Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/30/10

Posted on: April 28th, 2010

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/23/10

Posted on: April 21st, 2010

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Doing What Comes Naturally?

Posted on: April 14th, 2010

Many years ago, I was meeting relatives at the airport when I ran into someone I knew whom I hadn't seen in a few years. Someone who was a very active homosexual. I asked him what he was doing at the airport and he told me he was there to pick up his wife and kids. "Oh," I said and, as if on cue, his wife appeared with two little kids in tow.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/16/10

Posted on: April 14th, 2010

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/09/10

Posted on: April 8th, 2010

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Toby’s Secret Dating

Posted on: April 2nd, 2010

Ruth had just recently discovered (from another parent) that Toby had been secretly dating a boy for over a year. When she confronted Toby about her boyfriend, Toby had adamantly refused to admit that she was secretly seeing anyone. Ruth was extremely distraught to realize that her daughter would do something against her wishes and asked if I could help.

Oh, So Angry (Part IV)

Posted on: March 29th, 2010

This is the fourth and final part on my series on anger, apersonal control and anger management. I believe there are several major beliefs one needs to appreciate when it comes to understanding anger, angry people and controlling anger and other emotions - let's call then the "secrets of anger." An important definition to remember before we discuss these secrets is that when something happens that causes us to have strong emotions, the thing happening is referred to as a trigger.

How To Combat Classroom Bullying

Posted on: March 24th, 2010

Two months into the school year, Shonnie's enthusiasm for school inexplicably took a nose dive. Her morning routines seemed to take her forever. The 7 year-old reacted to her mother's exasperation by turning sulky and tearful. With increasing frequency she missed the bus and needed to be driven to school.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/02/10

Posted on: March 24th, 2010

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Choices

Posted on: March 24th, 2010

In most homes, as women prepare to join the Seder (hopefully, somewhat rested), the anticipatory anxiety associated with the "P" word (pre-Pesach angst) is no longer. The cleaning, preparations, shopping and cooking are now a thing of the past. And finally, the Hagaddah's legacy of yetzias Mitzrayim (exodus from Egypt) takes front stage.

Debbie’s Body Piercing

Posted on: March 19th, 2010

Referring back to our earlier case of Debbie’s body piercing, let’s see how using knowledge of Debbie’s inner world and the power of spending quality time together can help her parents connect to her.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 3/19/10

Posted on: March 17th, 2010

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Oh, So Angry (Part III)

Posted on: March 17th, 2010

In continuing our discussion on anger management, I would like to share some basic beliefs that one must understand in their journey to anger management (which I also referred to as personal control). As we have previously discussed, anger control is directly related to self-esteem and confidence. That is, the better the self-esteem, the more capable the person will be in controlling emotions. Also, related to this is the concept we refer to as "shame."

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 3/12/10

Posted on: March 11th, 2010

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Controlling Your Teenager (Continued From 2/19/10 Issue)

Posted on: March 5th, 2010

The fifth pillar of the inner world is what the eminent psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Victor Frankl called the “Will to Meaning.” This desire for meaning implies wanting to know the whys of life and not just the hows.

Oh, So Angry (Part II)

Posted on: March 3rd, 2010

In Part I of this four-part series, I introduced you to Aaron and his extreme anger. I ended that article with, "I must say that as I was describing this theory, Aaron's mouth dropped open, his eyes grew wide and tears formed in his eyes as he moved closer in his chair. The only thing he could say was, "How did you know?" With that comment, Aaron and I started a remarkable relationship. With all the counselors he had been to over the years, Aaron said that no one really understood him. Here was the angry young man who didn't want to be there, fully engaged and ready to work, ready to share his pain, ready to begin a trusting relationship."

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 3/05/10

Posted on: March 3rd, 2010

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School Bus Safety

Posted on: March 3rd, 2010

I want to make it clear that this article in no way is meant to blame any of the people involved in what appears, by all accounts, to have been a tragic accident when a Brooklyn school bus killed a 4-year-old boy in Boro Park on February 17. But as a father who knows the pain of burying his own children only too well, I believe that it is important to ask if there is any room for improvement in our school bus safety procedures.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 2/26/10

Posted on: February 24th, 2010

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Controlling Your Teenager

Posted on: February 19th, 2010

As children move from infancy into middle and later childhood, they have a growing need for control over their environment. To meet this need, teenagers must be given reasonable power to make choices about what they eat, whom they play with, and what extracurricular activities they participate in.