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Editor’s note: With Tisha B’Avapproaching, this column appears in place of the bi-weekly Parenting Matters column.
“Eichah yashvah vadad – Alas; she sits in solitude” (Eicha 1:1). The haunting words of Megilas Eichah resonate in our hearts and minds as we prepare to sit on the ground this coming Tisha B’Av and commemorate the destruction of the second Beis Hamikdash 1,939 years ago.
Sadly, history is repeating itself once again. It was only one year ago that our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisrael were subjected to horrific destruction and terror with thousands of rockets raining down on them for over a month. A sea of enemies sworn to our destruction surrounds us. The leader of Iran repeatedly calls for the eradication (G-d forbid) of Israel, and publicly states that, “Israel’s destruction is the solution [to the conflict].” The vile, hate-filled, anti-Semitic rhetoric emanating from many leaders in the Arab world (and most of the “Arab Street”) is at least equivalent to that of the Nazi propaganda machine of the late 1930’s. The vast majority of nations would deny us the right to protect our women and children by any means possible.
It is hard to avoid the feeling that Klal Yisrael is isolated and alone again.
So what does this mean for us? How do we, who live in comfort and security in America, prepare to commemorate Tisha B’Av properly? What are the messages we ought to internalize, and what actions should we be taking?
I would divide the “takeaways” into two groups:
· Offer material and emotional support to our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisrael. Especially now, with the advent of the Internet, there is so much we can do. Purchase items online in Israeli stores. Support the organizations that are helping our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisrael, and daven for the soldiers who are risking their lives to protect them.
“Adopt” a family, community or school hard-hit by last year’s rocket attacks or still suffering from the effects of the 2005 disengagement. Two years ago, Yeshiva Darchei Noam, where I serve as menahel, “adopted” the elementary school of Atzmonah, Gush Katif, as they relocated to the Netivot area. We bought them school supplies and sports equipment. For Pesach, we partnered with a chesed organization and bought each of the children a new bicycle. Our children and theirs exchanged letters and cards throughout the year. It was greatly appreciated by them, and equally rewarding for my talmidim. Many schools and shuls in North America have conducted similar programs. The need is great and the time for action is now.
· On a more personal and spiritual note, I suggest we read the stirring and timeless words of our nevi’im in the haftaros of Shabbos Chazon and Tisha B’Av – and make a sincere cheshbon hanefesh (reckoning of the soul).
There are two recurring themes in these lines. One relates to the Jews of those times serving idols and forsaking Hashem. At least on the surface, this does not seem to be very relevant today. The second theme, on the other hand, is very much germane to our lives. It speaks to the fact that the Jews of those times were concentrating on spiritual trappings (bringing korbanos) and not on the essence of Hashem’s Torah (honesty, integrity and kindness).
“Why do I need your numerous sacrifices?” asks Hashem in Yeshayahu 1:11. The Navi exclaims that Hashem is “weary of your korbanos” (1:14) and that He “will not listen to your prayers” (1:15). Why was that so? It was certainly a great mitzvah to purchase and bring korbanos to the Beis Hamikdash. But, as the Navi relates, those mitzvos were mere adornments to the core values of our Torah. And the Navi clearly describes what the Jews needed to do in order to redeem themselves: “[P]urify yourselves seek justice, strengthen the victim, and take up the cause of the widow and orphan” (1:16-17).
I suggest that we engage in a constructive cheshbon hanefesh regarding the essential elements of the qualities noted by the Navi – honesty, integrity, true ahavas Yisrael, and supporting those among us who are weak and unable to conduct their lives with simchas hachayim. We should be asking ourselves if we are doing all we can to make a true kiddush Hashem in our interactions with non-Jews, non-religious Jews and frum Yidden who may be of different backgrounds – for these qualities are the essence of what Hashem’s Torah produces.
In these troubling times, surrounded by our enemies, isolated and alone, we ought to be striving to fulfill the timeless charge of Yirmiyahu in the closing words of Tisha B’Av’s haftorah. “For only with this may one glorify himself become wise and [get to] know Me [contemplate how to better emulate the ways of Hashem], for I am Hashem who does kindness, justice and righteousness ” (Yirmiyahu 9:23).
May Hashem dry our tears and comfort us with the rebuilding of the Beis Hamikdash.
© 2007 Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, all rights reserved
Rabbi Yakov Horowitz is the founder and menahel of Yeshiva Darchei Noam of Monsey, and the founder and director of Agudath Israel’s Project Y.E.S.
About the Author: Rabbi Yakov Horowitz is founder and dean of Yeshiva Darchei Noam and founder and director of Agudath Israel's Project Y.E.S.
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Dear Rabbi Horowitz:
We were taken aback when our 18-year-old son just called us from Eretz Yisrael (we live in Europe) and told us that he was coming home and wants to immediately go to work. He said that he is wasting his time in yeshiva, and just can’t take it anymore. He said that he will “run away from home” if we don’t allow him to go to work.
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