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Not So Kosher Shemittah L’Mehadrin

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US Bans Embassy Personnel from Part of Jerusalem Light Rail Route

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Two Israeli Women Killed in Nepal Bus Crash

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Women of the Wall Smuggle Tiny Torah Scroll to Western Wall

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New York Doctor Infected with Ebola [video]

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Tearful Message from Baby Terror Victim’s Grandfather

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Romney and Joe Lieberman to Address Israel-Americans in Washington

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Arab Rioters Attack Jewish-owned Buildings in Old City [video]

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J Street U Blames Jews for Terrorist’s Murderous Rampage

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Boko Haram Kidnaps Another 25 Nigerian Girls

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New York City Hospital Testing Patient for Ebola Virus

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Arabs Continue Terror with Rock Attacks in Jerusalem

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Netanyahu Convenes Top Brass in Jerusalem Over Terror Attack

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News for Israel: Boeing Sells Data, Drawings to Iran

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US-led Coalition Destroys Syrian Oil Wells

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Suspected Ebola Patient Quarantined in Lebanon

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Convicted Terrorists Still Have Drivers’ Licenses, But . . .

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Terror: US Pledges Support for Canada but Tells Israel to Stay Calm

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The Shabbos Project: Jews Worldwide Keeping This Shabbos Together

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Israel Railways Going ‘Electric’

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Marriage and Relationships
Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: April 24th, 2009

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In marriage, it’s inevitable that sometimes couples will step on each other’s toes; especially during the first year of marriage, where newlyweds find themselves tip-toeing around their spouse’s emotional roadblocks. Don’t forget that it takes time to learn about your spouse’s idiosyncrasies and to learn how to respond in a way that makes them feel at ease.

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Posted on: April 22nd, 2009

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Dear Mom and Dad, Yes, I am addressing you both in the same sentence, because even though you are divorced, to me you are still Mom and Dad. I just want you both to know how much I love you. Things have been really crazy and I need to get a few things off my chest. You being divorced has really been hard on me. I remember how you argued so much that most of the time I parented myself. I was so scared ... When you fought, I felt so invisible.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: April 17th, 2009

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Some people are natural communicators. They know how to get across their point of view without damaging their relationship. Others (probably most of us) need some guidance on where to focus and what to steer clear of.

Herskowitz-Moishe
 

Posted on: April 17th, 2009

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Traumatic events are typically unexpected, and uncontrollable. If in the past a person experienced a traumatizing event - even if it's been long forgotten - the brain will remind them of that time, should something similar take place. Memories to traumatic occurrences lie dormant in the recesses of subconscious memories.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: April 10th, 2009

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To feel loved and nurtured, your spouses need to feel that you empathize with their emotions. The key is empathy. Empathy isn’t the same as sympathy or pity. It means being able to put yourself in another’s position, to feel what they feel and see what they see, without losing yourself in the process.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: April 3rd, 2009

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Mirroring is a good way to start actively listening to each other. To mirror, you simply paraphrase or repeat back to your spouses what they are saying to you.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: March 27th, 2009

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David (name changed) and his wife had been married for 15 years and believed they knew what each other really wanted. While attending a marriage seminar on communication, David and his wife listened to the instructor declare, “It is essential that husbands and wives know the things that are important to each other.”

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: March 18th, 2009

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One of the most powerful dimensions of a successful marriage is a couple's ability to keep focused on each other's good points and unique personality traits. Too often, people become fixated on the negative. They "sweat over the small stuff," and forget about the positive points that brought them together in the first place.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: March 4th, 2009

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Self-esteem is one of the most important factors influencing human behavior. Despite what some people believe, self-esteem can be a critical issue in marriage, where unresolved identity issues from childhood can place unwanted stress on a relationship.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: February 25th, 2009

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Finding direction in marriage is similar to going on a long journey. To get to where you want to go, you will need to have a plan that includes directions, supplies and someone to navigate along the way.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: February 11th, 2009

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I often share with my clients a simple yet powerful analogy: to think about their relationship as they do about their bank account. That's because investing in your relationship is similar to saving money; the more you put into your bank account or relationship, the more you can take out when necessary.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: February 6th, 2009

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Mordechai, 36, and Chani, 35, were married for six years and came to ask me for advice on how to save their relationship. They seemed to have everything going for them. They were working professionals, successful and upwardly mobile; they shared many common factors including similar religious beliefs, intelligence levels, and were both pleasantly extroverted.

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Posted on: December 11th, 2008

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One of the reasons that parenting is so difficult is because parents are caught in a paradoxical situation. What every child wants most is to be loved as he is. However, the parent (horeh) is also a teacher (moreh), which comes from the word hora'ah - instruction. A teacher's job is to civilize the child, instill values, shape attitudes and correct negative behavior. We can't let our children go out into the world as pampered slobs or short-tempered bullies. We want them to be hard working, reliable, thrifty, considerate, patient and organized.

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: November 28th, 2008

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If you would like to know if your marriage is relationship centered or not, the way to find out is to ask yourself about your core values. For example, what is the most important principle of your marriage? Is it your desire for money or pleasure? Do you dream about being comfortable, being honored by your spouse and having a lot of fun?

Schonbuch-Rabbi-Daniel
 

Posted on: November 21st, 2008

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Are you looking for emotional first aid for your marriage? If you are, you’re not alone. Today engaged couples, newlyweds and couples who have been married for years, are feeling insecure about their relationships and looking for advice on how to make their marriages work better or simply to heal their relationship wounds.

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Posted on: November 12th, 2008

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We have a stringent duty to honor our parents. But are there limits? A well-known Gemara praises a Roman officer for maintaining his composure even after his mother tore his clothes and spit in his face in public (Kiddushin 31a). Many cite this story as proof that a child must passively submit to abuse by a parent. This view is mistaken and can lead to terrible tragedies.

Respler-Yael
 

Posted on: October 16th, 2008

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Dear Dr. Yael, I think it is imperative that you print this letter because this is an ongoing problem in many families. In these families, the children stay in their parents' summer home for the entire summer, and everyone is supposed to live happily under one roof. This can get difficult if a brother-in-law picks on his sister-in-law or vice versa. This past summer my brother-in-law called me names, causing many hurt feelings.

Herskowitz-Moishe
 

Posted on: April 23rd, 2008

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A few years ago I was invited to be a guest on a talk show. An interesting question came up from a young man who wanted some information on the topic of in-laws. He wanted to know if I had ever known of a couple divorcing because of their in-laws. My response was that although divorced people may blame the in-laws for the marriage failure, in most cases this does not happen directly, but indirectly- YES!

Herskowitz-Moishe
 

Posted on: February 13th, 2008

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The ability to maintain a pleasant and peaceful relationship with in-laws is of the greatest importance for the young couple entering marriage. The more you understand the in-law relationship, the more likely you will achieve happiness in marriage.

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Posted on: February 13th, 2008

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As the Mom of a large blended family I am regularly asked, "How do you guys do it?" How do you keep this family going with all of the ups and downs, all of the challenges that go along with being parents of eight children including several who have different combinations of parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents? Well, to tell you the truth it isn't easy and there are days that I ask myself the same question.

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