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Police?…Or Shomrim?

Battered Wife

http://haemtza.blogspot.co.il/2012/08/police-or-shomrim.html

This is why I have problems with the Shomrim. I realize that they are very popular in the communities which they are located. But when they start protecting abusive husbands, it should give pause to even those who support them.

The issue in question is surveillance cameras that are being installed in the Boro Park neighborhood of Brooklyn. This publically funded safety project was initiated after the Leiby Kletzky murder. It will give police a far greater ability to prevent that kind of thing from happening again.  That should be obvious.

But Jacob Daskal, coordinator of the Boro Park Shomrim opposes police access to these cameras. He only likes the idea if his people have access to them without the police. From a Forward article:

“The camera is very good for the community, but if it’s a private thing,” Daskal said. “If it’s a public thing it might hurt a person who doesn’t want to arrest her husband for domestic violence.”

Daskal was referring to a hypothetical situation in which a wife sought to protect her husband by telling police that a reported domestic violence incident had not actually occurred. If a centralized system of cameras easily accessible to the police existed and the incident were recorded, police would arrest the husband regardless of his spouse’s wish. On the other hand, police would need a court order to obtain tape from a camera under private control, and an abusive husband could be kept out of jail if the police failed to pursue the case to that step.

Unfortunately Mr. Daskal seems to feel that as long as battered wife is willing to keep being battered, then it’s none of our business.

Does he not know that – as bad as it is to get beat up by an abusive husband – many battered wives prefer that to being without a husband altogether? And as a result allow the abuse to continue and even grow worse? Does he not realize that they will mistakenly blame themselves for the violence perpetrated by their husbands with phrases like “I deserved it”?  …that they will say that he is normally a wonderful husband but was provoked by her unfairly? …that he couldn’t control himself this one time? …or that he only gets that way when his is drunk? …or that he had such a bad day at work he couldn’t help himself? …that he is a loving husband and great father most of the time?

Does he not realize that battered wives often simply fear retribution from a husband who feels his wife betrayed him by allowing him to be arrested? And that they fear losing the financial support the husband provides.

Does he not know that sometimes the violence is so bad that wives have been seriously injured, hospitalized, and even killed in an out of control rage by a husband ? Or that the husband himself might finally be killed by the wife who knows no way out – fearing for her life if she doesn’t kill him first?

Has he never heard of “Battered Wife Syndrome”?

And yet what does Mr. Daskal worry about? The abusive husband being arrested against a battered wife’s wishes!

Let me make one thing clear. There is never any excuse to beat your wife. There is no excuse for it. There is no explaining it away or being Dan L’Kaf Zechus. Protecting an abuser from the police is tantamount to aiding and abetting him in his next and possibly more violent rage.

Mr. Daskal’s request shows that the Shomrim consider themselves better equipped to handle domestic violence than the police.

Really? Do all the Shomrim volunteers have the education and training to decide whether an  abusive husband should be arrested? Do they have the same experience with domestic abuse that the police do?

Shomrim can – and should be – an effective tool in aiding the police who are often too short staffed to be as effective as they’d like to be. Shomrim really  are – or should be nothing more than watch groups.

Those who volunteer to protect their neighbors by patrolling the streets give up their free time to do so. They ought to be respected and even praised for that. But once they start thinking they are better than the police, they end up hurting their cause instead of helping it.

About the Author: Harry Maryles runs the blog "Emes Ve-Emunah" which focuses on current events and issues that effect the Jewish world in general and Orthodoxy in particular. It discuses Hashkafa and news events of the day - from a Centrist perspctive and a philosphy of Torah U'Mada. He can be reached at hmaryles@yahoo.com.


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2 Responses to “Police?…Or Shomrim?”

  1. Ahron Ebert says:

    They camera's are paid for by us the tax payers they should be in public hands. When Shomrim buy and instal their own cameras then they can keep them private.

  2. Kimberly Phillips says:

    What, in the name of all that is holy would motivate Mr. Daskel to make a statement that at best shows a patent lack of insight in the behavior of both the abused and
    the abuser and at worst is just plain dangerous. Patriarchy go this degree is, in and of ifself a form of abuse. Allowing volunteer "watch" groups to become investigator, jury and judge allows for personal alliances to get in the way of legitimate, objective investigative processes set up to protect vulnerable populations from various forms of exploitation and abuse. Someone should remind Mr. Daskel that abusers tire of their initial victims and move on to children. Abuse, whether
    or not is still abuse and still a crime; vigil anti watch groups who tacitly sanction abuse by stonewalling investigations may be guilty of aiding and abetting in a felony. Privacy ends when a person is a threat to their own or another's safety. Mr. Daskel would do well by his c ommunity by partnering with police to prevent abuse rather than using his position of authority and power to further harm to victims of domestic violence. No one desrves to be abused. EVER.

    Kimberly A. Phillips, APRN ACNP-BC

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