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Self Awareness. ‘Who Am I?’ (Part III)


Herskowitz-Moishe

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I heard an excellent shiur from Rabbi Avraham Feuer, Shlita, on” How to improve you midos in married life”. He states that in Klal Yisorel there were many Torah Scholars that were great intellectuals, but in as much did not go down as our role models. But the ones that went down in history as our heroes and role models were the ones that perfected their heart not just their heads. He went on to say that in the time of the Gemorah, two thousand years ago, the Rabbanim acknowledged that the previous generation was limited in torah knowledge. They did not have the learning capacity that we Thinkers have today. But when Rabbi Yehudah, the gadol of that generation prayed, the rain came pouring down. We with all our learning and high yeshivah standards, daven and yet we don’t see an immediate response. Chazal is trying to teach us that the previous generation learned torah and taught torah with their hearts. Hashem wants us to do things from our hearts, because the essence of a person is in the heart and that is where the shechina rests.

Perhaps if we can keep this in mind we would not only have shalom bayis in our marriages, but we would no longer have any need for alternative schools.

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Moishe Herskowitz MS., LCSW, developed the T.E.A.M. (Torah Education & Awareness for a better Marriage) approach based on 20 successful years of counseling couples – helping them to communicate effectively and fully appreciate each other. As a licensed and highly certified social worker and renowned family therapist, he developed this breakthrough seminar to guide new couples through easy-to-accomplish steps towards a happy, healthy marriage. Moishe Herskowitz holds a certificate from the Brooklyn Institute for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis in couples and marriage therapy. He is an active member of the New York Counseling Association for marriage and family counseling. Mr. Herskowitz can be reached at 718-435-7388.

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About the Author: Moishe Herskowitz, MS., LCSW, developed the T.E.A.M. (Torah Education & Awareness for a better Marriage). As a licensed clinical social worker and renowned family therapist, he guides new couples through easy-to-accomplish steps towards a happy, healthy marriage. He can be reached at CPCMoishe@aol.com or 718-435-7388.


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