And what about you? Don’t you deserve that love and energy coming your way? Both of you deserve to be in love and it doesn’t happen by ignoring your marriage. When you talk, immediately find time for the two of you to spend leisure time together – right away. Mark it on your calendar and make the time sacrosanct. Be clear that he needs to put you and your marriage first, and that the training sessions with her need to stop. If he refuses to stop training with her, it’s likely a sign of significant trouble and you may need to bring in outside help.