Many of us women have formed such close friendships that we take part in one another’s simchas. Needless to say, several shidduchim have been concluded as a result of these meetings. As a matter of fact, I completed two shidduchim together with another woman from the group. Recently, I was privileged to be the shadchan to my cousin Chany’s daughter!
Do you (or did you) ever set up a match between girl and boy whom you have not personally met with or interviewed beforehand, just going by info given you by second or third parties?
For the most part, I work with families that I know, or know of. I have also done multiple shidduchim for some families. I usually do not know the girls or boys personally (especially the boys) and go mostly by information that I gather. For starters, I try to see that the families are compatible and then take it from there.
Do you find that your achievements serve as learning experiences as you go along to better prepare you for the next round, or would you say that the process comes naturally to you?
I definitely learn from my experiences. I know what to say, what not to say, and when to say it. Intimidation from people who are hard to deal with is no longer there, and my confidence is reinforced with each successive shidduch accomplished, so that when I think of the next suggestions I really feel like “I CAN DO THIS!”
To be cont’d…Rachel
About the Author: We encourage women and men of all ages to send in their personal stories via email to firstname.lastname@example.org or by mail to Rachel/Chronicles, c/o The Jewish Press, 4915 16th Ave., Brooklyn, N.Y. 11204. If you wish to make a contribution and help agunot, your tax-deductible donation should be sent to The Jewish Press Foundation. Please make sure to specify that it is to help agunot, as the foundation supports many worthwhile causes.
If you don't see your comment after publishing it, refresh the page.