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The one trait I find that my two mothers-in-law seem to have in common and one that I feel I can relate to, is that they are both survivors. They are strong woman. Each has had to deal with difficult life challenges and each has faced those challenges with tremendous dignity and with their faith in G-d intact. I feel that there is still so much I can learn from each of them and I feel blessed to have them both in my life. May they each enjoy good health and happiness until 120.

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