Perhaps the couple does not even recognize at first that their problem is money -rooted; they just know that nastiness has come to define their home life. The sad truth is that because the money well dried up, everything else dried up as well.
Certainly money is important – but it cannot be allowed to be the defining factor in a relationship. The bond that connects husband and wife must transcend the changing fortunes inherent in almost every life.
So you need to summon forth the courage to tell shadchanim, and potential spouses, the truth: “I am not wealthy. I will of course help my children as much as I possibly can but I cannot promise anything. So if you are marrying my child for money, you’ve come to the wrong address.”
Please G-d, your daughter’s bashert – the “right one” – will come. He will love your daughter for herself and only for herself. Pray to – and place your trust in – Hashem. It is He who holds the key to all shidduchim – that very special soul mate He Himself designated for each individual. Be patient. It will happen. And when it does, please don’t forget to invite me to the wedding so that I may have the privilege of personally saying Mazel Tov.
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