This coming Shabbos we bentch the month of Menachem Av (literally “comfort the father”), Rosh Chodesh falling on Yom Sheini (July 28). As the Three Weeks will draw to a close, we will be observing the saddest day of the year, Tisha B’Av (the ninth of the month). Since we know that our Father suffers along with us in Galus, it makes sense for us to comfort Him during the month that brought us so much grief and tragedy, to assure Him that we regret having sinned and that we strive to be worthy of the ultimate redemption.
We are likened to the moon and its continuity. Just as the moon waxes, wanes and renews itself, so has the nation of Israel renewed itself through the millennia. As we sanctify the new moon each month, we pray, “Just as I dance toward you but cannot touch you, so may all my enemies be unable to touch me harmfully . . .
By mid-month the full moon shines forth in all its luster – but the fifteenth day of this particular month is unique in that it celebrates a Yom Tov, Tu B’Av, which is compared to the greatness of Yom Kippur. The Mishnah describes Chamisha Assar B’Av as having been a joyous holiday like none other. Various reasons are cited for having marked it so, not least among them the cessation of the decree that all men would die in the wilderness before their children would enter the Holy Land.
On each Tisha B’Av eve, those destined to die that year would dig their own graves and lie down in them. In the fortieth year, however, none died and so they thought they might have erred with the time of month. The resplendent full moon on the fifteenth of Av signaled that they had calculated correctly and that the decree had been annulled. Thus, the day became one of joyous celebration.
And who cannot help but be captivated by the portrayal of the dancing maidens in the fields, an enticing ritual that took place twice a year – on Tu B’Av and Yom Kippur afternoon. The young maidens of Jerusalem would don white dresses, all borrowed so as not to bring indignity upon those who could not afford a dress of their own. They sang and danced in a circle, beckoning the single males to choose mates from among them. The refrain would vary according to what each young woman had to offer. “Lift up your eyes and choose thoughtfully…” they would sing.
Those not endowed with physical beauty appealed to be chosen for their aristocratic lineage, while the ones who could boast of neither would claim that “charm is deceitful and beauty is vain… a woman who fears G-d shall be praised.”
Among the tzaddikim whose yahrtzeits fall in Av: Aharon HaKohen, the Kedushas Tzion of Bobov, the Arizal, the Chozeh of Lublin, the Me’am Loez, R’ Eliyahu HaKohen Dushnitzer, the Steipler Gaon, R’ Yoel Teitelbaum, the Satmar Rebbe, and the Netziv.
Rav Eliyahu HaKohen Dushnitzer was the mashgiach of Lomza Yeshiva in Petach Tikva. The Chazon Ish counted him as one of the 36 hidden tzaddikim. In a fascinating story related by Rav Elchanan Wasserman, Rav Eliyahu, a disciple of the Chofetz Chaim, was instrumental in exorcising a dybbuk (clinging spirit) from a young girl. Her father had brought the 14-year-old to Radin when she had taken ill shortly after a horse had died in the barn.
Upon returning from the barn, the girl, who had been sweating profusely, drank some cold water from an open vessel. Soon afterwards she began convulsing and fell to the floor in a dead faint. When she came to, she couldn’t recall what had happened to her.
Following repeated incidents of this nature, she suddenly began to speak in a strange voice, saying that she was the soul of a daughter of elderly parents who had converted to Christianity when she was 12. The family had later moved to another town, where the Jewish children taunted her. In her rage, she strangled two Jewish children.
At the age of seventeen she died and was condemned by the Heavenly court to a 15-year reincarnation. At first her soul entered a cross that was erected on her grave, but when it was crushed it migrated to a nearby tree. When the tree was cut, her soul entered a stone that happened to be in the stall where the horse was kept. The horse had stepped on the stone and fallen lifeless. The soul then infiltrated the vessel of water that the girl drank from.
The father asked the soul why she had possessed his daughter. The voice answered that his daughter had sinned when she drank the water without making a blessing. Had she made a bracha, the soul would have been unable to overtake her.
The Chofetz Chaim asked a group of rabbanim, including Rav Elchanan and Rav Eliyahu, to see the girl. The soul informed Rav Eliyahu Dushnitzer that it was ceaselessly tormented by demons – except for when it entered an object, which offered her a respite. She was asked whether she was aware of whom the Chofetz Chaim was and she answered that she knew he was a great Tanna. Upon further interrogation, she conceded that if he were to tell her to leave, she would go and would not return – provided two rabbanim would say Kaddish for her soul for one week’s duration.
The soul was instructed to leave the girl’s body through her small finger. The four people who witnessed the phenomenon related that the girl’s hand swelled, and the sound of shattering glass was heard as the dybbuk left.
The father took his daughter home and the Chofetz Chaim arranged for Kaddish to be said, in addition to instituting the learning of Mishnayos for the soul.
Many Torah giants, including the eminent Rav Chaim Kanievsky, were privileged to have found themselves under the tutelage of Rav Eliyahu Dushnitzer, whose love and compassion for his students was legendary. The renowned tzaddik joined the ranks of tzaddikim in Gan Eden on the 22nd day of Av.Rachel Weiss
About the Author: Rachel Weiss is the author of the newly released book “Forever In Awe” by Feldheim Publishers, available at sefarim outlets and at Feldheim.com.
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