Marriage and Relationships

Realistically, you are no longer dating and the everyday schedules and routines we have with jobs, schooling, etc., can take away some of that inherent excitement that dating and the unknown offer.

I work with many people who tell me painful things that people say to them. Often, these people are simply not thinking before they speak (most people don't mean to hurt others).

The focus of your dating will always revolve on the ability for your relationship to thrive and grow in a marriage. One of the most basic tenets of a couple’s success is their commitment to a foundation of a shared hashkafa.

Please don't make a huge issue out of this situation. As in all situations, the only person we can change is ourselves.

Any reaction offers direction and a chance for personal growth, should we be mindful and mature enough to listen to their response with humility and grace.

Covid, which generally causes all of us anxiety, has definitely exacerbated it in individuals who suffer from anxiety disorders.

To quote that mildly famous song, “All you need is time, time, time...” (Love. Whatever. It’s semantics.)

If you hear yourself saying that you’ll probably be unhappy in your marriage soon, or that you’re probably really not happy now, you need to stop yourself and change that narrative.

After an enlightening conversation about your respective Covid beliefs, you worry that you have unearthed a divide too big to bridge...

My question is do all our needs have to be fulfilled by our spouse? Maybe some of your needs can be met by siblings, good friends, or close cousins.

Whether you are set up by a shadchan, by a friend, or meet on your own at a singles event, take the time to do your research.

You must make sure your child is safe and try to put him back to bed, but do not awaken him or try to calm him, since he is probably sleeping.

You don’t believe that they would want you, when they could look for girls who come from standard frum homes, and parents who offer more.

Perhaps you really want to be frum, but it is hard for you right now because you don’t feel it as much as you want to, or as much as you feel that you have to.

You have been blessed. Hashem has offered you your zivug on the first try and the parts of ourselves that fight the brachos in our lives are trying to offer you doubt when there should only be joy.

My friend found out that one of my son’s rebbeim, who was close to him, insinuated that although he was a great boy with great middos, he was an average learner and would never amount to anything in the world of Torah.

Simply standing in place or talking only to those who approach you is not enough. Instead, make eye contact, smile, and engage anyone who seems exciting.

It appears that you are afraid of your own child. However, by doing nothing, you are hurting your son's ability to merit Olam HaBa.

Money can often be a source of discord in a marriage, and clear communication can help to circumvent any resentment or disagreement. This can be helped by immediately changing your view from "mine and yours" to "ours."

Right now you are going through a very difficult time-period and you are in a lot of pain, but in order to crawl out of this sadness it is important to focus on all of the good things you have in life, no matter how small they seem.

We are only able to control ourselves, our actions and our behaviors. We can encourage, prod, and plead, but ultimately, we are only responsible for our own conduct.

Our goal was always to tell authentic stories from people who are choosing to be Orthodox but grappling with things that are difficult, all while showcasing real human emotion.

If you think that your daughter has some social anxiety or some difficulties socially, it may be prudent to get her some professional help. Before getting help, see if you can talk to her about what is really going on.

While research does not guarantee that you will connect in person, it does give your heart and mind the peace of mind to pursue someone with excitement and genuine interest.

He wants you to reassure her that you care about her, but minimize your exposure to her.

Chemistry is certainly a vital component of a successful future with your spouse. However, a frum background and the way we date often means that chemistry does not happen in scene two or three but rather with effort and intent.

Although there are many men who still crave to enter the world of chinuch, there is sometimes a lack of middos in how the rebbeim are treated and this can filter down to the children.

You made a decision that still means something to you and he decided that he needs a different path. This is hard, it hurts, and it’s extremely upsetting.

I know that changing can be a slippery slope and I am afraid of falling. How do I continue to be happy in my marriage while maintaining my inner sense of modesty?

Are there girls who have everything? Are there girls that are smart, beautiful, kind, fun, and the “perfect” height? Sure!