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Losing Our Children (Part II)


Latest update: March 28th, 2013
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Firsts are special and memorable; we celebrate when our children take their first steps and say their first words. I have mental snapshots of the look of glee on each of my children’s faces when they learned to ride a bicycle, a rite of passage toward maturing independence.

We often wonder where we went wrong with our children, when in essence we never went right. Chazal tell us the formula for success has three ingredients: First, children must consistently feel that their parents love them. Second, we must daven that Hashem grant us success in raising them properly. Finally, we must be loving and passionate examples of a life of Torah and mitzvos.

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About the Author: Rabbi Gil Frieman is the pulpit Rabbi of Jewish Center Nachlat Zion, the home of Ohr Naava. He is certified as a shochet, sofer, and has given lectures in the United States, Canada, and throughout Eretz Yisroel. Rabbi Frieman is currently the American Director of seminaries Darchei Binah, Afikei Torah, and Chochmas Lev in Eretz Yisroel, and teaches in Nefesh High School, Camp Tubby during the summers, and lectures weekly at Ohr Naava. In addition, Rabbi Frieman teaches all tracks in Ateres Naava Seminary. He is a highly anticipated speaker on TorahAnytime.com where he speaks live most Wednesday nights at 9:00pm EST.


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