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No Child Left Behind: A Jewish Value

The students who need the attention the most are the ones whose egos have been destroyed by a lack of success in the schools. If you ignore those kids, the chances of them going OTD are exponentially increased.
Dejected student

Dejected student
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Last year, Rabbi Shneur Aisenstark (Dean of Beth Jacob Seminary of Montreal) wrote an article in Mishpacha Magazine (which I commented on) about drawing lines. In it he made the point that even though there ought to be unconditional love for an OTD (Off the Derech) child… even that had limits. If the doors to Teshuva are so locked that a parent feels that child will never come back, then you can basically show them the door. As I said at the time, that is not unconditional love. That is conditional love.

Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, a master Mechanech himself – responded to this at the time as follows:

Having dealt firsthand with similar situations for over sixteen years, it is our very strong recommendation to parents that their message to their OTD child and his/her siblings be one of unconditional love with no exceptions. Love does not mean acceptance. It means that the place our children hold in our hearts is not diminished regardless of how much they disappoint or even hurt us.

I agree with him and disagree with Rabbi Aisenstark… and at the time I questioned his value as a Mechanech. I was assured by a Mechanech of note who knows him well that he was a master Mechanech. And he was indeed perplexed by his approach.

But in last week’s Mishpacha column (unavailable online), I have come to understand why Rabbi Aisenstrak is so well regarded. He has advocated an approach to Chinuch that I fully support, and one that is woefully under represented in the world of Orthodox Jewish education. I believe this is in large part responsible for much of the OTD phenomenon. What I am talking about is teaching to the brighter or more motivated students.

Many Rebbeim in the day schools and Yeshivos are frustrated by students who don’t listen, whose minds wander, or who simply don’t want to learn. They feel like these students are a drag on the rest of the class. Almost every class has one or more students like that. I know of one 8th grade Rebbe that actually tells the class at the beginning of the school year that those who don’t want to learn, that’s fine, just don’t disturb the class. And he teaches to the brighter or more motivated students.

I don’t know how many teachers there are that actually make that speech to their class. But I’m sure that this is in fact how many of the practice.

This is not Chinuch. It is instead a gross failure to execute his teaching duties properly. He is instead shirking his duty. Teachers like this are irresponsible and in my view they will have to shoulder the burden of responsibility (at least in part) for any child in their class who ‘falls through the cracks’ and goes OTD. In my view this is grounds for dismissal.

Rabbi Aisenstark admonishes Mechanchim who do not to teach to the entire class. They should not ignore anyone. And he goes a step further. He believes that it is the weaker children that deserve the real attention. Given a choice between teaching the bright more motivated children or the weaker ones, he should focus on the weaker ones. The more motivated students will do quite well without being the center of attention that they usually are.

If children don’t do well in school, if they are bored or think school is just too hard… they are going to end up hating it. They need to be engaged at whatever level they are capable of. Get the unmotivated ones motivated.

The students who need the attention the most are the ones whose egos have been destroyed by a lack of success in the schools. If you ignore those kids, the chances of them going OTD are exponentially increased. An informal survey conducted by one of his seminary classes found that almost half (41%) of those who had negative feelings about the school ended up going OTD to one degree or another..

About the Author: Harry Maryles runs the blog "Emes Ve-Emunah" which focuses on current events and issues that effect the Jewish world in general and Orthodoxy in particular. It discuses Hashkafa and news events of the day - from a Centrist perspctive and a philosphy of Torah U'Mada. He can be reached at hmaryles@yahoo.com.


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4 Responses to “No Child Left Behind: A Jewish Value”

  1. Ita Benjamin says:

    You honestly believe that bright students won’t be bored in a class below their level and they’ll remain motivated without encouragement and stimulation? Wrong. Every child needs to be taught at his own level, or you will lose him. This may necessitate creative teaching methods where a class includes students of very different abilities. But to advocate ignoring the more advanced in order to focus on the less so is not curing the disease, but changing who gets infected with it.

  2. Ita Benjamin says:

    You honestly believe that bright students won’t be bored in a class below their level and they’ll remain motivated without encouragement and stimulation? Wrong. Every child needs to be taught at his own level, or you will lose him. This may necessitate creative teaching methods where a class includes students of very different abilities. But to advocate ignoring the more advanced in order to focus on the less so is not curing the disease, but changing who gets infected with it.

  3. Maria Levine says:

    That is all what is about the 4 different types of sons in Pesach seder. Teaches us to reach every single of our children according to their needs, regardless if they are our children or our students.

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