In truth, it would be best if the two individuals who have yahrzeit come to some sort of compromise between themselves. They can perhaps share the tefillah (as we discussed last week) or perhaps agree that one will lead Ma’ariv while the other will lead Shacharit.
Who knows (and this is the second factor to consider)? Perhaps by means of such a respectful and peaceful compromise, the Sabbath desecrator will see the beauty of Yiddishkeit and repent of his ways. Indeed, often it is precisely the loss of a loved one and the obligation to come to shul on a daily basis to say kaddish that has led to many a ba’al teshuvah.
(To be continued)