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The Nose Knows

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Dr. Yael, you saved my life! After the nose job the phone did not stop ringing; after all, I dressed very well, and came from a well to do home with a good reputation.

My mother, after checking out and rejecting many shidduch suggestions, realized that you were right to suggest that I get a nose job. She chastised herself for not doing this for me when I was younger. And my rav said that this was the right thing for me to do, and even his rav – a gadol hadorpaskened that your advice was sound.

My husband has a great nose, but two of my daughters were born with my original nose.  So, after consulting with da’as Torah, they both had plastic surgery when they turned 16. Now they will never have to experience years of rejection in shidduchim, and their self-esteem will be so much better than mine since, deep down, I still do not feel as beautiful as people say I am.

Here’s my advice to others: if you are single and overweight, you must lose weight and dress as nicely as possible. And all the while, work on your spiritual and psychological issues.

This advice is meant for men and women alike, although I think a bad nose in a man is not as important as in a woman. This is so as long as he is slim, well dressed, clean, and works on all the important issues in his frum life.

Thank you again for all of your help. May Hashem give you the koach to continue all of your amazing work. Hatzlachah!

A truly indebted Old Client  

Dear Truly Indebted Old Client:

Thank you for your amazing letter, which truly touched my heart. And to make you feel better, I have helped many now happily married girls get nose jobs with the consent of their rabbanim. May you have much hatzlachah!

About the Author: Letters may be emailed to deardryael@aol.com. To schedule an appointment, please call 917-751-4887.


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5 Responses to “The Nose Knows”

  1. I’m outraged, this is not an appropriate message to send to girls… love yourself the way you are!!! It was all ok until the double standard at the end where she stated having a good nose is not as important for men. I’m glad she found ‘true love’ with someone who openly admitted he wouldn’t have dated her pre nose job (sarcasm). Jeez! It is soooo important for women to be pretty, men, eh, they can be ugly…. this is the most shallow thing I’ve ever read here.

  2. This is an absolutely disgusting article, and I'm ashamed to see it in a Jewish newspaper. Is this really what we want for our children, to hate the way that G-d made them?

  3. In the future, the most attractive people won't even have noses. This is because the future will smell so horrid that everybody else will have a constant look of disgust on their faces. A man of great flatulence will rise to power as all the beautiful people will follow his every word. The rest of us will know the truth, because we nose the truth.
    We nose the truth!!!

    Seriously though. Girls and women should never feel pressured to spend so much energy and time on their looks. Girls and women have so much more potential than being the potential wife of a slob that doesn't appreciate them for who they really are. It's sad that many guys don't get a chance to get to know who they really are when we can't get past the big nose.

    Speaking of big noses, I knew a guy in college that dated this girl with a gigantic nose. She was funny, sweet, and a ton of fun. At this moment, you're thinking this guy was a really good guy, right? No, he wasn't. The girl he was dating may have had a huge nose, but she had two enormous breasts. What's the point, you ask? Well, if you don't want a nose-job, there are other ways to distract from your least desirable features. Wait, that's not right. That's not right at all. The point of the story is that men can be really shallow, and even though she had a big nose and a big hair growing from her chin, she was really nice. Sure, if they had gotten married, the features that attracted him most would have started sagging to the ground by now, but the real moral of the story is that men are pigs and dogs. Even the best man is at best, a well-trained dog. Blame hollywood and advertisers.

    BTW, implants are pointless, disgusting, and skanky. They'd be great if they floated or housed an inflatable raft for emergencies, but mostly, they just seem really unnatural and skanky. What's wrong with society? If we enhance our bodies, those enhancements should give us super-powers or at least semi-useful abilities. Cyborgs = cool. Saline bags = not cool.

  4. Al Lian says:

    Here we go again. The nose is the main focus on our face and I agree with plastic surgery if you needed. Those of us that have to bare the pain of the big or wide nose know what we are talking about.
    Luckily, I did not have to go through surgery , I was able to slim the nose with the nose enhancer for 35 bucks but until I did that I was torture.

  5. Galia Libin says:

    So glad I found a digital version of this article so the whole FB world can see how disgusting it is! So unprofessional as well.

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