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Why Marital Therapy Often Fails

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Therapy is costly. It’s a simple fact that money adds up quickly. If the therapy is the tool that saves a marriage and creates a healthier future, any amount of money is worth it. But unfortunately, therapy costs can add stress to an already stressful situation. This is another reason the therapist should be up front about the projected amount of meetings and length of therapy. The couple needs to know the plan and be prepared for the costs involved.

When considering therapy remember to ask yourself:

1. Is my therapist offering enough clear direction? If you are in the midst of marital crisis, get help that gives you the concrete plan you need and deserve.

2. Are each of us being asked to confront ourselves and understand some deeper personal issues?

3. Are we giving ourselves enough time and energy to make a critical difference?

4. What is this going to approximately cost and am I prepared to go the distance with this therapeutic plan?

Your marriage has spun out of control. Getting it back will likely start with taking some control over your marital therapy first.

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About the Author: Check out Gary’s web program where he interviews couples who share their struggles and innermost thoughts and feelings at mgaryneuman.com. Facebook or Twitter Gary at mgaryneuman. M. Gary Neuman is a NY Times best selling author and a frequent guest on the Oprah show. He lives in Miami with his wife and five children.


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2 Responses to “Why Marital Therapy Often Fails”

  1. Emma Mercer says:

    I think it all boils down to finding a really good therapist. You go to a couples therapist to work out the problemsin order to save the marriage and not to make the situation even worst.

    - http://evolvingfamilies.net/

  2. Anonymous says:

    Dating in the Yeshiva World – YouTube.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ChLNFX3m_dA

    Sep 20, 2011… Rabbi Dr. Bernhard Rosenberg teaches young men and women in the yeshiva world about the dating world.

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