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Our Attraction To Drama, Alcohol And Other Distractions …And What To Do About It

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

Our blinding attraction to drama has captivated so many of us. We love to live it, watch it, or even worse, create it. Nowadays it appears as if everyone has a “dramatic” story about his next-door neighbor, her estranged friend, their friend’s rude relative, etc. According to a recent survey, nearly half of our nation’s younger generation watches more reality television than they did last year, with those aged 18 to 25 watching close to four reality shows a week.

As if that were not enough, we are increasingly YouTubing, Facebooking, Twittering and texting ourselves into oblivion.

How about our growing addiction to alcohol? According to newly published data, one in every six Americans consumes eight mixed drinks within a few hours four times a month. Twenty-eight percent of us between the ages of 18 and 24 drink five times a month with the intention of becoming intoxicated.

Why do people dedicate so much time and effort to such futile preoccupations? Why do so many choose to be mentally and emotionally absent, via a variety of distractions, for significant portions of their everyday lives?

The first reason I’d suggest, which relates to our fascination with drama, is based in a grotesque form of egotism. When we see TV shows infested with lowly behavior and inappropriate comportment, it makes us feel good without our having to budge from the sofa. It’s a delightful pat on the back. It reassures us we are good people, despite the pangs of a guilty conscience that may periodically attempt to force us out of our comfort zone.

It certainly is true that in the republic of boorishness, mediocrity is king.

The second reason, which also relates to our attraction to drama, can be categorized as “modern voyeurism.” Human beings have an innate curiosity to explore the outside instead of the inside, the “you,” “him” and “her” in lieu of the “I.” This voyeurism is an easy way out of the long and tedious road to self-refinement.

Finally, there is a third reason – one that speaks to most of life’s deviations. It is best described as “escapism,” and it too is an effortless yet deceptive way out of misery. Decades ago, Walter Cannon, the renowned American physiologist, famously explained that when faced with challenges, human beings must choose between “fight” and “flight.” They can combat their difficulties or flee from them. Unfortunately, our gravitation toward drama and the many other modern-day distractions points to the growing tendency to flee from life’s moral responsibilities.

But can we truly rid ourselves of our prevailing drive to explore? Is it really wrong to flee from reality when stress threatens to invade?

The answer lies in the very definition of “man.” Centuries ago, the Talmudic Sages taught that the creation of man resembles the fusion of an animal and God. “In some ways humans are like the ministering angels of God. In other ways, they are like animals” (Chagigah 16a). In fact, the word for “man” in Hebrew – adam – conveys a dual meaning: on the one hand, it means earth and materialism; on the other, its meaning indicates a resemblance to God.

Perhaps this existential dichotomy explains our perpetual restlessness. Since two contrary dynamics exist in the fabrics of our being, we frequently vacillate between them. Sometimes we find ourselves enthralled by animalistic behaviors from within and from without, while at other times we heed to a higher calling from God and His ministering angels.

Unshackling ourselves from this inherent vacillation is close to impossible. Our powerful drive to diverge and explore will always exist. We must, however, learn how to funnel it from the selfish, hollow and animal self to the altruistic, purposeful and divine self. Our lives, and the lives that surround us, will then be filled with true joy, lasting serenity, and contagious kindness.

Finally, we also ought to remember that most challenges cannot simply disappear. True, every now and then temporary diversions from life can help us refresh and rejuvenate. But they cannot become permanent, for the vast majority of challenges will pursue us until we find the focus, courage and conviction to tackle them thoroughly and persuasively.

Moreover, we must rid ourselves of the perception that life’s blessings, such as peace and happiness, can be found outside. The “you,” “him” and “her” will never be able to substitute the blessings of the “I.” Indeed, the only path to self-improvement and genuine joy are introspection and the meticulous study of the inner self.

Years ago, as a teenager struggling with identity questions, I turned to my dear mentor, the world-renowned scholar Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz, for guidance.

“You seem troubled,” he said, “but I’m happy to find you in this situation.”

After a short pause and with his characteristic, engulfing smile, he explained: “You see, human beings are like electricity. In order to produce light, we too need a negative pole and a positive pole. Channel your thoughts and efforts from your negative pole toward your positive one. Create a circuit of positive thoughts and good actions, and your life will then surely engender light.”

Rabbi Pinchas Allouche

The Warm and Wild West

Wednesday, January 7th, 2009

           While no one can ever guarantee great weather, I know that just the other day, on December 29th, I was sitting outside a caf?, sipping my favorite iced drink – without a jacket. Having survived many frigid winters on the East coast, I truly appreciated the moment, as I worried that my kids were actually going to get sunburned. If you are tired of bundling up, why not spend this winter break out West. While it may seem daunting to travel to new territory, the information below is meant to give you a head start on planning a great vacation and if you live in the warmer Western climate, perhaps you’ll find some ideas for a great road trip. There is much more to the West Coast than Los Angeles and Disneyland.


            First of all when traveling to Southern California, know that flying into LAX is not your only option. Burbank Airport (BUR) is smaller and located in the San Fernando Valley; it is very easy to navigate with less traffic and closer to many area attractions. While flight schedules may be limited, they may be less expensive. Jet Blue, Southwest and American Airlines are some of the carriers that service Burbank Airport. It is just minutes away from the Valley Village community where you will be able to find many kosher restaurants and markets along Burbank Boulevard. There are many shuls nearby, including Shaarey Zedek, if you need to catch a minyan.


Visiting some of the major attractions is cursory and Universal Studios is only 10 minutes from Valley Village, so pick up some sandwiches and snacks and head for the stars. Universal Studios is great for ages 7 and up, younger kids might be frightened by some of the special effects that are demonstrated and by the costumed characters that roam the park. The rides are mostly geared towards older kids as well. Universal CityWalk is located directly adjacent to the theme park. There is no entrance fee, but you do have to pay for parking. CityWalk is a fun place for a relaxing stroll while you pick up souvenirs and browse and play in the unique shops. There are some great photo ops, an IMAX movie theatre, and you can play at Jillian’s – an arcade and bowling alley.


There is also a Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf located on CityWalk that is entirely under the kosher supervision of Kosher Los Angeles. Bagels, muffins, cakes and pastries are among the food offerings, and their ice-blended drinks are famous. The Coffee Bean has numerous locations throughout Southern California and they are all kosher – double check the certificate inside the store – which is essential, as some are located near major attractions and in malls where other kosher food may be scarce.


Another major attraction that is great for families with kids of all ages is Legoland located in Carlsbad, Calif. Much more family friendly than Disneyland, Legoland has rides and attractions geared for every age group, many of which are interactive which adds to the fun. Parents will really appreciate the beautiful miniature exhibits as well as the Lego building areas where the kids can play within view, while parents wait in line for the ride. Within the past few months, Legoland has opened the Sea Life Aquarium on the same premises that you can visit for just a minimal extra charge.


            For those that would prefer to stick closer to the Los Angeles area, the Aquarium of the Pacific, located in Long Beach, is a beautiful place to spend a few hours with the family. Although there are great exhibits outside, much of the aquarium is located indoors, so you can still visit in case of rain. Also available for an extra fee are: 3-D educational films, a 45 minute cruise of the Long Beach/Los Angeles Harbor, or a three-hour long whale watching trip.


In the heart of the L.A. area is the famous Santa Monica Pier where you can play games, enjoy amusement rides (limited ride operation on weekdays during the winter), or rent bikes on the boardwalk. There is a Coffee Bean located on the pier as well. Travel inland a bit and you will hit the famous Pico Robertson neighborhood in Los Angeles. Make time to visit the Museum of Tolerance and take a stroll down Rodeo Drive. You can choose from the many kosher restaurants, including pizza, fast food, and many fine dining selections. The Milky Way owned by Steven Spielberg’s mother, Mrs. Leah Adler, is a favorite of tourists as she is often there to greet and schmooze with diners.


            Further north up the 101 Freeway to Ventura, you may enjoy visiting the Camarillo Premium Outlets for some great shopping deals, The Herzog Wine Cellars in Oxnard – including the very upscale restaurant Tierra Sur, and the Santa Barbara Botanical Gardens for light hiking. When heading up this direction, stop in at Pizza Nosh, located right off the 101 in Agoura Hills.


            For those seeking a bit more adventure, head to Arizona, where you can relax at a state of the art spa, golf at a world-class golf course, hike, or museum hop. Of course while it won’t be as warm as the Phoenix area, a trip north to Sedona and The Grand Canyon is a must. Go off-road jeeping, (or for an on-road van tour, if you are faint of heart or pregnant) and hiking in Sedona to see the beautiful red rock formations. There are also many art galleries to visit. Take a walk along the Southern Rim of the Grand Canyon, which is especially beautiful at sunrise or sunset. Dress in layers, bring a camera, keep small children away from the edge, and you’ll have a great time. Before you go, eat at King Solomon’s Pizza in Central Phoenix, located just 10 minutes from Sky Harbor Airport and then stop in next door at Segal’s Kosher Market and Restaurant to get some deli sandwiches, Chinese or shabbos food to go.


If you choose to stay in the Phoenix area, you can go for a hot air balloon ride over the Sonoran Desert, visit the classy Scottsdale shops or go for a gondola ride at Hyatt Gainey Ranch. Kosher food is available in Scottsdale at the Valley of the Sun Jewish Community Center and Scottsdale Kosher Market. Other places of interest to visit are the Heard Museum of Native Cultures and Art, the Desert Botanical Gardens, and the famed Arizona Biltmore whose architecture is inspired by Frank Lloyd Wright and has been the U.S. Presidential choice for accommodations in the Phoenix area since it opened circa 1930. Take a walk around the beautiful gardens, get a spa treatment, or go golfing.


Make a plan and pack your bags; for the Jewish traveler heading west, all of your needs can be met and the options are endless.


Directory of Listed Attractions and Services:


Shaarey Zedek Congregation

12800 Chandler Blvd.Valley Village, CA 91607Phone (818) 763 – 0560

Mikva (818) 760-4567


Universal Studios Hollywood

Universal Studios Boulevard

Universal City, CA 91608


Hours vary daily.



Universal CityWalk

100 Universal City PlazaUniversal City, CA 91608

(818) 622-4455

General hours:

Sun-Thurs 11:00 AM – 9:00 PMFri-Sat 11:00 AM – 11:00 PM

Many of the venues keep their own hours.

The Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf on CityWalk opens at 8:30 am and closes at the general closing time.



One Legoland DriveCarlsbad, CA 92008

(760) 918-5346

Hours vary daily.



Aquarium of the Pacific

100 Aquarium WayLong Beach, CA 90802(562) 590-3100

9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. every day of the year, except April 17, 18, and 19, 2009


Santa Monica Pier / Pacific Park

200 Santa Monica Pier, Suite A Santa Monica, CA 90401

Always open 24hours, but each business has its own operating hours.



Pacific Park Amusement Park on the Pier

Phone: (310) 260-8744

Hour and extent of operation vary by day



Museum of Tolerance9786 West Pico Blvd.Los Angeles, CA 90035



Hours: Monday -Friday 10 am – 5:00 pm

Fridays: November – March- early close at 3:00 p.m.

Sunday: 11:00 am – 5:00 pm


The Milky Way Restaurant

9108 W Pico BlvdLos Angeles, CA 90035-1321Phone: (310) 859-0004

Hours: Sun-Thu 11:30am-2pm, 5:30pm-8pm, Fri 11:30am-1:30pm


Camarillo Premium Outlets740 E. Ventura BoulevardCamarillo, CA 93010(805) 445-8520

Hours: Mon-Sat 10am-9pm, Sun 10am-8pm


Herzog Wine Cellars and Tierra Sur Restaurant:

3201 Camino Del Sol

Oxnard, CA 93030



Self-guided tours are always available. Guided tours are Monday-Thursday at 3:30 and 4:30 pm and on Sundays by appointment only.

Tierra Sur Hours:

Sun – Thurs: Lunch 11:30 – 3:00, Dinner 5 – 9, Friday: Lunch only 11:30-2:00 (open until 3:00 during the summer)


Santa Barbara Botanic Garden

212 Mission Canyon RoadSanta Barbara, CA 93105Phone: (805) 682-4726


March – October: 9:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m., November – February: 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Guided tours weekdays at 2:00 p.m., weekends at 11:00 a.m. and 2:00 p.m.


Pizza Nosh

818-991-300030313 Canwood StAgoura Hills, CA 91301


Sunday – Thursday 11:00 am – 8:00 am

Friday: 11:00am – 2pm



King Solomon’s Pizza

4810 N 7th St

Phoenix, AZ 85014


Sunday through Thursday, 11am-8pm

Friday 11am to 2:30pm

Saturday after sundown to 11:00pm


Segal’s Kosher Foods

4818 N 7th StPhoenix, AZ 85014

(602) 277-5769‎


The Heard Museum2301 N. Central Avenue (Central & Encanto)Phoenix, AZ 85004


Open Monday- Saturday 9:30 a.m. to 5 p.m.Sunday 11 a.m. to 5 p.m.Free Public Guided Tours daily at noon, 1:30 p.m. and 3 p.m.


Hyatt Regency Scottsdale Resort and Spa at Gainey Ranch

7500 E. Doubletree Ranch Road,Scottsdale, Arizona, 85258 480- 444- 1234

Gondola Rides

Hours: Daily 6:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. (weather permitting)



Desert Botanical Gardens

1201 North Galvin Parkway

 Phoenix, Arizona 85008


Garden Seasonal Hours:October – April / 8 a.m.-8 p.m., May – September / 7 a.m.-8 p.m. During evening hours certain trails are closed.


Arizona Biltmore Resort and Spa

2400 E. Missouri AvenuePhoenix, AZ 85016(602) 955-6600


Valley of the Sun Jewish Community Center Cafe

12701 North Scottsdale Road

 Scottsdale, AZ 85254




Scottsdale Kosher Market

10211 N Scottsdale RoadScottsdale, Arizona 85253

(480) 315-8333

Call for hours and restaurant availability.


Amy Dubitsky is a freelance writer who grew up in Southern California and has lived in Phoenix for the past six years.

Amy A. Dubitsky

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