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I recently attended a workshop that was given by Ahavas Chesed of Montreal for professional caregivers and the institutions they work for. The focus of the workshop was to familiarize the caregivers with the lifestyle and unique needs of our ageing Orthodox seniors and Holocaust survivors so that they might better service this population. It was attended by mostly non-Jews who service the Jewish community. I deliberately sat myself at a table of people I did not know and who were, as far as I could determine, not Jewish. I wanted to see how they would react to this type of workshop.
I was pleased to see (from eavesdropping into their conversations) that their reaction was extremely positive. They felt the presentation was clear, full of useful information and extremely helpful. It was only when I was going home that I realized how needed these workshops were, not only for caregivers from outside our community, but also for the young adults within our community who are missing major pieces of our history. This loss is hampering how they too, understand and relate to grandparents, aunts and uncles and other seniors in our community.
On my way home from the conference I ran into a 20-something young woman. She had been born into a religious family and had been educated in our religious school system. She had volunteered to help with registration at the conference, but home commitments prevented her from being there for most of the conference. When I saw her, she told me she had to leave before the Holocaust survivors’ fear of showers was discussed, and asked if I could explain it to her, as she did not understand why survivors might be afraid of showers.
I must admit, I was shocked and hoped my face did not reflect my absolute astonishment. How did this young woman somehow miss this part of our history? It was then that I realized how important a conference like this would be for our young community members as well as for outsiders. Our youth, along with us, do chesed. How enhanced their contact with our aged and survivor population would be if they too had an understanding of the unique fears and behaviors that might be seen when coming in contact with this segment of our community.
I also realized that although most of the ideas presented at the conference had not been new to me, it did review and explain fears inherent to our older population and survivors that I had not necessarily put into a modern day context. I, too, gained new insight and understanding that I could immediately apply to this segment of our population, and that would only serve to enhance my relationship with this exemplary group of people.
The conference was broken up into three parts. A general introduction to the topic, a presentation by Debbie Fox, director of “Aleinu” Family Resource Center, Jewish Family Center, Los Angeles, and a panel discussion, made up of workers (mostly non-Jews) who work with the Jewish population at home or in facilities. It was followed by a tour of the Montreal Holocaust Museum, to further enhance the understanding of the non-Jewish worker with the experiences of that time in our history.
Each conference participant was given a copy of a booklet, put together by Ahavas Chesed, called “Bridging Worlds.” This valuable booklet discusses how culture contributes to the health of an individual, gives a brief historical sketch, discusses the local demography, and outlines what constitutes Orthodox life, generally and specifically.
In my opinion, one of the most valuable pieces of the booklet (among the vast amount of valuable information) for non-Jews and Jews alike was the pages of “triggers” which listed daily “normal” activities that may trigger apprehension in survivors, and a listing of the possible reactions that could follow. Daily occurrences from showering to seeing a doctor to barking dogs were discussed along with the need for privacy and discomfort of giving out personal information.
Most of the people attending the conference seemed to find the booklet a good resource for their work. Also, in the take home kit were several articles that dealt with the transmission of trauma, giving first hand accounts from professionals who were dealing with present-day behavior that resulted from trauma from years ago, and how best to deal with it.
With the permission of Ahavas Chesed, I will reprint some of these triggers next week.
For more information on the workshop or the booklet and printouts, you can contact Carol Polter at firstname.lastname@example.org
I have often written about how important respite is for the caregiver. A break from the daily care of a chronically ill loved one is vital in order for the care to continue in a warm, loving manner. But while that break in routine is happening, it is very important that the respite worker understand the specific needs of a Jewish person. In fact it is vital for everyone who comes in contact with the chronically ill person and his/her family to have an understanding of our Halachah and tradition in order to treat the clients appropriately and with sensitivity. This requires education of the professional and volunteer caregivers. Without it, the quality of a person’s life will certainly be diminished.
Jenny was Orthodox. Her children were not. When Jenny had a stroke, she lost the use of her hands and could not speak. She needed to be fed and have her basic needs attended to by another. Her daughters did their best to keep her happy and comfortable in her own home. She had 24-hour care from some “very lovely and kind” caregivers who came highly recommended. Jenny’s children never thought of informing the caregiver about kashrus, because they bought all the food, and made sure it was strictly kosher, as their mother would want. Jenny could not inform her children of problems because she could not speak.
One day Jenny’s sister arrived just as she was finishing lunch. Jenny was crying and agitated. Her sister saw what the problem was immediately. The caregiver was insisting that Jenny drink a glass of milk with a meat meal. The caregiver had no idea why Jenny was so upset. She attributed the agitation to the stroke. She told Jenny’s sister that Jenny was often agitated around mealtime. When the sister explained about the separation of milk and meat, the caregiver was devastated. She had never heard of this.
Martin had Multiple Sclerosis. He could not care for himself and needed to be placed in care. His mind was sound. He took part in choosing his own facility and, being Orthodox, chose one that was kosher and met his religious needs. Martin was surprised to discover that his lunch was usually a meat meal and supper, served only four hours later, was dairy. When Martin complained about this, because he observed the six hours of separation between meat and milk, the facility was shocked. It seemed no one had ever brought this up before. Some of the staff had no idea what the problem was.
There was no Jewish school that could meet the many needs of a young Orthodox special needs child, whom I will call Zev. And so Zev had to go to a special needs center located in a public school. He made tremendous progress through the year. However his talk of pumpkins and gifts from Santa was extremely disturbing to his family.
Making caregivers aware of our Halachah and traditions is vital if we want our elderly and ill to be comfortable in their care. A Jewish way of life may be totally foreign to those who are taking care of our loved ones. Many communities may have already addressed this issue. Others may have never thought to. One institution that is in the process of educating caregivers is the Ahavas Chesed organization of Montreal, Canada. It is holding a symposium on May 15 of this year for professionals in the public and private sectors. The objective of this symposium is to sensitize and educate workers to the unique needs of the Jewish population. It is called, “Bridging Worlds − Caring for the Orthodox Senior/Holocaust Survivor.”
They are also producing two publications. One is a handbook that includes a general history, profile of the Orthodox family and lifestyle and a section on care giving. The other is a resource guidebook for care workers that provides specific do’s and don’ts of an Orthodox home in daily life and around the calendar year in diverse situations. It is the hope of Ahavas Chesed that these educational items will then be used at agencies and institutions for ongoing staff training.
As a well spouse of many years I am eager to see these booklets. I can think of many unfortunate situations that could have been avoided if only the caregiver had had more knowledge about our way of life and unique needs. It is my understanding that topics will include everything from kashrus to modesty when bathing someone and will cover a tremendous amount of vital information. Though written specifically for the senior and ill population, I hope many of the ideas could also be used when dealing with Jewish and Orthodox people, no matter what their age.
For more information on the symposium or the booklets you can contact email@example.com
You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.orgAnn Novick