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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/16/10

Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

More ire and words of wisdom for Unfaithful (Chronicles 2-19-10)

Dear Rachel,

I take issue with your column becoming a forum for every sickening person to have his or her “2 minutes of fame” aired in public. That this person will have children who could grow up to be murderers is a given and he shouldn’t be surprised at the connection: the Commandment against murder (Lo Tirtzach) is directly followed by the Commandment against adultery (Lo Sinaf). The meforshim explain that should one commit adultery, the direct result will be to produce progeny who are murderers.

These are not only commandments given to us Jews; they are part of the seven Noahide Laws and are supposed to be practiced by all humankind. The writer flagrantly flaunts his disgusting behavior, boasts of not just “walking the streets” and “doing it” but is also coarsely proud of getting others to follow in his lewd footsteps.

Though I am not Chassidic, I have dozens of family members who are: they all married after meeting their respective spouses just 2 – 3 times and all are happy in stable marriages. It is so easy and totally unjustifiable to blame “the system” for one’s craven crimes against G-d and our people.

The writer accomplished precisely what he set out to do: to goad the public readership’s collective mind into the gutter with him. This letter should not have seen the light of day in a Torah-true publication like The Jewish Press!

Respectfully yours

Dear Respectfully,

Unfortunately the world we live in is not what it once was. With the advent of the Internet, many of our own – as letters to this column testify time and again – get caught up in the massive web of degeneracy. Can we really afford to pretend that the menace does not exist and to ignore those who attempt to reach out from the gutter to grasp at some semblance of sanity?

Can we delude ourselves into believing that if we close our eyes everyone will just hang in there, heal or that things will simply improve of their own accord? If we failed to turn the barrel over to pluck loose the rotten apple buried among the fresh ripe ones, would the rot not fester to putrefy all the healthy apples in the proximity of the decay?

Many readers, as a result of their letters to this column (see below for a perfect example), contribute their opinions as well as invaluable perspective learned from their own experiences, all of which are instrumental in some degree towards helping the floundering souls desperate for us not to ignore them or to pretend they do not exist.

Your concern and contribution are herewith acknowledged and appreciated.

Dear Rachel,

I invite the reader to visualize the following common scenario: Several children enjoying the yummy taste of their favorite dinner – grilled hot dogs – wonder in amazement at their grown-up peers standing around eating nothing. Do they know what they’re missing?

In reality, the grown-ups know well what hot dogs taste like but they are in on a little secret. They are saving their appetite for the gourmet steaks on the grill that take a little longer to cook. The pleasure of eating a prime cut rib steak cannot quite compare to the 5 or 10 hot dogs – even if you add the relish and mustard! But that’s only if you’re grown-up enough to understand what real eating is all about.

Dear Mr. Unfaithful,

I am sure you’ve experienced many “hot dog-type” pleasures. But I’d like to introduce to you the ultimate love affair that I doubt you are familiar with, based on the way you speak. You see I too have flirted with the temptations and pleasures you refer to as indispensable. But I have found a book that describes in vivid detail the road to ultimate pleasures that will make any pleasure you had until now seem like a mere hot dog in the shadow of the real experience!

You know how you get a little depressed after the sin is committed and the pleasure comes to an end because you have to go home? Deep in your subconscious there’s a gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction. After eating a 40 oz. steak, how much room is there for another 40 oz. steak? In one escapade, how much satisfaction can one achieve?

My book will show you how to increase your appetite and savor the pleasure of this ultimate affair without ever becoming “full.” Also, this book can teach you how to involve your wife and gain her consent to your affair!

I am recommending a novel approach in love affairs that is guaranteed to make you happy and satisfied with pleasures growing every day instead of going stale! All you have to do is follow the book’s instructions carefully and you will be on the road to a complete, pleasure-filled existence.

In the book you will actually be introduced to your new lover. This lover is guaranteed to love you 100% and provide all the pleasures you can dream of. In fact, even as you committed your various sins in the past, this Lover has been with you.

You may not be aware of it, but Hashem loves you very much because He kept your heart pumping even when some of your friends would have loved to see it stop.

The book I refer to is the Torah. Believe it or not, the recipe for the ultimate love affair is found right inside. All it takes is a little growing up to appreciate it! Chazal tell us that the ultimate pleasure is basking in Hashem’s glory.

The thrill of going undercover and secretly indulging your fantasies can also be found when you go against the grain of society and secretly harbor a love for Hashem and think about Him all your waking moments.

When you are ready to grow up and experience this ultimate pleasure, you can speak to any of the many rabbanim in our community and I am sure they will help you. You can also talk to me if you wish, as I am somewhat experienced in the counterfeit pleasures of the world, as well as my ever-growing love affair with the Almighty. I can be reached at levisblugenes@gmail.com.

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communties – 5/30/08

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

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A Reader’s Heartfelt Plea To ‘Esther’ (Chronicles 5-16)

Dear Esther,

I was and still am shaken to the core, as your words are most searing and painful to read. The hell that you have and continue to go through every waking moment is beyond anything that I or anyone else can comprehend. Indeed, there is not much advice that we can offer you, because this is territory that we have never treaded. Besides, you don’t need advice right now. What you need to know is that the fact that you have been hurting for 23 years, are hurting now and have had the courage to speak openly about this says that you still have a soul that is very sensitive.

“Aaron” must have seen something in you that you yourself may have yet to realize. But you have it in you, and this letter may just be the catalyst that you need. Although my advice is paltry in comparison with the issue raised, I would be neglecting my inner self if I did not at least make a small suggestion. If you truly believe in the power of love and redemption, then you must know that there may be something you can indeed do for “Aaron” and yourself.

It may give you some consolation to know that you can dedicate the rest of your life to making sure that other 20-year olds who are immature, materialistic, and “into themselves” do not make the same mistake you have made.

While you may not consider yourself to be a speaker or writer, your words are heartfelt and “devarim ha’yotzim min ha’lev nichnasim el ha’lev” (words that emanate from the heart enter wholly into another’s heart). There are organizations and even seminaries where your story can be told. You can wake up the misguided youngsters who are about to take the path you did so many years ago.

Instead of waiting to die in oblivion, you can do this for “Aaron” and at the same time validate your own life’s worthiness. If you have been reading this column of late, then you know that this issue of letting loved ones go is out there and can be very destructive if not dealt with properly.

Think about it. If you can save even one girl or boy from making the same mistake you made, you will have saved someone’s life. True, you can never bring back “Aaron” but you can prevent other Aarons and Esthers from making that fatal move. And if you do this, your life will take on some semblance of purpose and meaning, and most of all you will be connecting with “Aaron” in a way that you never allowed yourself to while he was alive − because all this will have resulted from “Aaron.” I know it is a small consolation, but at least then you will be able to greet “Aaron” after 120 and tell him that you spent the rest of your life helping others not to push away their bashert, all because of the beauty you saw in “Aaron” (albeit after his death).

You can still love a person who is no longer here, and you can dedicate your very purpose and essence to the love of G-d and this beautiful soul that He created. Redemption can sometimes take a lifetime, but you have what it takes and can dedicate yourself in the name of the one you let go. In this way, if you get just one person to realize the gravity of his or her situation, you will have vicariously “saved” a relationship from self-destructing. Then your love for “Aaron” will not die, as it will be alive in the relationships that you have helped to bring together and mend.

For the rest of your life, when you go to sleep each night (even after you may learn to love again and remarry), you will sense Aaron’s approval as he looks down on you together with Hashem, and you will feel an inner peace. There are too many young people who have not started dating or have not yet made the wrong decisions, and you can still help them and yourself in the process. You may never fully heal your wound, but you can dull its piercing sharpness.

Please let me know if I can be of any assistance. If you would like to contact my organization which is dedicated to helping people get mechillah and communicate within relationships, I will be happy to share some ideas with you and maybe see if we can get you to start assisting others so that they avoid the pain and heartbreak of this fatal mistake.

Most of all, know that while you breathe and still have a beating heart, you can make things right – at least on some level. Please feel free to contact me.

Jacob Hirsch Esq.

Shalom Mediation Center

917 257 0610

Dear Mr. Hirsch,

Your empathy, insight and kindness are a winning combination that should be of tremendous value both to your organization and in your personal life. May you find success at every turn in your lofty venture and reach great heights in your aspirations.

My fervent hope is that Esther will grasp the hand that you hereby extend so generously and that she will allow herself to face a new day with new hope in her heart for some self-fulfillment and happiness.

May the Almighty’s Hand guide you both.

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