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If you take a faceless little girl and expect her to grow up to believe she will become an Eishes Chayil, then you may have to “Mi yimtzah” and have a hard time at that, because she may not believe she is!  And if you can take pictures at a wedding and only show the chosson, the message sent is that women are invisible.  We are not!  You cannot extend praise of women and what they contribute to the Jewish home at the same time as you erase their physical visage, that is hypocrisy and nullifies anything a young girl can grow up to hope to achieve.

I fully understand the inyan of Tzniyus, however, there are fine lines that are crossed that may create problems for a few impressionable and sensitive little girls.           Every little girl is an eishes chayil in the making, it is our job to provide her with the mind-set that she is special in Hashem’s Eyes and in the eyes of her people.  She will grow to great heights with that encouragement, do great things in the world of chinuch, chesed and ma’asim tovim and she will be the power behind the man she is destined to become a help-mate to.  She will teach her sons to respect her and her daughter to be worthy of respect.  She will walk with regal modesty amongst her peers and her grace will be a Kiddush Hashem in the world.

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But this may sadly never happen for some little girls who grow up seeing themselves as deformed, faceless creatures, unworthy and incapable of being anything more.

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