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Be Careful What You Wish For

Well spouses have often discovered that their friends and relatives, despite their closeness to the situation, often don't realize the tremendous emotional impact living with chronic illness has on the family. With the best intentions, suggestions, ideas and criticism are offered, based on the non-experience of those with healthy families. Even when the good intentioned get a taste of the difficulties, it is sometimes not enough for them to then identify and understand what the family of the chronically ill must face on a constant basis.

‘Playing’ It Safe For Your Children

A few years ago I wrote in this column that at the bris of my oldest son - held in a shul whose members were for the most part elderly - a wizened old man approached me, peered into my face and muttered in a raspy voice with a Yiddish accent, "May your children sit shiva for you." I was too stunned to say anything to him and just shook my head as he walked away. I thought, "nebach, he must be demented."

Title: Torah For Your Table

As individuals interacting and developing relationships, as families communicating and bonding, Americans spend much quality time around the dinner table. "Let's discuss it over dinner" has become a popular means of resolving issues in our society.

When Satan Came To Melitz

Melitz (or Mielic) was a small shtetl in Poland. The following article is based on authentic Yiddish quotes from the original Melitz archives (courtesy Yad Vashem in Jerusalem). All the names are real.

What Did You Take Away From Shavuos?

The beautiful Yom Tov of Shavuos has passed, but our Yamim Tovim never fade. We are charged to carry them with us throughout the year. While this holds true for all our Yamim Tovim, it is especially valid for Shavuos. This is the one day for which our Torah does not designate a specific time or date. Shavuos is "Z'man Matan Toraseinu," the season of receiving our Torah, and that is an eternal happening, which every one of us must re-experience and relive every moment of our lives. "Not with our forefathers alone did Hashem seal the Covenant, but with us, we who are here, all of us alive today (Deuteronomy 5).

I Am Saddened (Part Two)

In last week's column I published the first part of a letter written by one of our readers who related that this past year, circumstances had compelled her and her family to go away for Yom Tov, but she was terribly embarrassed by the behavior of many of the people in her group.

I Am Saddened (Part One)

Dear Rebbetzin Jungreis: Once again, Yom Tov has come and gone. I was hoping that with all the things going on in the world, people would have learned something...or at least would want to change.

Part 12 – Learning To Say That You’re Sorry

In marriage, it’s inevitable that sometimes couples will step on each other’s toes; especially during the first year of marriage, where newlyweds find themselves tip-toeing around their spouse’s emotional roadblocks. Don’t forget that it takes time to learn about your spouse’s idiosyncrasies and to learn how to respond in a way that makes them feel at ease.

Title: Adventures In The Produce Aisle & Other ‘Perelous’ Stories

At the bookstore recently, I saw how many new books had come out and was amazed at the sheer volume(s) of new material. I must admit that when it comes to reading, I prefer things on the lighter side. I don't need someone telling me about tragic situations or how difficult life is why would I pay money to get depressed?

‘How Do I Cope?’ (Conclusion)

In my last column I published a letter from a woman whose husband, like many others, was experiencing financial reversals. While in the past they had been prosperous, overnight everything changed. She was concerned for her husband's health since he has a history of high blood pressure and heart problems. He had become tense, irritable and depressed. She conceded that she herself was in the same emotional state - and her mood was impacting on her children.

‘How Do I Cope?’

Special Note: The letter written by the woman experiencing a financial crisis has evoked a strong response. Many people identify with her plight and still others have come forth to share their own experiences in confronting painful challenges. I am pleased to publish one of these letters.

Title: Nefesh Shimshon – Shabbos Kodesh

In addition to his many duties as chief rabbi of Ofakim, a city located in southern Israel, Rav Shimshon Dovid Pincus spent decades traveling around the world - gracing seminars, week-end retreats, and special events - as one of the Torah world's most sought-after, inspiring and influential speakers.

With A Warm Hand

Prior to Rosh Hashanah, our daughter Bracha insisted on giving a sizeable amount of tzedakah to a worthy organization. This gift was in addition to the amount she is careful to separate from her earnings on a weekly basis. Barely sixteen, our daughter is not intending to become rich from her part-time job, but parting with even more than the usual 10 percent of her salary was clearly above and beyond the letter of the law.

Know Your Audience

It was Shavuot and Gloria was looking forward to a Yom Tov dinner with friends. Gloria was a well spouse whose husband was in care.

Daughters And Daughters-In-Law Also Need Help – The Readers Respond

Special Note: Subsequent to the publication of my article on the conflict between a young woman and her mother-in-law, I received an avalanche of mail. I feel very saddened to share with you that these letters all reflected anger, resentment, and most tragic of all, a deterioration of what used to be the beautiful cohesiveness of Jewish family life.

Daughters And Daughters-In-Law Also Need Help (Conclusion)

My Dear Friend Allow me to preface my remarks by recalling a story about two brothers who lived in the holy city of Jerusalem. Their houses were at opposite ends of the city, and they were separated by a great mountain.

Daughters and Daughters-In-Law Also Need Help (Part One)

Today, the impossible has become our reality. Events are transpiring so swiftly, that we have difficulty absorbing them. Our generation is sleeping, and we have failed to react to that which is befalling us. So I felt compelled to devote my columns of the past month to those events. Nevertheless, despite the critical world situation, personal problems – family, shalom bayis, children, illness, continue to assail us. I receive hundreds of e-mail requests for help weekly from every part of the globe, and while, in the past, I published many of these letters, for the past few weeks I have been responding to them personally. Some of these e-mails, however, do not lend themselves to personal responses, but require the public forum of my column since many people are reluctant to identify themselves and write anonymously, or the letter writer hopes to convey a message that will be read by people involved in his or her problem. So I now return to addressing family conflicts through my column.

The Other Side Of The Story (Part I)

Miriam and Judy were close. Even though their ages and lifestyles were very different, they connected.

Too Busy With Kiruv to Remember Chesed (Part I)

We live in a time where there is a great need for kiruv (outreach). Many Jewish children are growing up with little or no knowledge of their Jewish heritage.

The Right To Ask, Or Not

Last week I discussed whether a close friend has a right to expect to know everything that is going on in our lives in order for them to be supportive of us.

Sweet Potato, Pomegranate and Pumpkin Seed Salad

I love to make this salad ready for when you come home for Yom Tov dairy lunch in the sukkah.

Carrot Kugel

In my estimation, kugels are dishes especially for Yom Tov and Shabbat, regardless of their variety.

All Those Who Are Hungry…

I am writing this article as I sit in an airport waiting for a delayed plane.

The Benefits Of High Gas Prices

People have been bitterly complaining about the rising price of gas.

Take A Child To Shul… Please: Emulating The Ways Of Hashem

A terribly sad version of the expression, "Water, water everywhere, nor any drop to drink," often comes to mind whenever I am approached by single parents (usually mothers) asking me to assist them in finding a caring, responsible adult to take their child or children (usually their son or sons) to shul on Shabbos and/or Yom Tov.

Why I Like Yom Kippur

You might think it odd talking about Yom Kippur just days before Purim. But actually that is exactly why I am thinking so fondly of our holy fast day.

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