How do you do this? Rely on the “Torah GPS” and it will direct you. Consider Deborah the Prophetess. She was called Devorah Aishes Lapidot – Deborah the wife of candles [light]. Devorah’s husband was a fine man but he was not a Torah scholar. So what did she do? Did she berate him? Did she fight with him? Did she demand that he study? She did none of that. She summoned all the energy G-d endowed her with and put it to use.
Instead of pushing him to go to a class, she devised a plan. She fashioned special candles for the Tabernacle and asked her husband to deliver them to the high priest. At the same time she approached the high priest and asked him to welcome her husband with open arms and invite him to study Torah. And so it was that she directed him on the right path and he didn’t even know it. Her husband became a scholar and she was immortalized for all time. Her name became “Aishes Lapidot” – the wife of candles that illuminated not only the Tabernacle but the heart of her husband as well.
Can we apply her teaching today? Of course. If you search the pages of our Torah you will discover that Devorah was not a lone example. Our righteous Matriarchs also directed their husbands, the saintly giants, our Patriarchs.
The wisest of all men, King Solomon, summed it all up: “The wise woman builds her house but the foolish woman destroys it.” Tragically, women today are not aware that they have the power to bring blessings to their families and, through those blessings, change the world.