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Marriage Compromises

Thursday, November 8th, 2012

Dear Dr. Yael:

I am struggling in my marriage after just five years. I am, by nature, a very outgoing person. I love to go out with friends and have people over for Shabbos meals. My husband, on the other hand, is quieter and would rather be home and stick to our routine. This causes a great deal of friction; between work and the kids, I do not have much of a social life and always want to invite people over or go out with other couples.

My husband likes to be alone and resents the fact that I want a fuller social life. I begrudge his not understanding my need to go out or have friends over. This has led to neither of us appreciating the other’s wants. When we were dating I knew that my husband was not as social as me, but I figured that opposites attract. I also didn’t want to be with someone who would always be running out of the house to be with his friends. I am happy that my husband wants to be home with me, but I wish that he would also enjoy going out – as a couple. I know I can’t force him to enjoy going out, but it bothers me when he doesn’t have a good time when I am able to convince him that we should share an evening out.

How can we solve this problem?

A Frustrated Social Butterfly

Dear Frustrated Social Butterfly:

Marriage is very challenging when spouses have different needs, but it is a positive sign that you are able to appreciate that your husband enjoys being a homebody. Since you cannot force your husband to have a good time going out with others, perhaps he would have more fun if the two of you go out alone and do something that is mutually enjoyable. It’s possible that your husband does not feel as comfortable as you in social situations and would feel less pressured and thus happier if it was just the two of you.

Here are some suggestions: consider asking your husband whether he and your friends’ husbands would be comfortable babysitting the children when you go out with your friends.

Another way to be more sociable is by inviting friends to join you for Shalosh Seudos or to you go visit a friend on Friday night after lighting the Shabbos candles. You should also ask your husband to meet you half way by sometimes having company over for meals.

If he agrees to any of these ideas, you will have more of the social life you desire.

It is important to understand that while your husband is your partner (and hopefully your best friend) he need not fulfill all of your needs. Instead, you can have some of them filled by friends (as I’ve described) in ways that will both meet your wishes and not make your husband unhappy.

As I said earlier, it can be difficult when each spouse has different wants. However, even you married someone with the same wants and needs, other issues would surface because no two people are exactly the same.

Hashem creates a match between two people in order for them to help each other grow and become better individuals. Perhaps you and your husband can learn from each other and try to make compromises, so that you both feel fulfilled and understood. Additionally, it might be a good idea for you to talk to your husband about his reason for not liking to go out or having company over. This might give you some insight into what makes him uncomfortable. And inquire as to whether he has a chavrusah or close friend that he would enjoy socializing with.

Use “I feel” messages when you speak with him so he does not feel defensive. While doing this, it is important that you approach him in a calm and gentle manner. Otherwise the conversation may lead to an argument.

It is essential that you and your husband understand that just because you have differences on the issue of socializing with others, doesn’t mean that you do not care about the other’s desires. And if you and your husband are expressing an “I don’t care” message, you need to strengthen your communication methods.

Closing Our Eyes To The New Haman (Part II)

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

Last week I described some prophecies concerning the wakeup calls that would come to our people when the arrival of Mashiach was near. Unfortunately, we have yet to attune ourselves to the sound of those footsteps.

Had you heard the prophecies of which I wrote when they were first uttered centuries ago, you might have laughed and scoffed. Even if you had read them as recently as 1970, you would have been hard put to believe it, for of all the Muslim countries, the Shah’s Iran was probably the friendliest to Israel and the U.S. But today the impossible has become possible, and events are unfolding so rapidly that we have difficulty absorbing their impact. So how are we to understand it all?

Before I answer that question, I must ask my readers’ forbearance. I am going to repeat some of the things I wrote on this subject a few months ago because I believe it is so absolutely crucial for our people to finally wipe the slumber from their eyes and realize what is going on.

The Yalkut compares our suffering to birth pangs. But birth pangs are deceptive; when the contractions begin, it’s easy to ignore them since they are mild and occur at long intervals. As birth becomes imminent, however, the contractions become more frequent, the pain more intense. And just when it appears the woman can no longer endure the pain, the baby is born and new life enters the world.

Labor pains are what we are now seeing in terms of world events. How long will the pains last? It’s anyone’s guess, but one thing is certain: please G-d, the birth is sure to take place. In the interim, however, we may ask whether it’s possible to ease the suffering and to protect ourselves from these painful contractions.

Every woman in labor needs help to ease her pain and speed the birth of her child. So too we need help to lessen our pain and hasten the coming of Mashiach. We have been blessed by our sages, who have the perfect formula to assure us an easy and painless birth. “Let he who wishes to be spared the birth pangs of Messiah occupy himself with Torah and gemilas chasadim (acts of loving-kindness) and let him be scrupulous about Seudah Shlishis – the third Sabbath meal.”

The first two recommendations – Torah and gemilas Chasidim – are self-explanatory and do not require much elaboration, for he who is committed to Torah and mitzvos and to reaching out with loving-kindness, must, of necessity, become a better, more spiritual person.

But eating a third Sabbath meal is not as readily comprehensible. We are enjoined to have three seudos on the Sabbath: Sabbath eve (Friday night), Sabbath noon (following prayer in the synagogue) and the third seudah in the late afternoon as the Sabbath Queen prepares to depart. Through these three meals, we honor the three Patriarchs, the three sections of our Holy Writ (Torah, Prophets, and the Writings), and we also recall the three Sabbath meals of manna G-d provided us during our sojourn in the wilderness (Exodus 16:25).

The final Sabbath seudah is called Shalosh Seudos, which translated literally means “three meals” rather than Seudah Shlishis – the third meal. Our sages explain that the reason for this is that all three Sabbath seudos are embodied in this one.

This third meal presents a most auspicious time for prayer. And to this day, when I close my eyes, I can hear the sweet voices of my revered father and beloved husband of blessed memory leading their congregations in singing Psalm 23, the psalm that is traditionally chanted at Shalosh Seudos: Hashem is my Shepherd, I shall not want…”

The task of the shepherd is a lowly and lonely one. Day in and day out he is destined to wander from place to place seeking pasture for his flock; and yet David did not hesitate to refer to G-d as a shepherd, for he perceived that G-d’s love is so total, so encompassing, that when it comes to caring for His children, nothing is beneath Him.

What a magnificent and fortifying thought – for no matter where life takes us, even if we have to walk in the treacherous valley overshadowed by death, we need not fear, for G-d, our Shepherd, will always be there to lead us to greener pastures, even if at first we do not realize the pastures will be greener.

Still, it is difficult to comprehend how the mere eating of a third meal, singing Psalm 23, and discussing words of Torah could have such awesome power that they can actually protect us from the suffering that will accompany the birth pangs. But there is a profound lesson at the root of this teaching.

The first two Sabbath seudos are eaten when we are hungry, but after a festive noontime seudah, we are hardly in the mood for yet another meal. So it is not to satiate our hunger that we gather around the Shalosh Seudos table. Rather, it is to celebrate the Sabbath and sing her praises, and that is why the Third Meal encompasses them all. The Third Meal is symbolic of the conversion of the physical to the spiritual and, ultimately, that is our purpose – to become spiritual beings and to free ourselves from the shackles of materialism – and that is something that our generation, obsessed with materialism and the pursuit of pleasure, has yet to learn.

Crises And Wake-Up Calls: The Only Answer

Wednesday, December 7th, 2011

For the past several weeks I have been discussing the various crises currently engulfing us. With this column I will conclude the series (at least for now). What I write is based not on whim or opinion but on that which is rooted and documented in our Torah.

There is an amazing prophecy in the Yalkut Shimoni – a Midrashic compilation that eerily foretells the events of today: Rabbi Yitzchok said, “The year in which Melech HaMashiach will be revealed, all the nations of the world will be provoking each other. The king of Persia (Iran) will provoke the king of Arabia (Saudi Arabia). The king of Arabia will go to the King of Edom (the leader of the Christian nations – the president of the United States) to take counsel, and the king of Persia (Ahmadinejad) will threaten to destroy the entire world.

The nations of the world will be outraged. They will fall on their faces in panic and experience pains like birth pangs. Israel too, will be outraged and in a state of panic ask, Where do we go?

“But say unto them, ‘My children, do not fear. The time of your redemption has come…. and this last redemption shall be different from the first that was followed by further bondage and pain. After this last redemption, you will not experience any further pain or subjection” (Yalkut Shemoni, Isaiah 59).

The Klausenberger Rebbe, zt”l, referring to this teaching, said, “Remember these words. They are perhaps not understood now, but in time they will be and be a source of strength to our people.”

Had you heard these prophecies centuries ago, when they were written, you might have scoffed. Even if you read them as recently as 1970, you would have been hard put to believe it, for of all the Muslim countries the Shah’s Iran was probably the friendliest to the U.S. and Israel. But today the impossible has become possible, and events are unfolding so rapidly we have difficulty absorbing their impact. How are we to understand it all?

The Yalkut compares our suffering to birth pangs. But birth pangs are deceptive; when the contractions begin, it’s easy to ignore them because they are mild and occur at long intervals. As birth becomes immanent, however, the contractions intensify and the pain becomes more intense. And just when it appears the woman can no longer endure the pain, the baby is born and new life enters the world.

It is these labor pains to which we are witness today. How long will they last? It’s anyone’s guess, but one thing is certain – please G-d, the birth is sure to take place. In the interim, however, we may ask, “Is it possible to ease the suffering? Is it possible to protect ourselves from these painful contractions?”

For that too, our sages have an answer: “Let he who wishes to be spared the birth pangs of Messiah occupy himself with Torah and gemilas chasadim (acts of loving-kindness) and let him be scrupulous about Seudah Shlishis – the third Sabbath meal.”

The first two recommendations – Torah and gemilas chasadim – are self-explanatory and do not require much elaboration, for he who is committed to Torah and mitzvos and to reaching out with loving kindness must, of necessity, become a better, more spiritual person.

But eating a third Sabbath meal is not as readily comprehensible. We are enjoined to have three seudos – Sabbath eve, Sabbath noon, and the third seudah in the late afternoon as the Sabbath Queen prepares to depart. Through these three meals we honor the three Patriarchs, the three sections of our scriptures and the three Sabbath meals of manna G-d provided us during our sojourn in the wilderness (Exodus 16:25).

This final Sabbath seudah is called Shalosh Seudos, which translated literally means “Three Meals” rather than Seudah Shlishis – the third meal. Our Sages explain that the reason for this is that all three Sabbath seudos are embodied in this one.

This third meal presents a most auspicious time for prayer. And to this very day, when I close my eyes, I can hear the sweet voices of my revered father and my beloved husband, of blessed memory, leading their congregants in singing Psalm 23, the psalm traditionally chanted at the Shalosh Seudas: “The L-rd is my Shepherd, I shall not want…”

The task of the shepherd is a lowly and lonely one. Day in and day out he is destined to wander from place to place, seeking pasture for his flock, and yet David did not hesitate to refer to G-d as a Shepherd, for he perceived that G-d’s love is so total, so encompassing, that when it comes to caring for His children, nothing is beneath Him.

What a magnificent and fortifying thought – for no matter where life takes us, even if we have to walk in the treacherous valley overshadowed by death, we need not fear, for G-d, our Shepherd, will always be there to lead us to greener pastures, even if at first we do not recognize the pasture is green.

Still, it is difficult to comprehend how the mere eating of a third meal, singing Psalm 23, and discussing Words of Torah can actually protect us from the suffering that will accompany the birth pangs.

But there is a profound lesson at the root of this teaching. The first two Sabbath seudos are eaten when we are hungry, but after a festive noontime seudah we are hardly in the mood for yet another meal. So it is not to satiate our hunger that we gather around the Shalosh Seudos table. Rather, it is to celebrate the Sabbath and sing her praises, and that is why the Third Meal encompasses them all.

The Third Meal is symbolic of the conversion of the physical to the spiritual. Ultimately, that is our purpose – to become spiritual beings and to free ourselves from the shackles of materialism. It is something our generation, obsessed with materialism and the pursuit of pleasure, has yet to learn.

You might of course wonder, Why must we experience birth pangs in order for Messiah to come? Why can’t he just announce his presence? But the Messianic period will be very much like Shalosh Seudos, when we sit around the table not to satiate our physical hunger nor to glory in our material achievements, but to celebrate our spiritual attainments.

In order for that to happen, we will have to divest ourselves of all the icons we hold dear. Therefore, our hallowed institutions, the bastions of strength in which we placed our trust, will have to fall away. It is that painful disintegration to which we are witness today. The corporate world, government, religious institutions, science, medicine – all have failed us. And worse, we no longer feel safe or secure in our daily lives. Terrorists and suicide bombers have become a reality of our existence and no army or police force is capable of defending us from them.

Additionally, we are witness to constant horrific natural disasters; we see the devaluation of our assets, be it the dollar or the Euro; we see dictators who for generations ruled with an iron fist falling like dominos as they are overtaken by Muslim fanatics. Yes, prophecy is unfolding before our eyes.

How long will these birth pangs last? Until we recognize the simple truth – that we can rely on no one but our Heavenly Father. So let us sound the shofar, awaken ourselves from our lethargy, and heed the voice of our Father calling us. And that is the only answer to the question What are we to do?

Even as I write these words, I realize it may seem like a simplistic response and will disappoint and irritate many. But there is no way that we, the Jewish people, can escape our destiny. G-d appointed us to be His light on this planet, a light that illuminates the world with His Torah; a light that proclaims G-d is One and His Name is One.

That is our calling and we cannot escape it.

Kamenitzer Rosh Hayeshiva In L.A.

Friday, November 25th, 2011

The Los Angeles Jewish community recently welcomed the Kamenitz-Yerushalayim rosh hayeshiva, HaRav Yitzchok Scheiner, for a five-day visit. Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz and his wife were the rosh hayeshiva’s hosts.

The Kamenitzer rosh hayeshiva delivering a hesped for Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel, zt”l, at Yeshiva Gedolah of Los Angeles.

The rosh hayeshiva spent Shabbos davening with various kehilos, many of whom support his Torah efforts. The rosh hayeshiva ushered in Shabbos at the Young Israel of Hancock Park, followed by Shabbos morning davening at Shaarei Torah. His Shabbos afternoon shiur took place at Kollel Los Angeles. He then proceeded for Minchah and Shalosh Seudos at Kehillas Yaakov. During his visit, the respected Torah figure also spoke divrei chizuk at the chassidishe kollel, Kollel Yechiel Yehuda.

A large throng heard HaRav Scheiner deliver a hesped for Mirrer Yeshiva Rosh Yeshiva Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel, zt”l, at Yeshiva Gedolah of Los Angeles. Rabbi Zev Leff, rav of Moshav Matityahu, also addressed the assemblage.

The rosh hayeshiva also visited the Pico-Robertson Jewish community, and addressed the members of the Kollel Merkaz HaTorah at Beth Jacob of Beverly Hills.

During his visits to the numerous yeshivos and day schools in Los Angeles, the rosh hayeshiva wished berachah and hatzlachah to all.

The Tragic Vacuum (Part Four)

Monday, April 18th, 2011

In last week’s column I began my response to the woman who wrote expressing her fears regarding the escalation of anti-Semitism and hatred of Israel throughout the world. I explained that our Sages and Prophets predicted it; they tell us that what we are witnessing today isikvesi d’Mashiach – a period in which we can hear the footsteps of the Messiah and experience the birth pangs that will precede the coming of that great day.

At the conclusion of the column I asked how long the labor will last, and how we can protect ourselves from the suffering that will accompany that period.

For that too, our sages have an answer. “Let he who wishes to be spared the birth pangs of Messiah occupy himself with Torah and gemilas chasadim (acts of loving-kindness) and let him be scrupulous about Seudah Shlishis – the third Sabbath meal.”

The first two recommendations – Torah and gemilas chasadim – are self-explanatory and do not require much elaboration, for he who is committed to Torah and mitzvos and to reaching out with loving-kindness must, of necessity, become a better, more spiritual person. But eating a third Sabbath meal is not as readily comprehensible.

We are enjoined to have three seudos on the Sabbath – Sabbath eve (Friday night), Sabbath noon (following prayer in the synagogue) and the third onein the late afternoon as the Sabbath queen prepares to depart. Through these three meals we honor the three Patriarchs, the three sections of our Scriptures (Torah, Prophets, and the Writings), and we recall the three Sabbath meals of manna G-d provided us with during our sojourn in the wilderness (Exodus 16:25).

The final Sabbath seudah is called Shalosh Seudos, which translated literally means three meals, rather than Seudah Shlishis,the third meal. Our sages explain the reason for this is that all three Sabbath seudos are embodied in this one.

This third meal presents a most auspicious time for prayer. To this day, when I close my eyes I can hear the sweet voice of my revered father and my beloved husband, of blessed memory, leading their congregations in singing Psalm 23, the psalm that is traditionally chanted at the Shalosh Seudos.

“The L-rd is my Shepherd, I shall not want…” The task of the shepherd is a lowly and lonely one. Day in and day out he is destined to wander from place to place seeking pasture for his flock, and yet David did not hesitate to refer to G-d as a shepherd, for he perceived that G-d’s love is so total, so encompassing, that when it come to caring for His children, nothing is beneath Him.

What a magnificent and fortifying thought – for no matter where life takes us, even if we have to walk in the treacherous valley overshadowed by death, we need not fear, for G-d our Shepherd will always be there to lead us to greener pastures, even if at first we do not recognize the pasture as being green.

Still, it is difficult to comprehend how the mere eating of a third meal, singing Psalm 23, and discussing words of Torah have such awesome power that they can actually protect us from the suffering that will accompany the Messianic birth pangs. But there is a profound lesson at the root of this teaching. The first two Sabbath seudos are eaten when we are hungry, but after a festive noontimeseudah we are hardly in the mood for another meal. So it is not to satiate our hunger that we gather around the Shalosh Seudos table. Rather, it is to celebrate the Sabbath and sing her praises, and that is why the Third Meal encompasses them all.

The Third Meal is symbolic of the conversion of the physical to the spiritual, and ultimately that is our purpose – to become spiritual beings and to free ourselves from the shackles of materialism. This is something our generation, obsessed with materialism and the pursuit of pleasure, has yet to learn.

But why must we experience birth pangs in order for Messiah to come? Why can’t he just announce his presence?

The Messianic period will be very much like Shalosh Seudos, when we sit around the table not to satiate our physical hunger nor to glory in our material achievements, but to celebrate our spiritual attainments.

In order for that to happen, we will have to divest ourselves of all the icons we hold dear. Therefore, our hallowed institutions, the bastions of strength in which we placed our trust, will have to fall away. It is that painful disintegration to which we are witness today. The corporate world, governments, religious institutions, science and medicine – all have failed us. And worse, we no longer feel safe or secure in our daily lives. Terrorists and suicide bombers have become a reality of our existence and no army or police force is capable of shielding us from them.

Shorn of all of our defenses, we stand vulnerable and terrified, and wonder what life is all about as we see our idols crumble before our very eyes.

How long will these birth pangs last? Until we recognize the simple truth – that “we can rely on no one but our Heavenly Father.” So let us sound the shofar, awaken ourselves from our lethargy and heed the voice of our Father calling us.

But even as we do so, let us not despair. There is an amazing Midrash that recalls the story of three great biblical figures, Reuven, Aaron and Boaz – about whom the sages said, had they only known the Torah would record their deeds, they would have done even more.

How can we understand such puzzling teachings? How can it be that such spiritual giants would have needed the additional incentive of being inscribed in the Torah to conduct themselves more nobly?

It has often occurred to me that there is a deep lesson to be gleaned from this Midrash that could be a great source of spiritual strength in our troubled times.

When Reuven discovered that the pit into which his brother Joseph had been cast was empty, he was overcome by inconsolable grief and cried out (Genesis 37:30), “The lad is gone! And I – where can I go?” But had Reuven known Joseph was on his way to Egypt to prepare the path for the family of Jacob – a path that would eventually lead the nation to Sinai – he would have rejoiced.

When Aaron went to greet Moses upon his return to the Auschwitz of Egypt, his heart fell, for he feared for the life of his younger brother. Had he only known Moses was coming to redeem the nation, he would have greeted him with an orchestra.

Had Boaz, from whose fields Ruth gleaned, known Ruth would one day become his wife and the great-grandmother of King David, he would have been overjoyed and made her a magnificent festive meal.

Had they only known what the Torah had mapped out for them, their hearts would have been filled with elation rather than trepidation.

Similarly, all our journeys, be they personal or national are guided by G-d. There is an ultimate goal – a destination at which we will all arrive. It is not for naught that we are launched on our paths. Our struggles are not in vain. So when our journeys become difficult, when our hearts tremble with fear, let us recall Reuven, Aaron and Boaz. Let us remember that we have not yet witnessed the end – and the end will be good.

We are experiencing birth pangs. Let us hold fast, for very soon we will see blessed new life that will make all our sacrifices and suffering worthwhile.

Finally, dear friends, every day when you daven, read the little closing paragraph withgreat concentration: “Do not fear sudden terror or the holocaust of the wicked when it comes. It shall not stand, for G-d is with us.”

You need only believe it. You need only place your full trust in G-d. Follow the light of His Torah and that light will pierce even the most dense darkness.

The Third Meal

Wednesday, February 11th, 2009

Everyone is concerned about the economy. There seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel, and to one extent or another, we are all impacted. This concern is not imaginary. It’s only too real, but there is an even greater danger that looms ahead, which has been obscured by our absorption with the economic meltdown. Ahmadinejad’s avowed plan to wipe Israel off the map remains unchanged. Even as Washington makes plans to engage Iran in dialogue, Ahmadinejad puts forth pre-conditions for such negotiation, ” that the U.S. stop supporting the Zionist outlaws and criminals.” At the same time, the Iranian government-controlled media reported that Iran has no intention of bringing its nuclear program to a halt.

While the entire world may dismiss these threats as the ranting of a madman, we, the Jewish people, can’t afford to do so. Alas, we have had too many madmen in our history that made good on their threats. From Pharaoh to Hitler, we have encountered them all… so no, we can’t afford to ignore Ahmadinejad. But what, you might ask, can we do?

I do not pretend to have any military expertise, and as it would be unconscionable for a layman to give halachic rulings, I believe it would be irresponsible to proffer advice to the IDF. But, and here is the big but, there are things I do know, not because I have special insight or knowledge that others lack – but rather, because what I advocate is based upon timeless truths – wisdom available to every Jew if s/he would only study our holy books.

In my last articles, I related a three-fold formula that our Talmud guarantees will protect our lives even in the most turbulent days of the pre-messianic period. I have already addressed the first two principles: Torah and Gemilas Chassadim, and now, let us consider the third: “To be scrupulous regarding Shalosh Seudos – the third Shabbos meal.”

However, before we focus on the meaning of this third Shabbos meal, let us consider the concept of Shabbos.

Our sages teach that the power of Shabbos is such that if all our People would observe it, we would immediately merit redemption and the coming of Messiah. In the Torah, Shabbos is referred to as an “Os – A sign [between G-d and the Jewish people].” What is the meaning of a “sign?” Or better still, what is a “sign?”

For example, the ring on a woman’s finger is a sign that she is engaged or married. Bride and groom, husband and wife may have altercations, and even a breakdown in their relationship, but as long as the ring remains on the woman’s finger, it indicates that she is still engaged or married. However, the moment she removes the ring, the moment the “os” is no longer on her finger, she is announcing that the engagement is off, or the marriage has been terminated.

Shabbos is the “os” the “sign” on the Jewish finger testifying that the individual belongs to Hashem. The magic of Shabbos is so all-encompassing that even Achad HaAm, a secular Jewish philosopher, wrote, “More than the Jew has kept Shabbos, Shabbos has kept the Jew.”

Yes, Shabbos has kept us and is the secret of our strength. Shabbos has enabled us to survive the vicissitudes of time and transform the dingiest, darkest hovel into a place of light and blessing. And this is not just polemics – I walked the walk, I talked the talk.

People have often asked me how I survived that satanic time of the Holocaust with my faith intact. Obviously, the immediate answer is, “By the mercy and chesed of Hashem.” But then I would also relate a story:

In Bergen-Belsen, my revered father, HaRav HaGaon Avraham HaLevi Jungreis, zt’l, would hide a portion of his meager daily ration of bread. Even as he did so, he would tell us children to count the days…. 6 more days, 5 more days, 4 more days, etc. and soon it will be Shabbos.

When Shabbos actually came, he would gather us in that hellhole and whisper in Yiddish, “Meine lichtige kinderlach – My precious lights, my children, mach tzee dee oigelech – close your eyes and imagine that we are at home. Mama just baked delicious challah…” And even as he spoke, he would bring forth those precious crumbs that he had saved at great sacrifice throughout the entire week and in his sweet beautiful voice, my father would sing, “Shalom Aleichem …Welcome angels of Shabbos…”

On one occasion, my younger brother, tugged at my father’s hand and said, “Tatty, I don’t see any malachim here. Where are the angels of Shabbos?”

My father’s eyes filled with tears and in a trembling voice, he answered, “Etz, lichtige kinderlach – You, my precious lights, you are the angels of Shabbos.”So it was that in Bergen- Belsen, we became angels of Shabbos.

Those words of my father were not only for us, in Bergen-Belsen. They speak for all time, for eternity. They call out to every Jew in every generation and remind him of his majestic calling and mission. No matter where destiny may take a Jew, no matter in what situation he may find himself, no one can rob him of his higher purpose – to be a malach of Shabbos, an angel of Shabbos – a source of blessing and serenity.

Yes, Shabbos is so holy, so awesome, that it has the power to transform us into malachim. And more, Shabbos can enable us to overcome all obstacles, triumph over enemies, and bring about our redemption.

Still you might ask, why is Shalosh Seudos, the third Sabbath meal, singled out for special mention?

We are enjoined to have three seudos on the Sabbath – Friday night, Sabbath Noon, and the third seudah in the late afternoon as the Sabbath Queen prepares to depart. Through these meals we honor the three Patriarchs and the three sections of the Scriptures -Torah, Prophets, and the Writings. At the same time, we recall the three Sabbath meals of manna with which G-d provided us during our sojourn in the wilderness (Exodus 16:25).

This final Sabbath Seudah is called Shalosh Seudos, which translated literally, means “Three Meals,” rather than Seudah Shlishis – the third meal. Our sages explain that is because all three Sabbath seudos are embodied by this one.

Still, it is difficult to comprehend how the mere eating of a third meal, and singing Psalm 23 (traditionally chanted at Shalosh Seudos) could have such awesome power that they can actually protect us from the suffering that will accompany the birth pangs. But there is a profound lesson at the root of this teaching. The first two Sabbath seudos are eaten when we are hungry, but after a festive noontime seudah, we are hardly in the mood for yet another meal.

So, it is not to satiate our hunger that we gather around the Shalosh Seudos table. Rather, it is to celebrate the Sabbath and sing her praises, and that is why the third meal encompasses them all. The Third Meal is symbolic of the conversion of the physical to the spiritual, and ultimately, that is our purpose – to become spiritual beings and to free ourselves from the shackles of materialism.

In the period preceding the coming of Messiah, that is exactly what will occur. We will all have to understand “Ein od Milvado – there is no reality outside of G-d.”

All our hallowed institutions, the bastions of strength in which we placed our trust, will fall away. It is that painful disintegration which we witness today. From natural disasters to the collapse of the corporate world, government, religious institutions, science and medicine – we have seen failure everywhere, and worse, we no longer feel safe or secure in our daily lives. Shorn of all our defenses, we stand vulnerable and terrified and wonder what next.

How long will these birth pangs last? Until we recognize the simple truth – that “we can rely on no one but our Heavenly Father.” Perhaps you are smiling and saying to yourself, “How simplistic.” But there is nothing simplistic about basic truths. Often that which appears simple is the most complex. Alas, ours is a generation that has expertise in every field… we pride ourselves on our knowledge of science, technology, business, etc., but we have tragically forgotten the simple truths of life given to us by G-d Himself.

To be sure, you and I have no control over the policies enacted in Washington, Jerusalem or for that matter, any other part of the world. But that is totally irrelevant, for our redemption shall not come from the governments of the world, but rather, from Hashem Himself. And for that, we must apply this three-fold formula: Torah, Gemilas Chassadim, Shabbos and the Third Meal. These three principles are part of our Jewish DNA and precisely because of that, it is within the power of each and every one of us to give renewed life to them and thereby revitalize ourselves, our people, and the world.

Should you feel that you already observe and there is nothing further for you to do, you are wrong! There is room for all of us to sharpen, beautify, and elevate our commitment. If we would only honestly scrutinize our hearts, we would quickly realize how much we are lacking and how much more we must do to fulfill the purpose for which G-d created us.

It’s all so easy, and yet, it is all so hard, for we obstinately refuse to understand that “Ein Od Milvado – There is no force, there is no power, that can help us but G-d.”

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