Also, some of today’s young couples give up too easily because they refuse to put in the effort required to make a marriage work – or they simply don’t understand how much effort it takes for the marriage to be successful. While the average person generally looks out first and foremost for his or her own interests, a marriage is usually more successful if the marriage partner thinks about what is best for his or her spouse. In a marriage, an individual must sometimes put his or her own needs aside while concentrating on fulfilling the spouse’s needs.
We also need to teach our children to fight hard for what they want and to work at building their marriages. Marriages never work with a “what can you do for me” attitude. Instead, a “what can I do for my spouse” attitude should be practiced.
Thank you for your important letter. I sincerely hope that we all try to help the younger generation protect themselves from bad influences and work hard to build batei ne’eman b’Yisrael. I wish all Jewish Press readers hatzlachah in dealing with this critical crisis.Dr. Yael Respler
About the Author: Dr. Yael Respler is a psychotherapist in private practice who provides marital, dating and family counseling. Dr. Respler also deals with problems relating to marital intimacy. Letters may be emailed to email@example.com. To schedule an appointment, please call 917-751-4887. Dr. Orit Respler-Herman, a child psychologist, co-authors this column and is now in private practice providing complete pychological evaluations as well as child and adolescent therapy. She can be reached at 917-679-1612. Previous columns can be viewed at www.jewishpress.com and archives of Dr. Respler’s radio shows can be found at www.dryaelrespler.com.
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