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Wednesday, May 16th, 2012

You want strange news? I’ll give you strange news:

According to a complaint filed in Federal Court, Nancy Genovese, a mother of three, was arrested for taking a picture of the decorative shell of a helicopter on display in full public view near the entrance of the Gabreski Airport in Suffolk County, New York.

While shooting the chopper from her car, she was approached by a Southampton Town Policeman, who demanded to know why she was taking photographs. The cop notified the Suffolk County Sheriff’s Office and the authorities at Gabreski Airport that Nancy was posing a terrorist threat.

Among those responding to the call were airport officials, Homeland Security, the FBI, the Southhampton Police Department, and the Westhampton Police Department. Genovese and her 18- and 20-year-old sons were questioned for six hours by the side of the road by everybody in range wearing a uniform. It’s not a very busy airport. it’s not like they had better things to do.

This went on for quite some time, and involved many different kinds of humiliation and threats, including a lot of needless jail time and being placed on suicide watch – and also some cash is missing, don’t ask. Read the whole thing, if you’re into this kind of entertainment (of course you are). But the lesson we take from this really bizarre story is:

Cops Scare Easy.

Seriously, it’s something I’ve learned a long time ago, and just goes with their territory. Cops Scare Easy, and so when you run up against one of them, think of him as Bambi, fragile, and frightened out of his mind. But it’s Bambi with a sidearm, so be even sweeter.

EAT, PRAY, LOVE, WED

Tania, a female Jewish Orthodox student at Yeshiva University with an international background. She says she attended a wide range of Orthodox institutions from the right to the left. In her blog, Thinking Jew Girl, she goes into School, Peace in the Middle East, Orthodoxy (whatever that means), women’s rights, shidduchim, engagements, weddings (that’s three different aspects of the same gigantic issue), food, politics and anything else (I think she may have left out only figure skating and philately).

Yesterday, a reader wrote her: “I’m worried I will never get married. Do you have any suggestions of how I can avoid this nagging feeling? Do you have the same problem?”

If I had a dollar for every time some friend told me she was afraid she’d never get married… My humble opinion is that getting a good shidduch is a lot like finding the right home: the range of the supply depends on the demand. Or, in other words, it’s all about expectations and standards.

I’m saying it even though I actually found my loved one of many, many years all by myself, without the help of a shadchan. Back then we were a little looser, if you know what I mean. And I’ve stuck by the same lovely person ever since (we’re in our fourth decade together, in case you’re curious).

Tanya writes back: “I totally understand and empathize with your feelings of frustration.”

She continues with a heart breaker:

“About a year ago, I went out with this guy who was ten years older than me… It was the best first date of my life. He had huge warm eyes, a friendly demeanor, a genius mind, he was tall and cute, and the conversation had this awesome flow, positive energy, and I was sitting there thinking ‘Oh my Gosh! This guy is SO cute!’”

But then… “A month later at midnight he dumped me.”

To find out how Tanya managed that one and what she’s doing every day to stay sane and not slip behind in her YU work, visit her blog and say hi from Tibbi.

GET THAT GET

First, here’s the NY Post report, condensed version:

Four guys in black ski masks, tied up and beat Robert Klein, 25, an Orthodox guy from Brooklyn, until he told a rabbi he was giving his wife a get.

Twisted Media: The Skinny Truth

Wednesday, November 16th, 2011

I’m going to tell you something that the media doesn’t want you to know. The image of the perfect woman they promote as healthy – That’s not actually that healthy. I mean, we all want to look good and feel good, but the body image that the media shows today is truly horrible. Despite what it wants us to think, we don’t need our bones showing, or knees that are wider than our thighs. Of course, it’s important to exercise and eat healthy (fruits, vegetables, protein, etc.) and stay in shape, but we definitely do not need to take it to the anorexic level.

Just a few hundred years ago, and even in some countries today, being plump indicated that one had the ability to afford good food, and was therefore wealthy; because of this, voluptuous women were considered beautiful. If you look at sculptures and paintings created by artists like Michelangelo, you can see that the women they portrayed were actually pretty big! Back then, if you were skinny, people assumed you were poor, and therefore not desirable. Obviously, I am not suggesting that people gain unnecessary weight – nowadays we know that there can be related health issues – but just think about the fact that society once said that being fat is good, and being skinny is bad. I’m a normal teenage girl, and I want to stay thin too, but it makes you think about our perception of beauty, even just a little.

I think nowadays people are just trying so hard to be just like celebrities. You know what? Stars are people too. Magazines occasionally show them without makeup, and it’s a shock to see that many of them don’t have natural beauty – it’s all makeup, all airbrushed! That’s not real beauty. Real beauty is when it shines just as much from inside you as it does from the outside. It’s when you look at someone without any makeup on, even someone who doesn’t conform to our culture’s beauty ideals, and they still look beautiful.

It’s funny, since I’m almost contradicting myself, because I give a lot of importance to physical appearance. But when you think about it, it doesn’t make sense. I admit it, I try SO hard to stay thin and follow all the celebrities. A lot of you probably do the same. But honestly, WHO are we trying to impress? That boy from shul, that snob from school, our older brother’s friends, or just our older sister? Do we really want to try so hard to impress them with how we look? Do we really want to try so hard to impress them, period?

Don’t look at the “beauty” of some of these celebrities, because it isn’t real. Focus on whatever’s beautiful for you. If wearing last year’s scarf makes you feel good, go ahead and wear it. Who cares? It’s your style. If you want to wear a long skirt, a short skirt, a sweater, even if it isn’t the latest fashion or what your group of friends or that snobby clique in your class are wearing, who cares? What’s the difference? It’s all about what makes you happy.

Don’t go crazy with health either. If you just want to look and feel good like any other normal person, have fun with it! Don’t go crazy and starve yourself, don’t go on the treadmill for 5 hours, but be HEALTHY. Just make healthier choices. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Eat a yummy granola bar instead of a candy bar. Just be yourself. You are who you are. No one can tell you how to dress and act. Be healthy and beautiful. Or in other words, just be you.

Printed from: http://www.jewishpress.com/sections/magazine/teens-twenties/twisted-media-the-skinny-truth/2011/11/16/

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