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Rochelle Malek Honored As Eshet Chayil

Friday, January 27th, 2012

The Rabbi Alexander S. Gross Hebrew Academy held its 64thAnnual Event on Sunday evening, January 8. The lavish evening was hosted by local television personality Rosh Lowe and honorary event chair Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen. More than $750,000 was raised for the Hebrew Academy Scholarship Fund.

Robyn Malek (right), Hebrew Academy director of development, and Rochelle Malek, Eshet Chayil Woman of Valor Award recipient.

Rochelle Malek received the Eshet Chayil Woman of Valor Award for her phenomenal dedication to the school and the Miami Beach community. Rochelle uses her talents to contribute in many ways. She is an active and involved member of many important organizations and groups.

Ms. Malek, who was married to former Miami Beach mayor Joe Malek, a”h, is a devoted mother, grandmother and sister, as well as a community powerhouse, respected and loved by all.

Other awards were presented throughout the evening. Senator Marco Rubio received the Community Service Award for his resolute support of the community. The Alumni Spotlight Award went to Tamra Fox-Meyerson for her vision and endeavors on behalf of the school. Morah Gail Davis received the Excellence in Education Award for her years of service to the school and students.

Norma Reiz and Diana Kurtzer were awarded with the Commitment to Excellence Award. These two dedicated women in the west-campus office have always been there for students, teachers and parents.

The Hebrew Academy is an Orthodox day school serving children from birth through Grade 12. RASG equips students to reach their fullest potential both academically and spiritually and instills eternal Torah values in a changing world.

MK Hatovely Addresses Miami Beach Audience

Thursday, December 29th, 2011

MK Tzipi Hatovely addressed a Chabad “Lunch and Learn” event on December 14 in Miami Beach.

Hatovely, who sits on the Knesset’s Security and Defense Committee, referenced her recent trip to Belgium where she had attended a meeting of NATO members. “I couldn’t sleep from fear, realizing that Israel and the U.S. are the only countries in the world that recognize the existential threat of a nuclear Iran,” she said.

On the subject of right of the Jewish people to the land of Israel, she declared, “We must make it abundantly clear to the world that Israel is ours because of the biblical mandate we received. Our land belongs to us because it was promised by G-d to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.”

Carol Flato, Florida chairperson of Americans For a Safe Israel (AFSI), sponsor of the event, introduced Hatovely and expressed thanks to the Israel Independence Fund for sponsoring Hatovely’s speaking tour of the U.S.

Taking questions from the audience, Hatovely addressed concerns over the continued incarceration of Jonathan Pollard and said she had attempted to visit Pollard at the federal prison in North Carolina but was denied visitation on the grounds he “cannot have visitors due to his poor health.”

Rabbi Alexander S. Gross Hebrew Academy Launches Project

Thursday, December 29th, 2011

The RASG Hebrew Academy in Miami Beach recently launched Project Hemshech. The new project places young rabbis who primarily study in kollel to study with 12th grade students from local Jewish Day Schools. The students gain from the individualized learning in a small group with a young dynamic rabbi, and the rabbis have the opportunity to start off their careers in Jewish education.

Rabbi Josh Musicant works with Eliezer Barman and Shmuel Zidel (pointing) during a Project Hemshech study period.

The group at the Hebrew Academy began recently with three rabbis from the Miami Choshen Mishpat Kollel, headed by Rabbi Schoen and affiliated with Rabbi Yochanan Zweig and Talmudic University, and seven Hebrew Academy seniors. The students study the sections of Talmud in Hebrew Academy’s new beit midrash.

Rabbi David Wechsler, Hebrew Academy’s mashgiach ruchani, oversees Project Hemshech. Rabbi Wechsler said he hopes to “expand the program further with more senior student participation in the near future.”

The RASG Hebrew Academy is an Orthodox Jewish day school serving students from birth through grade 12. Its goal is to inspire and equip students to reach their fullest potential both academically and spiritually and instill eternal Torah values in a changing world.

For more information about Project Hemshech, contact Rabbi David Wechsler at dwechsler@rasg.org or call 305-532-6421.

The Ins And Outs Of Visiting The Sick: An Interview With Hospital Chaplain Rabbi Simeon Schreiber

Wednesday, December 21st, 2011

Some people are naturals at visiting people in the hospital. Others feel awkward: What should I say? How long should I stay? Does the person even want me to come?

Rabbi Simeon Schreiber, senior staff chaplain at Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami Beach, Florida, has just written a book, A Caring Presence: Bringing the Gift of Hope, Comfort and Courage, addressing some of these common concerns based on his 10 years of chaplaincy experience.

Although obviously a regular visitor to hospitals, Rabbi Schreiber found himself in a hospital last month in an unusual position – as a patient undergoing open-heart surgery. “Thank God,” he told The Jewish Press two weeks after the operation, “the surgery was successful and everything is good.” In addition to making a complete recovery, Rabbi Schreiber said he hopes his recent experience as a patient will make him even more sensitive to the needs of the hospital-bound.

The Jewish Press: When and why did you enter the chaplaincy?

I’ve been a chaplain for about 10 years. I first started thinking about becoming a chaplain when my son, who is now in his 40s, developed Hodgkin’s disease. It was very sudden. He was actually in Israel and expected to go into the army. Then he got this notice from the army that something was wrong and they subsequently told him he has lymphoma.

I brought him back to the States about two or three days after that for a full year of tests, operations and chemo. Thank God he managed to pull through and is flourishing right now with a wife and three children in Kansas City. But I think that got me started on the concept of trying to take care of people.

In the book you state that most of the advice you offer is common sense. If so, why is the book necessary?

People are not so familiar with common sense sometimes. For example, if you would ask me what my pet peeve is, it’s people not calling before they come to visit someone. People forget that bikur cholim is not about the visitor but the person you’re visiting. And that person sometimes just doesn’t want to be visited.

To wit, when I was in the hospital recently I just did not want visitors – and people have to respect that. I had someone show up at 11 o’clock at night; he just walked into my room. I had a central line in my neck with three tubes showing out, and this person just showed up, “Hi, I’m here,” and I wasn’t very happy.

You write in the book that one shouldn’t joke around with patients or talk about matters irrelevant to their condition. But don’t jokes sometimes cheer a person up, distracting him from his sickness?

I think what you say is true. You have to assess the patient. What I write in the book is not hewn in stone. They are flexible ideas.

Many people, though, assume bikur cholim is about telling jokes. But that’s not what the patient really wants. It’s not a comedy session. The key to proper hospital visitation is really listening to the patient. It’s not necessarily doing all the talking. It’s about allowing the patients to talk about what’s bothering them. Talking about what went on and maybe the fears or concerns they had – there’s a cathartic kind of response to that that makes them feel better.

That’s not to say that visitors can never crack a joke or talk about something that’s off the subject. Of course they can. It’s dialogue between people. But I don’t think that should be the main focus.

You also argue in the book that people should never promise a patient that things will get better. Do you find that many people do that?

People want to fix the situation. They come there with the idea that when they leave, the person is going to be 100 percent better. What I’ve come to learn, however – and I think it’s probably the most frustrating part of being a chaplain – is that I cannot change what is. I can’t make a 90-year-old man 50, and I can’t get rid of terminal cancer.

The best we can do in situations like that is just allow the person to talk about their situation in the hope that things will be okay in terms of living with what they have. That’s a role visitors have to understand as well. Their job is not to change things. It’s about being – the title of the book says it all – it’s about being a caring presence. It’s just to be there with them in their time of need, and to hold their hand. For them to know that someone cares is really the most critical thing you can do in chaplaincy.

Miami Emunah Chapter Presents: Our Law And Order

Monday, December 5th, 2011

Miami Chapter of Emunah of America will be holding a delightful thought-provoking evening on Saturday evening, December 10. The presentation will be:  “Our Law and Order,” a lively inside’s view of working in the criminal justice system.

Participants in the program will be attorneys Leah Klein, a prosecutor, and Sarah Shulevitz, defense counsel.  The evening will help support Emunah’s children at risk in Israel.  Sponsorships are available.

Requested minimum donation is $18 per person. A light buffet will be served. Both men and women are welcome.

The event will take place in Miami Beach. For location and information call (305) 538-1222.

Calendar Of Events

Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

WHAT: Annual Mother-in-Israel Luncheon – This campaign, by providing extra tutorial hours, counseling sessions, textbooks, hot lunches, eyeglasses, shoes, dental work and so much more, helps AMIT children to succeed in school.

WHERE: Tower 41, 4101 Pine Tree Drive, Miami Beach

WHEN: Sunday, Nov 14

CONTACT: (305) 532-0362


WHAT: Friends of the IDF will hold its inaugural FIDF Fun Run. This family-friendly event is a chance to support the dedicated men and women who fight for Israel

WHERE: Hillel Day School in Boca Raton

WHEN: Nov. 6 at 10 a.m.

COST: Raffle tickets: $20 each/3 for $50

CONTACT: (561) 483-2771

Keeping Your Relationship Strong When Money Gets Tight

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009

During these difficult financial times, many couples, usually without ever noticing it, start dealing with life as individuals. They begin to recede from each other and allow a distance to develop. They stop talking. They find their feelings to be too intense and too difficult to face, so they don’t share them. They don’t want to share that they are scared, so each partner says nothing and goes into a deep and lonely place within. They don’t fight for their relationship. Instead they fight over money and who’s at fault for the situation. They blame each other for not making enough money, for spending too much money, for not saving money, or for not spending enough time doing the things that will bring in more money.

Sadly, this distance is a close step toward a wide gap from which many couples do not recover. For over 22 years, I’ve helped couples turn this around quickly. In my book, In Good Times & Bad: Strengthening Your Relationship When the Going Gets Tough & the Money Gets Tight, (written with my wife) we offer a one week program to turn your family life around to create a warm, loving home. It begins with a pattern of living that successful couples follow to create a deeper love from struggle.

1. Decide to fight for your marriage: Everyone says they want a great relationship but do not necessarily throw their whole selves into it. When I counseled a couple separated due to financial struggle on a recent Oprah episode, the wife shared that this financial struggle was harder than her overcoming her recent battle with cancer. Through counseling, she came to understand that she made a decision to fight for her life in a way that she did not for her marriage. With that knowledge, a different way of live began for her and her husband. Saying firmly to yourself and your partner that we ARE going to get through this and will not allow it to cause our relationship to deteriorate is a crucial step. It keeps you away from negative conversations about the relationship and creates renewed energy to deal with your collective financial problems.

2. Attack the problems, not each other: We only have so much energy. The more we expend it blaming and fighting, the less we have to get our problems solved. Now is the time to have that conversation with your spouse, the one that says let’s stop arguing and let’s start standing up for this couplehood. Not talking is the worst mistake you can make. Force yourselves to go into this with eyes wide open. Look at your whole financial situation and together begin to figure out creative solutions. Divvy up roles, who’ll research this, who will talk to this person who might have some answers or ideas. Be determined to focus on loving each other and knowing that as long as the two of you are in this together, that’s what counts. Everything else comes and goes, but love is the constant we must focus on. In the book we explain how to get this conversation going so that the focus is on getting over negative history and working together for the future.

Once you become a team there’s inspiration for positive changes. We think clearer and find more answers. My father-in-law, a judge for over 30 years, told me how unfortunate it was when people would not show in court during foreclosure proceedings. Even if they didn’t have an attorney, just showing up could have helped and he could’ve given them more time to manage things. When people are so overwhelmed and feeling alone, they’re more likely to take a wait and see attitude, the very opposite of what will help the most. Teamwork is the goal and you may be surprised how much more creative and confident about the future you will fell when love is more prevalent in your life.

3. Give yourself permission to have fun: There’s a tendency to stop having fun during tough financial times. We have this image that we’re supposed to be sad and overworked. If there’s a spare second, do something to make money. Life doesn’t stop when money is tight. At some point, you’ll decide that you have to get back to living, enjoying parts of your day. Why not give yourself that permission today? You and your partner are allowed to have fun and enjoy life. You can even go on a date for little or no money every week. Try this: on your date, don’t talk about money, work or the kids. If you’re like most people, you’re already laughing out loud wondering what you’ll talk about. Get back to loving your time together and creating fun. Don’t wait to live life.

4. Get the children on board: Parents tend to share as little as possible with their kids because they fear worrying them. Unfortunately for kids, lack of information leads to an overactive imagination. When your kids hear comments during arguments like, “You’re spending all our money,” they think, “Oh my gosh, all of our money is going away.” Yes, your children need reassurance but they also desperately need to be a part of this family team. They can handle the truth as long as they know that their parents are on top of the situation and that there will be love in this family regardless of what comes next. You have the chance to send a powerful message to your children that they will draw on for the rest of their lives: as long as we are focused on the love in our family, we get through anything. Again, in our book, we outline scripts on how to talk to different age children so that they can feel in the loop without feeling anxious.

Now more than ever is the time to send your loved ones this message: let’s focus on us, the love we’ve shared, the kids we’ve brought into this world, and how we can get through this together. The honest sharing of thoughts and feelings, no matter how complicated, brings us into the inner sanctum of our psyches. That in itself sends a message of togetherness.

Great Gift Ideas for Kids

1. For little children, get little presents. Very small children are generally delighted with almost any age-appropriate little toy or interesting item that you give them. If the item is wrapped in pretty paper or has a balloon attached, they will be delighted. There’s no risk of an awkward moment in which the children report to their friends that they didn’t get the really expensive doll or whatever. Parents often joke about how they bought expensive gifts for their toddlers and the kids were more interested in the boxes. Although we may have enjoyed big fancy gifts as children, the toys we played with endlessly were small green plastic soldiers and dolls with removable clothing. Spend less money on the little ones and apply the money saved to presents for the older ones.

2. Ask parents who’ve been there and done that. People who have kids older than yours may have ideas about which gifts, in retrospect, were a universal hit. Assuming that your kids don’t have their hearts set on a specific thing, this is a good strategy for success. At one point we had five kids under the age of seven, with the eldest being six (yeah, we’ve heard the jokes) and we wanted to get something that would be fun for the group. A friend had kids who were a few years older, and she noticed that they loved the Fisher Price pirate ship. This was a well-received toy by our kids, an instant hit, and it was enjoyed for more than a decade. We later bought the Fisher Price castle; the princess joined the pirates on their ship, and it was all a lot of fun. Although some more classic toys like Lincoln Logs ended up being turned into weapons and lost, the castle and the pirate ship endured.

3. Pool resources. Relatives who would otherwise send cash will often enjoy the opportunity to participate in buying a more meaningful gift. You can let it be known that shares in little Yaakov’s new video game system are available.

4. Use the Internet. Look on eBay and on overstock sites on the Web. Bartering sites offer chances to trade a marketable service for merchandise. Discounted merchandise is widely available.

5. Take a trip. Visiting a park or going camping by finding amazing rates on the Internet is a great time-off gift. Because we live in Florida, we often went to Disney World on days off. We bought a one-day pass for each of our older kids (babies are admitted free), drove there and back on the same day, and had a memorable time. We brought along our own food and sodas. There are often tourist attractions that can substitute for expensive material things, and time with family in a different setting is very memorable.

6. Consider a pet. If your financial situation and home life are reasonably stable and you have time and patience, a pet can be a sure way of generating excitement. Please be aware that bringing a pet into your home is a huge responsibility, not something to be undertaken impulsively. If you decide to get a pet, shelters are filled with puppies and kittens abandoned during foreclosures and other crises. The adoption fee is often nominal. The animal will have had all of the necessary shots, the implanted identity chip, and other veterinarian services that would cost at least a thousand dollars if you had to take care of them. Hamsters and their tunnel homes are inexpensive and very exciting for children, but be warned: hamsters do have a habit of disappearing from their cages and reappearing at inopportune moments.

7. Give a group present. Purchase something that the entire family can enjoy, like a Ping-Pong table or a new television. However, this option doesn’t rule out little gifts for the kids. Warehouse and dollar stores can be good places to buy some inexpensive, individual toys to satisfy your children’s wishes for some simple little gifts of their own.

8. Have fun! No matter what gifts you give to your children, if there isn’t a joyful spirit attached, you’ve wasted your money. Make your times together about fun and happy moments with your kids, and that will be the memory; a nice gift will just add background color.

Mordechai Neuman is a licensed psychotherapist and rabbi and the author of the acclaimed New York Times bestseller The Truth about Cheating. He is a frequent guest on Oprah and has made many appearances on Today, Good Morning America, Dateline, The View, The Early Show, Talk of the Nation on NPR, NBC Nightly News, and CBS Weekend News. He and his work have also been featured in People, Time, O: The Oprah Magazine, Marie Claire, Redbook, Parents, Parenting, the Washington Post, Newsweek.com, the Chicago Tribune, and the Miami Herald. He is the creator of the Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an all-day counseling program for couples, and maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, Florida. He is also the author of Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship, Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way, and How to Make a Miracle.

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