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Spiritual Cafe: Jacob Returns to the Promise Land
France Demands Details From IAEA On Iranian Nuclear Activities

November 30, 2015 - 6:00 PM
ISIS and Iran: A New Era Ignites in Israel, America and the World

November 30, 2015 - 6:00 PM
Some Ultra-Orthodox Troubled by Bazooka’s New Kosher Certification

November 30, 2015 - 5:29 PM
Terrorists Sentenced for Plotting to Kill Jews on Temple Mount, Police on Patrol

November 30, 2015 - 5:14 PM
Speed Limit Raised to 80 Miles an Hour on Highway 6

November 30, 2015 - 3:29 PM
Media Go Haywire over Abbas-Netanyahu Handshake

November 30, 2015 - 3:15 PM
Ban Ki-Moon Condemns Terror around the World – Except in Israel [video]

November 30, 2015 - 2:17 PM
Foreign Ministry Recruiting Former Unit 8200 Soldiers for Social Media Battles

November 30, 2015 - 1:31 PM
After Surprise Visit to Jordan, Ben Carson Wants No Refugees in America

November 30, 2015 - 1:24 PM
Committee Expected to Approve Kotel Plaza 2-Story Beit Haliba Project

November 30, 2015 - 1:20 PM
Israeli Start-Up Finds Parking Places for Drivers

November 30, 2015 - 1:08 PM
World Leaders Gather for ‘COP-21 Paris 2015’ Climate Change Conference

November 30, 2015 - 12:47 PM
Bayit Yehudi’s Yinon Magal Announces Resignation from Knesset

November 30, 2015 - 11:27 AM
Israeli Court Convicts Jewish Murderers of Arab Teen Mohammed Abu Khdeir

November 30, 2015 - 11:04 AM
More Arab Media Incitement After Clashes in Jerusalem Neighborhood

November 30, 2015 - 10:00 AM
Israeli Paramedic Reflects on Treating Wounded Syrians

November 30, 2015 - 1:24 AM
Document Reveals IDF Collaboration with B’Tselem in Investigating Soldiers

November 29, 2015 - 10:17 PM
Peace Now Chief’s Attempt to Close Religious-Secular Gap Ripped by Leftists [video]

November 29, 2015 - 8:36 PM
Responding to Product Labeling Netanyahu Suspends Peace Process Negotiations with EU

November 29, 2015 - 8:29 PM
Dozens Arrested in ISIS Bombing of Tunisian Presidential Guard

November 29, 2015 - 7:08 PM
After Paris Attacks, Europe Showing More Interest in Israeli Security Solutions

November 29, 2015 - 7:05 PM
Israel Hunts for Office Space in Abu Dhabi as New Member of UN Agency

November 29, 2015 - 6:10 PM
Ya’alon Confirms: Russian Pilots Do Breach Israeli Airspace, But Are Not Shot Down

November 29, 2015 - 5:28 PM
Israelis Gear up for ‘GivingTuesday’ in the Jewish State

November 29, 2015 - 3:59 PM
Netanyahu: ‘Not Even One Meter’ of Area C to Palestinian Authority

November 29, 2015 - 2:32 PM
Jews and Arabs Join in ‘Patch Patrol’ Doing Repairs in Homes of the Elderly

November 29, 2015 - 1:59 PM
Israel’s Leviathan Developers Ink Gas Deal With Egypt

November 29, 2015 - 1:12 PM
15 Terror Suspects Captured in Judea, Samaria

November 29, 2015 - 12:24 PM
IDF Shuts Down Another Radio Station in the PA

November 29, 2015 - 10:45 AM
Update: Woman Wounded in Second Jerusalem Stabbing, Suspect Captured [photos]

November 29, 2015 - 10:26 AM
Video: BBC Watch Conference Cites Systemic Anti-Semitism in Coverage of Israel

November 29, 2015 - 10:13 AM
Canadian Synagogue Invites Muslims in after Mosque Firebombed

November 29, 2015 - 10:08 AM
Israeli Death Rates from Most Cancers, Heart Disease, Among Lowest in OECD

November 29, 2015 - 8:28 AM
Update: Terrorist Killed in Jerusalem’s Old City, Policeman Wounded, Children Saved

November 29, 2015 - 8:14 AM
Ex-Adviser to Palestinian Authority says ‘Accept ISIS as Ugly Reality’

November 28, 2015 - 11:00 PM
Shi’ite Muslim Cleric Calls Kerry a ‘Terrorist’

November 28, 2015 - 10:10 PM
An Angry Russia Moves S-400 Antiaircraft Missile Systems into Syria

November 28, 2015 - 9:50 PM
Arabic Writing Found Inside 4 EasyJet Fuel Panels

November 28, 2015 - 9:40 PM
‘Christian State’ Threatens to Kill Muslims in Belgium

November 28, 2015 - 9:27 PM
UAE Insists Israel’s Abu Dhabi Office Plan Does Not Mean Recognition

November 28, 2015 - 9:06 PM
‘Bad Timing’ of Christmas Hurts Chanukah Sales

November 28, 2015 - 9:04 PM
A Misquoted MK Michael Oren Analyzes President Obama

November 28, 2015 - 8:55 PM
Israel Allowing Russia to Fly Over Israeli Skies

November 28, 2015 - 8:48 PM
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On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer

Posted on: November 11th, 2009

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I have been to many singles get-togethers over the years, and have noticed an unfortunate tendency by both men and women to give members of the opposite gender a quick glance over. Each is then given the label of being a "loser," "winner" (one worth making the effort to meet), and those who are "OK, but not really my type; so why waste my time and energy?"


Posted on: October 28th, 2009

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I know that just the title of this article is going to cause an uproar in some circles, and I know that some people might be aghast at how I can even ask that question. To some it is obviously halachically unacceptable to postpone starting a family. After all, the Jewish people are exhorted to pru urevu - to be fruitful and multiply. So, let me say at the onset, this is something every engaged couple should discuss with their rav. Getting a heter - even for a few months- just might be a lifesaver.

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Posted on: October 14th, 2009


A few years ago I wrote in this column that at the bris of my oldest son - held in a shul whose members were for the most part elderly - a wizened old man approached me, peered into my face and muttered in a raspy voice with a Yiddish accent, "May your children sit shiva for you." I was too stunned to say anything to him and just shook my head as he walked away. I thought, "nebach, he must be demented."

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Posted on: September 23rd, 2009


In my previous column, I wrote that helping to foster a positive self-image in one's children is the greatest gift parents can give them. Similarly, self-like (not to be confused with narcissistic self-worship) is a key component in having a successful life.

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Posted on: September 9th, 2009


The new school year is starting and parents across the board are busy getting their children ready for school. New clothing, books and study aids like calculators have been bought and bus service and car pools organized. As the year progresses parents will do whatever it takes to help ensure their offspring do well in their Limudei Kodesh and secular studies, including helping with homework or even enlisting a tutor.

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Posted on: August 26th, 2009


Last time I wrote about the misguided attitude toward sports and exercise that seemingly permeates many frum circles. Some askanim view physical activity as unnecessary, needlessly diverting precious time from Torah study.

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Posted on: August 12th, 2009


A recent article that appeared on the haredi website, yeshivaworld.com, described how askanim in Israel had approached HaRav Aryeh Yehuda Leib Shteinman, shlita, armed with a kol korei against vacations during bein hazmanim. Their goal was to get his haskamah in their mission to stop bachurim from doing what they felt was an inappropriate and wasteful use of time - hiking, swimming, nature walking, sightseeing, etc. (generally vacationing from their studies).

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Posted on: July 29th, 2009


Maybe because Tisha B'av was on our minds, as were recent dismaying events both in Israel and closer to home, but what had started as a relaxed, light-hearted lunch with friends took a dark turn when someone mentioned a recent tragedy involving a young child. Another friend shared an equally horrible story. We acknowledged that lately we all had heard of so many "umglicks" - horrific events afflicting members of the community.

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Posted on: July 8th, 2009


The other day, while schmoozing with a friend, the conversation (as chats often do) turned to food. My friend talked about a delicious dish she had eaten as a guest during Shavuot. She mentioned how she planned to replicate it in her kitchen, but hadn't gotten around to it yet.

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Posted on: June 24th, 2009


Like most people on this planet whose abodes are wired to electricity, I have a computer and go online. It is amazing to me that information on any subject or on any matter can be instantly retrieved with a few clicks of a mouse.

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Posted on: June 10th, 2009


Human nature is such that we tend to procrastinate the attainment of important milestones and goals, such as an education or a shidduch. This is so because we delude ourselves into thinking that we have all the time in the world.

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Posted on: May 27th, 2009


I wait at the airport for the arrival of my youngest son, along with his wife and baby. Upon arrival, they will rent a car and make their way in an unfamiliar city to his oldest brother's house.

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Posted on: May 6th, 2009


My mother's recent yahrzeit after Pesach, coupled with Yom HaZikaron and recent Yom Tovim and Shabbatot spent with my children and grandchildren, has cemented my belief that I was robbed of a major life asset - my grandparents. While I knew that having them was a life-enhancing relationship, I didn't truly comprehend it until I became one.

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Posted on: April 22nd, 2009


Over the years, I have been to many, many theatrical productions, most in Toronto, some in Israel and of course, in New York - on Broadway, off-Broadway, and even off-off Broadway. At times I have been entertained, amused, moved, and educated by what I have seen ( and on the negative side, sometimes bored or disgusted or angered) but I don't think that I have ever been imbued with a much needed sense of hope.

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Posted on: March 18th, 2009


I know Purim is over, but Megillat Esther is so rich with lessons on how people should live their lives - along with the consequences of not doing so - that I wish to share one of the many wisdoms that I have gleaned from reading it. I believe that the world wouldn't be in the mess it is in - economically, socially and spiritually - if people would only open their eyes to the megillah's masterful insights on how to behave.

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Posted on: March 4th, 2009


In many countries around the world it is required by law to put warning labels on products, activities or places that can cause injury or death. Thus the labels of many medications and foods or items, such as cigarettes and alcoholic beverages, contain strong warnings on them saying that they are harmful. Likewise beaches that are unsafe to swim in due to a strong current, lack of a lifeguard, or high bacterial count also have signs posted cautioning people not to go swimming. Hospital rooms that contain radioactive products have signs warning about entering.

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Posted on: February 11th, 2009


I wrote a version of the poem below many years ago, before the term "shidduch crisis" came into vogue.

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Posted on: January 28th, 2009


In my case, the answer to the above question is, "Yes, too much pressure (in my case blood pressure) led me to indulge in not so smart (actually stupid) "avoidance" behavior.

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Posted on: January 14th, 2009


For me, the moments before sundown every Friday evening are like a "mini" Yom Kipper.

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Posted on: December 17th, 2008


I recently became a bubbe again with the birth of a granddaughter, Kayla Elisheva.

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