his exposure to the countercultural and environmental movements of the late 60’s.

He found those values in the Native American way of life. His began his journey by providing aid for food and clothing on the poverty stricken Pine Ridge Indian Reservation. He also volunteered at the sobriety meetings to fight the rampant alcohol and drug abuse. Soon he started practicing Native American rituals like the sweat lodge (or ceremonial sauna) and learning the traditions and history.

Eventually he was called to a tribal meeting where he would be formally inducted into the Oglala Lakota tribe. At the meeting, the tribal elders asked my father what he had observed on the reservation.

“I observe two kind of Indians,” my father explained. “One with short hair, head down, drunk and ashamed of who he is; and one with long hair, head up, sober and proud of his people.” The elders nodded in approval.

They asked my father about his ancestry. My father explained that he was Jewish. The tribal leader paused, squinted in thought, and said: “There are two kinds of Jews. One with his head down, ashamed of who he is; and the other with his head up and proud of who he is.” He continued, “be that Jew who is proud of who he is.” That was the most transcendental moment in my father’s life.

But what does it mean to be proud of your heritage? Is that ethnocentric? Even supremacist? The Torah was given on a small mountain to teach one to be humble toward others. To recognize and value other peoples way of life. If that is so, then why wasn’t the Torah given on flatland? Wouldn’t that be an even greater metaphor of humility? It was given on a small mountain to teach that one should still have pride but that pride should be measured and humbled.

My father then traveled to Berkley California where he came in contact with Chabad-Lubavitch, a Jewish outreach organization. He started learning Jewish philosophy, observing the Holidays and eventually married an Orthodox woman – my mother, a direct descendant of the Ba’al Shem Tov, the founder of Hasidic Judaism.

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About the Author: Eliyahu Federman has been published in the Huffington Post, New York Times, and the Jerusalem Post on sexual abuse awareness, gender equality and improving police-community relations.


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7 Responses to “Two Kinds of Jews: Ashamed and Proud”

  1. Cody Flecker says:

    It seems that there are many Jews in the USA today that reflect the authors opinion, that is, they are ashamed to be Jews. This shame is reflected by the number of Jews who refuse to identify with the fact that Jews are successful, and because of this, they feel ashamed.

  2. you are right and they also are against Jews and vot for Muslim and anti semite Obama

  3. Ron Kall says:

    Forgot to mention all the self hating Jews in positions in colleges and universities that help pollute the young with their Jew? Israel hatred!

  4. As a Jew by choice I'm extremely proud of my adopted heritage, I walk with my head held up and proud and very much aware of my obligations as a JEW and my duty towards mankind and my world.

  5. Samuel Abbo says:

    I respect the goys. I want the goy to respect me. VERY SIMOLE, WHEN I FIND ANANTISEMTIC AND HW INSULT THE JEWS, I TELL HIM THAT I AM GRATEFUL FOR THIS OFFENSE BECAUSE IT MEANS THST I HAVE SIMETHING BETTER THAN YOU THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE. I AM PROUD TO BE A JEW, AND THE MORE YOU INSULT ME THE HAPPIER I GET. I AM SOMEONE WITH HISTORY FOR MORE THAN 3000 YEARS. AND YOU?

  6. Yehuda Ferris says:

    A beautifully written tribute by a dedicated son to a very dear and special father, Reb Yitzchak Leib Federman, Olav Hashalom. May he enjoy an illuminated Gan Eden!
    Sincerely, Rabbi Yehuda Ferris, Berkeley Chabad House.

  7. Yehuda Ferris says:

    A beautifully written tribute by a dedicated son to a very dear and special father, Reb Yitzchak Leib Federman, Olav Hashalom. May he enjoy an illuminated Gan Eden!
    Sincerely, Rabbi Yehuda Ferris, Berkeley Chabad House.

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