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Pre-Marital Counseling: To Go Or Not To Go


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Marty Herskowitz MS., CSW, is a marriage counse­lor and maintains a private practice in Brooklyn as founder of CPC. He is an educator, lecturer, consultant and ad­junct professor at Touro College; counseling coordinator for Career Services at Touro College and the At Risk Cen­ter in Brooklyn; and is presently working as a licensed guidance counselor for the NYC Board of Ed. in Special Education.

About the Author: Moishe Herskowitz, MS., LCSW, developed the T.E.A.M. (Torah Education & Awareness for a better Marriage). As a licensed clinical social worker and renowned family therapist, he guides new couples through easy-to-accomplish steps towards a happy, healthy marriage. He can be reached at CPCMoishe@aol.com or 718-435-7388.


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