How does this work for teenagers?
Perhaps the most important thing to remember about teenagers is that their brains are doing essential work for their adult years. But, as noted in the chart, some of that work has potentially large downsides. That’s where mindfulness comes in. If we, as adults, are mindful in our interactions with our children, they can be mindful themselves. What that means is that when you are interacting with your children, you are not worrying about the past or the future. You are thinking about the way you interact with them and navigating those interactions based on current circumstances. This living in the present moment helps your children not only learn about you and the way you function in the world, but also about themselves. When we emotionally connect to our children, they develop a deeper sense of themselves and their ability to interact with the world around them.
This in turn can help your teenagers understand the need for mindfulness in their own development. Emotional sparks are great when tempered with the awareness that impulsive behavior is dangerous. Social engagement is important and fun when mixed with connected family time. Novelty is invigorating when not accompanied by severe risk. And, creative exploration opens new worlds when focused and directed. With a mindful approach to the essence of life, Siegel believes both teenagers and adults can thrive!
