Communicated: TefillaChillul Tefila Bifarhesia, as well as halachicly challenged verbiage and dress, are external manifestations of a critical lack of personal yiras shomayim which has lethal consequences.
The Emotional GPS for Finding Your Beshert
Posted on: January 4th, 2013
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsRecently, there a number of articles dealing with the difficulties singles are having getting married have appeared in various publications. Unfortunately, many young people in their 20’s (and some even in their 30’s) are struggling to find their bashert.
Posted on: December 28th, 2012
Sections → Family → Battling AddictionsMs. S. is 31 years old and has been hearing voices for the past 10 years. The voices come almost every day and they tell her that she is a failure, will never amount to anything, no one likes her or respects her. Ms. S. was diagnosed with schizophrenia. At the age of 21 she was told she has a disease of the brain and will need to take medication for the rest of her life.
Posted on: December 27th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsDear Dr. Yael: I am the oldest child in a family of seven; one of my sisters is a year younger than me. Even though we basically have the same responsibilities, somehow I always get stuck with all the household chores. My sister has a tendency to take her time, all the while doing one job. Honestly, sometimes it takes her three hours to do the dishes. She says it is because she is a “schlep.” She actually gets angry with her when I ask her to move quicker, saying that “I am not understanding of her feelings” and “she needs time.”
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
Posted on: December 27th, 2012
Sections → Family → Chronicles of Crises.
Technology: Important But Not Indispensable
Posted on: December 20th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsDear Dr. Yael: I am part of the “over 50” crowd and am having a really hard time with computers, cell phones and the rest of the modern-day technology. I work as a well-paid secretary, but am stuck in the same position with little room for advancement due to my poor computer skills. All the while I see all of my younger colleagues, with less experience, getting raises because they are more technologically advanced. Despite taking courses to improve in this area, I am finding it hard to succeed.
Posted on: December 20th, 2012
Sections → Family → Parenting Our ChildrenWhen an opportunity for a fresh start is handed to us, when that new door opens, it is often viewed as a gift from Hashem. In most cases in order to completely realize it, we must fully embrace it. For people transitioning into marriage the second time around this is often the reality they face: a new opportunity seldom comes without a price, without us having to, in some way, compromise the life we were accustomed to. Seamlessly blending “pre re-marriage” life with “post re-marriage, new blended family” life is difficult at best and often times takes many years to sort its’ way out.
Posted on: December 20th, 2012
Sections → Family → Battling AddictionsDear Brocha, Hello! My name is Dovid* and I am a Gambling Addict. I am 37 years old, with bli ayin hara, three wonderful children, and a special wife who is the source of my strength and recovery.
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
Posted on: December 20th, 2012
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Posted on: December 20th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsOne of the most powerful dimensions of a successful marriage is a couple’s ability to keep focused on each other's good points and unique personality traits. Too often, people become fixated on the negative, sweating “over the small stuff," and forgetting the positive points that brought them together in the first place.
From Socially Awkward To Socially Adept
Posted on: December 13th, 2012
Sections → Family → Parenting Our ChildrenConversations in my head always there but never to be said, Can't escape my childish dreams, my fantasies, the unreal realities, Talking to myself again no one seems to be around, I hide myself inside myself, never thinking I'll be found… -Jamie Sue Reinhart
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
Posted on: December 13th, 2012
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Posted on: December 13th, 2012
Sections → Family → Parenting Our ChildrenIn Part I of My Soul Is On Fire, I told my readers about Allan, a very distraught nineteen year old who, in a moment of dire pain, told me he felt his soul was on fire.
Posted on: December 6th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsDear Dr. Yael: I am a female driver dealing with challenges of derech eretz while driving in my community. Every time the light is about to turn green, the person behind me seems to immediately honk the horn, yet no one has a problem double-parking, making me feel as if I am driving on an obstacle course.
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
Posted on: December 6th, 2012
Sections → Family → Chronicles of Crises.
Self Esteem And Its Impact On Marriage
Posted on: December 6th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsSelf esteem is one of the most important factors influencing human behavior. Despite what some people believe, self esteem can be a critical issue in marriage, where unresolved identity issues from childhood can place unwanted stress on a relationship.
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Easing The Trauma Of Divorce: A Reaction
Posted on: November 30th, 2012
Sections → Family → Marriage and RelationshipsDear Dr. Yael: I am writing to you in regards to your article, “Easing The Trauma Of Divorce” (Dear Dr. Yael, 11-16). Now in my 30s, I am the product of a divorced home in which my parents made me, an only child, a pawn. Throughout my life the trauma and hatred I witnessed between my parents was unbearable. As a result, I am terrified to get married, despite the desire to do so in a normal and happy setting. I have gone for therapy, but this great fear is hard to overcome. I wonder if this feeling will ever leave me.
Posted on: November 30th, 2012
Sections → Family → Battling AddictionsDear Brocha, Thank you so much for your column and for shining light on this matter. Addiction has been gnawing at the souls of our community for a long time. Yet, it still remains a disease that is swept under the table.
Posted on: November 30th, 2012
Sections → Family → Parenting Our ChildrenAllan is a very troubled nineteen-year-old who has been coming to see me since August. Actually, I’m never sure if Allan will make it to the next appointment. Since we first met, I have been amazed at the amount of emotional turmoil and pain he is in. Every appointment seems to bring another “cry” for help. His anguish is noted by his constant crying and threats of harm to himself and others.
Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities
Posted on: November 30th, 2012
Sections → Family → Chronicles of Crises.
Boys And Reading: Is There Any Hope?
Posted on: November 23rd, 2012
Sections → Family → Parenting Our ChildrenIn a recent New York Times article, Robert Lipsyte, a sports author, posed the following question: “Boys and Reading: Is There Any Hope?” For years, I have been dealing with this question in my office. In fact, the U.S. Department of Education’s reading tests for the last thirty years show boys scoring worse than girls in every age group, every year.
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