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The Teshuvah Journey

         In my first column I wrote about the “Who, what, where, when and how” of my journey back to Judaism, but the one question I did not fully answer is “why.” Answering that question is actually much more challenging than tackling all the previous ones. There simply is not enough space in a thousand-word column to mention all the reasons why Orthodox Judaism first attracted me and why it continues to do so.

 

         Why does a Jew raised in a Conservative home, given all the conveniences, freedoms and choices of the modern world, find himself attracted to the seemingly restrictive and old-fashioned framework of Orthodox Judaism?

 

         The Rabbis explain, “Turn it [Torah] over and turn it over, because everything is in it” (Pirkei Avot 5:26). The Torah is the ultimate guide to everything. If you look closely enough, everything you need to know and do is contained within it.

 

         For starters, the Torah is the decisive self-help Book. The Torah and its rabbinic commentators teach people how to avoid anger, overcome poor self-esteem, become more generous and beat addictions.

 

         It teaches people how to become better parents, better bosses and even how to be nicer to your pets. It contains essential lessons for how to succeed in business, and how to have a fulfilled marriage.

 

         I became religious during college, while majoring in psychology. As I learned more about Judaism, I realized that most theories of human behavior that modern psychologists have discovered in the last 200 years were actually written down in the Talmud and other Jewish sources as long as 2000 years ago!

 

         For instance, in 1965 Dr. Martin Seligman coined the theory of Learned Helplessness, as he discovered that a dog will accept even the most painful situations if it believes there is no escape. Seligman could have saved himself much work and the dogs much pain simply by looking at Jewish history.

 

         The Torah records that when the Jews were slaves in Egypt and G-d sent Moses back to free them, they did not want to hear about it. You would think the Jews would dance in the streets to welcome Moses and then go pack their bags, but they completely rejected him and his message of salvation.

 

         Several Rabbis explain that the Jews were suffering so much pain and persecution at the hands of the Egyptians that they had completely given up any hope of freedom. This sounds like an example of the learned helplessness theory that Seligman “discovered” thousands of years later.

 

         Growing up I often heard people lament at the complexity of life and wish they had a guidebook for maneuvering through it. We Jews have that instruction manual. It’s called the Torah. The Torah was written by G-d in part as a Guidebook for us to know how to live our lives. And because He made all of us, He knows exactly what messages we need to hear.

 

         G-d knew in advance, every event and struggle that the Jewish people collectively and individually would go through, and so He gave us the Torah to provide us direction.

 

         In my Conservative Hebrew School I remember being taught that many of the Jewish commandments and traditions were old, worn-out customs applicable only to another time period. Years later, as I started my teshuvah  journey I learned that nothing could be further from the truth!

 

          I finally learned about the eternal relevancy of Judaism and the Torah. Judaism teaches that there is something appropriate to do at every moment of our existence. Every minute presents us with the chance to choose between right and wrong, and shows us how to give our lives more meaning.

 

         The Torah’s commandments are practical ways to live our lives, to help us get the most out of this world and achieve our goals.

 

         The American writer Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” American society offers people every possible enjoyment, distraction and physical pleasure, but what are we left with when we’re done? After we’ve run from one pleasure to another, what’s left?

 

         We’re always looking for something better and brighter that we can write about to the folks back home. But the majority of people are never satisfied, as they’re always chasing another short-lived goal.

 

         How to solve this problem? Judaism offers the antidote. Other religions believe that one can only become holy by withdrawing from worldly pleasure and living an ascetic life as a monk high up on a mountain.

 

          Judaism teaches that we can become holy in the physical world by elevating everyday activities. I discovered that Judaism offers a way to still enjoy the pleasures of this world, but to dedicate them to a higher purpose.

 

         Nearly every enjoyable activity, eating tasty foods, even sleeping and shopping, can be used for a spiritual purpose. When we eat food and say a blessing to thank G-d for it and use the energy we get from the food to help someone else or to do a mitzvah, we’ve converted a pure physical need into something holy. If we sleep and then use the energy to learn and teach, we elevate the act to a level far greater than we could ever achieve by sleeping in late on a Sunday morning.

 

         Judaism teaches that when we do any action in the right way at the right time, we are living for a higher purpose than just our immediate needs.

 

         For many people, an ideal vacation consists of going to a faraway beach, and spending quality time with family without the distraction of Blackberries and PDAs. But why save up to get such a dream vacation only once a year when you can get it every week? That’s what Shabbos is!

 

         Shabbos is a day to unplug from all our everyday distractions and spend time bonding with our families and having long meals with plenty of delicious food. It’s the Day of Rest, so yes − you get points in Heaven for sleeping! What an amazing religion we belong to.

 

         There is an endless list of other features Judaism has that first attracted me and continue to do so. Each person who becomes frum has his or her own list of reasons which we will uncover, as we explore amazing stories of other people’s teshuvah journeys, in future issues of this column.

 

         The Teshuvah Journey is a monthly column chronicling amazing teshuvah journeys and inspiring kiruv tales. To share a story or send other comments, email michaelgros@gmail.com

About the Author: Michael Gros writes from Ramat Beit Shemesh, Israel. The Teshuva Journey column chronicles uplifting teshuva journeys and inspiring kiruv tales. To read more articles and sign up to receive them via email, visit http://www.michaelgros.com


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