Sociologists argue that much of our daily behavior is motivated by interactions with peers. Thus, if one chooses and surrounds oneself with proper peers, who are both sensitive and of strong character, one’s behavior will adjust accordingly.
Therefore, if we remain peers, or at least within the social group of those we wish to influence, just imagine how much easier it will be for them to ultimately improve their behavior.
It would seem that the young man’s parents, with their unrequited love, are keeping all channels of communication wide open (and you by holding your tongue are doing the same) while offering positive role modeling or mentoring.
(Next week – some related thoughts)
Rabbi Yaakov Klass, Torah editor of The Jewish Press, serves as rav of Congregation K’hal Bnei Matisyahu in Flatbush, Brooklyn. He can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org.