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Self Esteem And Its Impact On Marriage

First Aid Relationship Tips

* Highlight positive aspects of his physical, mental, and emotional development, such as the way he looks, express thoughts and feelings, the skills he has or is developing.

* Focus on accomplishments. Congratulate her for achievements, however big or small. Remind her daily of the things she has done well or courage she has shown.

* Help him to be realistic and accept the fact that, while he isn’t perfect at everything, he doesn’t have to be.

* Teach her to laugh at past disappointments when she can. Use setbacks as opportunities for insight and growth.

* Help him develop a support system of people they trust who will listen when he needs to talk.

As the level of self esteem improves, many couples find their ability to have a successful marriage is greatly enhanced.

Relationship Test: Self Esteem

Do you take time to develop your spouse’s self esteem?

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About the Author: Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch, MA, Marriage and Family Therapy, is an expert in marriage counseling, pre-marital education, and helping teens in crisis with offices in Flatbush, Cedarhurst, and Crown Heights. He is a certified PAIRS instructor, and trained as a Level 1, Emotionally Focused Therapist at the Ackerman Institute for the Family, and is a member of AASECT. He is the author of At Risk – Never Beyond Reach and First Aid For Jewish Marriages. To watch his free videos on marriage and parenting and for appointments visit: www.JewishMarriageSupport.com or call 646-428-4723


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One Response to “Self Esteem And Its Impact On Marriage”

  1. Will Perry says:

    we’re not supposed to esteem SELF, self is the doctrine of the devil.

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