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How to Lessen the Hatred

Haredim plan to paint Highway 1 black at the entrance to Jerusalem Sunday.

Haredim plan to paint Highway 1 black at the entrance to Jerusalem Sunday.
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Jonathan Rosenblum asks a question in the title of from his most recent column in Mishpacha Magazine (republished in Cross Currents): “Can We Do Anything to Lessen the Hatred?”

He is referring to a common theme I write about here – the conflict in Israel between Haredim and non-Haredim. Please note that I did not say Haredim and Hilonim (secular Jews). That would be incorrect. Datim – or Religious Zionists – are increasingly being lumped (by Haredim) together with Hilonim. But they don’t need to be lumped together by Haredim. Datim are actually siding with Hilonim against Haredim on many issues. As in the one referred to as “sharing the burden” – meaning subjecting Haredim to the draft.

I recently wrote about this very issue. And I made note of the fact that thinking Haredi writers like Jonathan have expressed the same thoughts I have on this issue. He does so once again.

What surprised Jonathan is the level of hatred that actually exists – even among Religious Zionists. He gives the following example:

I sent a national religious colleague my piece in Mishpacha on the Haredi draft issue. I consider this woman to be Israel’s finest columnist. She always writes in a measured style, building her argument block by block, like the engineer she is by training. I was sure she would approve of my pragmatic argument for allowing processes well under way to develop.

I was wrong. Perhaps she would have agreed five years ago, she wrote, but now she was fed up and fully behind Bennett. Even a statement by Rav Aharon Leib Steinman, shlita, that army service represents a spiritual threat to [H]aredi recruits – an unassailable sociological fact in the current IDF environment – elicited paroxysms of anger. The evident frustration coming from someone normally so temperate and with a number of [H]aredi friends clued me in to the depth of feeling in the national religious world.

In light of all that Jonathan concedes that their attitude is based on how the Haredi world presents itself to the non-Haredi world… and suggests that it ought to change. He gives examples of successful interactions where preconceived notions about Haredim were changed. Like the following:

Over the last decade, the Karlin-Stolin community, led by the Rebbe himself, has hosted between 10-15,000 Jews in small groups for Shabbos meals. Last week, one of the Torah flyers distributed in national religious synagogues on leil Shabbos included a letter from a waiter at Shabbos gathering of 370 Karlin-Stolin [H]assidim. He wrote of the warmth and respect the Hassidim showed him, of how they saved a seat for him at the table and invited him to join them in their dancing, of how they washed so neatly so as to minimize the clean-up.

“Shabbos ended and so did all my stereotypes,” the waiter wrote. So moved was the waiter that he called the Rebbe himself, who cried with joy and exclaimed, “That’s how I educated them for decades — in ahavas Yisrael and mutual respect.”

He ends up saying that this is an example worth emulating. I agree. This is indeed the kind of behavior to emulate. But this is not enough. It isn’t only about PR. It is about actually sharing the burden of military service.

But even if we were just to follow Jonathan’s advice about PR – it will not happen. It is one thing to writing about this issue to a sympathetic public. But as long as the rabbinic leadership continues their harsh rhetoric – changing their approach along the lines of this one [H]asidic group will not happen. No matter how many times Jonathan – or how many writers like him say so.

Jonathan is not a rabbinic leader and neither are any of the common sense Haredi writers like him (R’ Yitzchok Adlerstein comes to mind). I think that in their heart of hearts, most Haredim would agree with Jonathan .But as long as rabbinic leaders live in the past and insist on calling the idea of ‘sharing the burden’ a Shas HaShmad – comparing even observant Jews like Naftali Bennett that advocate it to what Czarist Russia did over 100 years ago – there will be no change in that paradigm any time soon. Especially when an influential Haredi publisher like Rabbi Yitzchok Frankfurter salutes his Rebbe and asks how high up the flagpole he should climb! (…in honoring his directive to make sure that the Haredi public understands that it is unequivocally a Shas HaShmad).

About the Author: Harry Maryles runs the blog "Emes Ve-Emunah" which focuses on current events and issues that effect the Jewish world in general and Orthodoxy in particular. It discuses Hashkafa and news events of the day - from a Centrist perspctive and a philosphy of Torah U'Mada. He can be reached at hmaryles@yahoo.com.


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