Conversely, the non-chassidic single often wastes time dating endlessly in his or her quest to determine whether Yoni Ploni will make a good spouse in spite of his or her seemingly amiable persona.
All this brings to mind a story about a talmid of the Vilna Gaon who was blind in both eyes, yet he did not allow his impediment to hold him back from his learning as he diligently reviewed the shiurim and committed them to memory.
The Gaon, immensely impressed with his outstanding student, went out on a limb to seek a shidduch for him and found a good girl from a fine family that was also willing and able to support the young couple.
The wedding day arrived, with many in attendance to be sameach the bride and groom. When it came time for the badeken, the Vilna Gaon himself accompanied the chosson to his kallah. On their way, however, the Gaon stopped, turned to the chosson and told him that our holy sages ordained that one is forbidden to enter into Kiddushin before actually seeing his intended. In other words, a chosson must see his kallah before taking her to be his wife.
Upon hearing the words the Gaon just spoke to him, the chosson lifted his head, opened up his eyes and discovered that his eyesight was miraculously restored!
May the attraction between every chosson and kallah endure a lifetime.
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