Adult Children Caring For Parents (Part 2): When is it time to bring them home or to a care facility?
It is likely that your parent has lived in his or her current home for many years and has developed strong ties to community, family, friends, healthcare providers, social life and daily routine. Packing and moving out of their home is a significant chore for anybody, but for an older adult with decades of memories and possessions, moving can represent a tremendous emotional challenge. Furthermore, leaving one’s own home represents a decrease in independence and signals a new life stage. This can cause great sadness and cause a delay in the decision to relocate. While you help pack their decades of history, talk through the difficult feelings, acknowledge the loss that your parent is experiencing and reassure him/her that you are making the best decision possible. Allow time and opportunity for them to reminisce. Reassure them that you will still be involved in their life regardless of their living arrangements.
Despite the challenges, many adult children find that providing support and care for their parents is one of the most rewarding experiences they have ever had and provides you with the extraordinary opportunity to give back what your parent once provided to you. Grandchildren have the unique opportunity to learn and absorb family history and maybe even learn things about family that they never knew before. Your parent will need time to adjust to his/her new living environment and role with your family. Your patience and support will help make this transition smoother.
About the Author: Mutty Burstein is the Education Outreach Manager of the Patient Relations Department at Americare CSS, a Certified Home Health Agency and Attencia, the private pay division of Americare. The Americare Companies, founded in 1982, provide high quality home care services in the N.Y. metro area, including the 5 boroughs, Long Island, and Westchester, Rockland, Orange, Dutchess, Putnam, Sullivan, and Ulster counties. Americare integrates compassionate patient care with family needs and is ready to serve 24/7 with registered nurses, home health aides, PT's, OT's, speech therapists, and social workers. In addition to all the regular aspects of home care, Americare has a special license to work with patients with behavioral health issues and patients with dementia, Alzheimer’s, and/or depression, as well as the developmentally disabled. Mutty can be reached at 917-287-1636 or firstname.lastname@example.org for any questions regarding health care or eligibility for Medicare, Medicaid, and managed care.
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