This idea of a growth mindset can also be called the “power of yet.” In other words, you are not there yet, but you can get there.
We might think that their anger is passion and their intractability a steadfast resolve to the ideas of right and wrong. Through this “touch-up” work, we turn our spouses flaws into strengths.
With time, this loop becomes more and more automatic. The cue and the reward become interconnected until your brain anticipates the reward as soon as it hears, sees, or touches the cue.
As parents, we can be role models for our children and teach them that when things are tough, they still need to keep trying.
What is motivation? It’s the ability to improve our efforts and rouse ourselves into action. It’s the magic ingredient that adds a measure of oomph to the day. It’s an essential factor of learning.
If we start off happy, then we feel good about ourselves and what we're doing. If we feel good about ourselves, we look great.
We push our children’s money questions aside, sometimes telling them that their queries are impolite, or perhaps worrying that they will call out our own financial hypocrisy and errors.
Executive skills allow us to organize our behavior over time and override immediate demands in favor of longer-term goals.
If you feel that someone is misrepresenting your purpose or intent, use a contrasting statement.
See your blind spots. Before we resist the feedback, it’s important to recognize that perhaps maybe other people see things that we do not.
While there are always exceptions, teenage girls often experience significantly more stress around appearances – what they look like and how they dress.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you may end up choosing to forgo positive experience simply because you don’t think you will succeed.
Different communities and families have different norms when it comes to the role of parents in the dating process. There is no one size fits all and no one golden rule.
When asked about concerns they have about returning home after their year, one of the most popular responses is something like, “I am dreading all the questions about my skirts and sleeve length."
If you want to be a leader, you need to make connections. People need to see you as an individual with imperfections and vulnerabilities.
We all have small parts of us that don’t showcase us in the best light. Bits and pieces that when highlighted detract from our positive qualities.
Both instilling motivation and creating a safe space are integral parts of learning, helping students feel that they both want to learn and that the conditions are right for learning.
What doctors and teachers call hyperactivity can also be called exuberance.
If you have just moved or are entering a new community, the section on representing yourself as an individual can shed light on social interactions.
We need to remind ourselves constantly why we are taking the precautions we are taking. Remembering the reason gives us the strength to move forward.
What can we do to raise confident daughters – daughters who are proud of who they are and not what they look like?
Part of being productive is knowing what to do with all the ideas floating around your head and world.
Turns out, there’s actually quite a lot that you can do about overthinking.
Whether you or your child is suffering from an anxiety disorder or just plain old anxiety, there are still many things you can do in order to help control the anxiety.
The shidduch process has many challenges both for individuals and for communities as well.
Emotional intelligence therefore grounds children as people who can interact positively with others and continue to develop even as the playing field gets more difficult and challenging. This extends to shidduchim as well.
Of course, everyone is reading and writing about productivity today in a world that doesn’t sleep, and perhaps Duhigg’s book is an oversimplification of our daily race against the clock.
Children will often get caught up in a power struggle: you pushing and them resisting. Your anxiety about the consequences of their actions will only teach them either how to appease you or resist you.
It’s hard for people to understand children can have a learning disability that affects only writing. Most people assume if you have no trouble reading, then writing should be a cinch.
What if your child is not simply a late bloomer? What if he needs early intervention in order to help him attain language?