Many people hesitate to receive expert advice because they are unfamiliar with it and feel uncomfortable. But professional advice is helpful and important because relationship experts have studied and dealt with similar or identical situations to yours and can assist you in seeing your situation from many perspectives with several solutions, of which one or more will suit you and your marriage best.
No matter what your marital trouble may be, always remember these important steps:
- Acknowledge and accept the problem.
- Ask yourself why the problem troubles you.
- Approach your spouse with your thoughts and feelings.
- Talk it out.
- Stay rational.
- Seek an expert’s opinion and advice.
If after evaluating your marriage, you have found unresolved areas of tension, it’s important to try and resolve your problems before they spill over into the life of your child. Improving your marriage may be the most important thing you can do to help your teenager.
About the Author: Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch, MA, Marriage and Family Therapy, is an expert in marriage counseling, pre-marital education, and helping teens in crisis with offices in Flatbush, Cedarhurst, and Crown Heights. He is a certified PAIRS instructor, and trained as a Level 1, Emotionally Focused Therapist at the Ackerman Institute for the Family, and is a member of AASECT. He is the author of At Risk – Never Beyond Reach and First Aid For Jewish Marriages. To watch his free videos on marriage and parenting and for appointments visit: www.JewishMarriageSupport.com or call 646-428-4723
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