web analytics
September 2, 2014 / 7 Elul, 5774
At a Glance
Sections
Sponsored Post
Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat (L) visits the JewishPress.com booth at The Event. And the Winners of the JewishPress.com Raffle Are…

Congratulations to all the winners of the JewishPress.com raffle at The Event



Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities

By:

Chronicles-logo

Dear Rachel,

Going up to the mountains for the summer used to be considered one of the greatest gifts parents could give to their young children. It was unquestionably the healthy alternative to staying put in the city in the sweltering heat. While adults could avail themselves of air-conditioned comfort, kids can’t exactly be confined indoors. Spending the summer season in the country meant that parents could relax since they didn’t need to worry about their children who were playing outside in a far safer environment than the city streets.

I use the past tense because I am not too sure anymore about how terrific or safe this getaway is for kids. Some disturbing stories have been circulating about abuse… and not the kind that immediately comes to the reader’s mind. What I refer to is abuse of children by children.

Last summer a horrific incident played itself out and was hushed up almost immediately. It involved a couple of boys in their early teens who decided to make sport of a five-year old, just for the fun of it. The minute details escape me, but I do recall hearing that by the time the adults were made aware of what was happening, the poor little boy looked like he had gotten caught in a boxing ring during a fighting match. His eyes were swollen shut and his face was battered and bruised beyond recognition.

The sad part in all of this is that the five-year old had not wandered away and was not accosted by strangers. These were all kids from local families known to one another, and the abusers were supposedly “regular” yeshiva boys. Some of the adults on the scene tried to minimize the outrage by blaming it on “childish pranks” gone too far. The mortified parents of the little boy were of a far different opinion, to put it mildly, but in the interest of keeping the peace they decided against making a fuss that might have resulted in ugly confrontations and lashon hora.

Just now I heard of another terrible episode in a similar setting (upstate at a summer resort). A two-year old had apparently gotten hold of a toy that some older (five-year olds) had been playing with. It seems the bigger boys arbitrarily chose to teach the young interloper a lesson. By the time they were done, the toddler was found unconscious on a landing at the bottom of a staircase. This story, I am told, has also been hushed up.

I am writing this with the hope that unsuspecting parents of little ones will be warned to be wary and not assume that leaving the city for the country means their children can safely roam free and play by themselves without adult supervision.

Though I am not and have never been a “country” enthusiast, I do recollect a sense of freedom during a couple of summers I spent up in the mountains in my childhood. But that was long ago and things have changed big time, everywhere.

Pity it’s come to this…

Dear Pity,

“Things have changed” must be the understatement of our time. To let our guard down is to ask for trouble. Adults need to be wary when on their own, let alone parents entrusted with the care of innocents.

That said… virtually all parents of young ones have witnessed any one of their brood express frustration in a potentially harmful way at one time or other. A sibling, a playmate or a parent will have said or done something to trigger feelings of irritation and exasperation in a child, and it would be unreasonable to expect even a five-year old to deal with his or her emotions in a constructive way.

While the grown up is (hopefully) mature enough to handle a volatile situation responsibly, younger sibs and babies are often in harm’s way — as when Riled-Up Junior turns the nearest gadget at hand into a dangerous projectile and the flying object makes a beeline for the baby’s head.

As you say, adults tend to be more relaxed and at ease in a country bungalow setting, and the social atmosphere makes it especially challenging to keep track of a two-year old. Still, adults ought to know better — that it is in their place to practice vigilance when it comes to their young children; notwithstanding, it is never too early for parents to instill acceptable behavior versus unacceptable behavior in their toddlers.

About the Author: We encourage women and men of all ages to send in their personal stories via email to rachel@jewishpress.com or by mail to Rachel/Chronicles, c/o The Jewish Press, 4915 16th Ave., Brooklyn, N.Y. 11204. If you wish to make a contribution and help agunot, your tax-deductible donation should be sent to The Jewish Press Foundation. Please make sure to specify that it is to help agunot, as the foundation supports many worthwhile causes.


If you don't see your comment after publishing it, refresh the page.

Our comments section is intended for meaningful responses and debates in a civilized manner. We ask that you respect the fact that we are a religious Jewish website and avoid inappropriate language at all cost.

If you promote any foreign religions, gods or messiahs, lies about Israel, anti-Semitism, or advocate violence (except against terrorists), your permission to comment may be revoked.

No Responses to “Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities”

Comments are closed.

SocialTwist Tell-a-Friend

Current Top Story
Candy-laden bulletin board greets children on their first day of school in the lobby of an Efrat apartment building. Sept. 1, 2014.
The message reads:
"To our dear children ... may it be a year of fun and happiness in your studies." 
Did You Know September 1 is an Israeli National Holiday?
Latest Sections Stories
LBJ-082914

What better proof do we need than the recent war with Hamas in Gaza, dubbed “Operation Protective Edge,” that transformed the pain and suffering of three families into a sense of unparalleled unity and outpouring of love of the entire nation of Israel?

Katzman-082914

So many families are mourning, and all along we mourned with them.

Astaire-082914

In addition to his great erudition, Rabi Akiva was known for his optimism.

Kupfer-082914-Chuppah

She told me that she was busy and that he could sit in his wet clothes for the rest of the day. It would teach him to be more careful.

What can we do to help him stop feeling so sad all the time?

Children with dyslexia or dysgraphia frequently have problems in social relationships.

Israel’s neighbors engaged in hostilities from the onset. The War of Independence was a hard-won battle. Aggression and enmity has followed for 66 years.

The contest will include student-created sculpture, computer graphic design, collage, videography, PowerPoint and painting.

David, an 8-year-old boy on the autism spectrum, recently attended a Friendship Circle event. As he entered he told his Dad, “I love coming to the FC programs ‘cause everyone loves each other.”

Goldsmith himself went on his own “voyage of discovery” to the places where his grandfather and uncle landed and were sent.

Frank proclaimed himself Zvi’s successor and the reincarnation of King David.

You’re probably wondering why the greatest advocate of fast and easy preps in the kitchen is talking about layer cakes, right?

Almost immediately the audience began singing and clapping and continued almost without stop throughout the rest of the concert.

As of late, vintage has definitely been in vogue in the Orthodox community.

Printed from: http://www.jewishpress.com/sections/family/chronicles-of-crises/chronicles-of-crises-in-our-communities-254/2013/08/09/

Scan this QR code to visit this page online: