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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 4/01/11

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

 

Freedom At Last

Dear Readers,

Back in June of 2010 we published an article from Isaac Kohn, who has become known to readers of this column for his avid championing for the protection and rights of the abused chareidi wife. Below, we briefly refresh the reader’s memory with an excerpt of that letter which is followed by a recent update from Mr. Kohn.

 

Ad mosay – how long must this ugly situation continue?

Last week at the Miklat, I met another young woman (20-21 years-old!) with a beautiful one-year-old daughter, whose short twenty-something years are tightly compacted with more beatings, terror and over-all mental abuse than most adults can ever imagine! 

Married to a hypocrite (he dresses as a chareidi but keeps absolutely none of the laws!), this girl became an immediate punching bag and the sponge for every imaginable abuse. Raised in a family where evil is considered a virtue, her pipsqueak husband enslaved his young wife (with his mother’s encouragement!) and turned her life into virtual hell. And it all began almost immediately after the wedding and continued in a non-stop pace for many months. The severe mental-abuse was only topped by the extreme physical cruelty visited on this young and innocent girl whose life quickly evolved into a nightmare — until literally extracted from the clutches of death by Bat-Melech.

 

Dear Rachel,

It’s only a crack but one of the best ever!

Back in June you printed one of my letters, which was simply another part of the saga I dubbed “A Visit To Hell.”

As in my previous letters to you, I described the unimaginably horrible situation in which another of our daughters found herself; the beatings and abuse her husband visited upon her may very well have ended in a tragedy had she not finally escaped to find refuge in Miklat-Bat Melech, the only safe-house for abused chareidi women in Israel. Here she found a warm, embracing atmosphere of people who’d give their lives to protect, encourage and rehabilitate the poor and wretched young women who desperately knock on their doors. The trials and tribulations this young 21-year-old (with her year-and-a-half-old daughter) had to endure until last week are beyond description. Escaping from her husband’s clutches was not enough; the evil that lies in the heart of people – particularly in the hearts of men – continued to haunt Shoshana and threatened to drown her. (Yes! I can now reveal her name!)

And here is the gist and focal point of this letter, Rachel. As I noted in my opening sentence, it’s only a crack, but it allowed Shoshana to break her shackles — she’s been set free!

Shoshana herself doesn’t know how it happened; her belief and trust in Hashem that He will sort out the truth from the many lies bore wonderful fruit. No Jewish tear goes to waste and the rivers of tears and endless nights of fear and trepidation that her husband will chas ve’sholom succeed in both taking away her daughter and never set her free were obviously picked-up by Hakodosh Boruch Hu.

In a sudden and inexplicable turn of events, the previous pro-husband biased judge was replaced and the new judge simply shuddered at the treacherous tactics employed by Shoshana’s husband in order to keep her captive. In a barely controlled rage, the judge berated the husband, voided all of his complaints, dismissed his accusations and ordered Shoshana to be set free immediately!

With a get in her hand and baby Leah in her arms, Shoshana arrived in New York a free woman ready to proceed with her life and raise her daughter in the proper way.

Rachel, as an epilogue, give me a few more lines to express Shoshana’s deep gratitude to the wonderful people at Bat-Melech who were there for her every minute of every day. They comforted, calmed and reassured her that Hashem is with her and her trust in Him will pan out. They guided her every step, cried with her and finally celebrated her victory and walked with her towards the plane on her way to freedom. G-d bless them!

 

Isaac Kohn

kohnisaac@optonline.net

 

Dear Mr. Kohn,

May G-d repay you for taking such an active interest in the downtrodden among us. As for the wonderful, selfless people who run Miklat-Bat Melech, allow me to sum it up by relating a short story about an incident that occurred when one of the talmidim of Reb Yosef Soloveitchik zt”l visited his former rosh yeshiva after marrying and becoming a successful businessman.

The Rebbe asked the young man how he was doing (in Yiddish “vos machs du?”), to which the talmid replied that he was doing well and baruch Hashem had much hatzlocha with the candy store he had opened.

A moment later, the RoshYeshiva repeated the question, and his visitor answered basically the same. When the Rebbe asked him for the third time “Vos machs du?” the talmid questioned the repetition of his Rebbe, to which the latter replied, “The store that is doing well is Hashem’s doing, not yours. I asked you about how you’re doing, which is entirely dependant upon you as it is your choice — such as learning Torah, doing mitzvos and performing tzedaka and chessed…”

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 6/04/10

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

Dear Rachel,

Once again, I’ve visited Hell!

I’m sure you will recall that in my previous letters to you I related my having visited “hell-on-earth.” Last week, I was there once again and this most recent visit to geihenom has solidified my view that in many ways this is a man’s world which entitles so many men to be evil. Yet, no matter how one fights against this phenomenon, the ugly problem simply refuses to dissipate and the crime festers and grows.

The hell I visited then and most recently is Miklat – Bat Melech, the only women’s-shelter in Israel organized and created exclusively to house and protect the countless observant women who are abused, beaten and terrorized by their husbands. This is a one of a kind shelter which has the unique and unfortunate distinction of exclusively serving the needs of religious women who would otherwise never be able to escape the daily terror they are experiencing at the hands of sadistic animals.

The time has come, I believe, to expose in minute details the evil of such husbands by prominently advertising their names, addresses and the evil they are committing. It is time to pull back the veil and expose who they are and what they have done. The time has come for rabbonim to sip from the cup of courage and ostracize and ban these murdering husbands from every shul and community. It is time for dayonim to end the bakshish (graft) they receive from sadistic husbands in order to turn a blind eye to reality. They must end their “husband-is-always-right” attitude and get down to the urgent business of freeing our daughters from the clutches of evil husbands.

Ad mosai – how long must this ugly situation continue? Why is my daughter, or yours, or yours, automatically branded by these heartless usurpers of Torah authority as a moredes, unfit mother or mirsha’as, no matter what the true picture is – a truth they refuse to listen to? How much longer must our daughters suffer the abuse and degradation they receive from these corrupt and heartless dayonim who turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to their bitter cries and thus perpetuate the endless abuse by the hands of their husbands? How long?

Last week at the miklat, I met another young woman (20-21 years-old!) with a beautiful one-year-old daughter, whose short twenty-something years are tightly compacted with more beatings, terror and over-all mental abuse than most adults can ever imagine!

Married to a hypocrite (he dresses as a chareidi but keeps absolutely none of the Laws!), this girl became an immediate punching bag and the sponge for every imaginable abuse. Raised in a family where evil is considered a virtue, her pipsqueak husband enslaved his young wife (with his mother’s encouragement!) and turned her life into virtual hell. And it all began almost immediately after the wedding and continued in a non-stop pace for many months. The severe mental-abuse was only topped by the extreme physical cruelty visited on this young and innocent girl whose life quickly evolved into a nightmare – until literally extracted from the clutches of death by Bat-Melech.

I can go on and on, Rachel. I am seething with anger at the knowledge that prominent rabbonim are refusing to help this young child. I am furious in the mere knowledge that her suffering can easily end were some of these so-called rabbis to get up and face the responsibility they were mandated by the Torah they profess to hold.

They are liars, Rachel. They hide behind their mantel of false respectability while young women like this girl are brutally victimized, terrorized and broken.

And I seethe at the knowledge that weaklings like her husband are encouraged by this inaction and thus allowed to walk the streets with impunity and without the fear of retribution.

Rachel, I know you are very careful not to print in any articles any identifying clues that will expose the victims, culprits and those whose hands are muddy with guilt.

However, we should no longer avoid naming names in articles like this. I think it is high time to prominently advertise in details the names of some of these heartless individuals. Let the neighbors know the truth about the innocent looking criminal residing next door. I’m sure that they would be horrified if a known convict were to move next door and be in close proximity to their children. Knowing that the innocent looking, yeshivishe-dressed young-man next door is actually a brutal and sadistic wife beater ought to shake them up too.

Let us also once and for all take off the gloves and expose to the world what goes on between the four walls of many Batei Dinim and the stench that emanates from their distortion of our Torah. Let us once and for all start the ball rolling in exposing those fakes who call themselves rabbis, yet don’t know the meaning of the word.

Where are the strong willed individuals who will take matters into their own hands and do whatever is necessary to “explain” to the errant husband that he must release his prisoner? I will guarantee you, Rachel, that after “explaining” the rules to two or three of these brutes, the rest will fall quickly into line.

So many of our shackled daughters are being destroyed! Enough!

Isaac Kohn

kohnisaac@optonline.net

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