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Gone Amiss – Thoughts For Pesach Cleaning

Wednesday, April 14th, 2004

The deeper message behind our vigilant search and removal of chometz for Pesach is the need to remove any vestige of spiritual chometz from our beings and personalities.

The differing ingredients between bread and matza are not very significant – each is made from flour and water. The only central ingredient missing from the matza is the yeast, and the air which causes it to rise.

Chassidic masters explain that spiritually, this air represents an unhealthy self-awareness and a bloated sense of self, which throughout our Pesach preparations, we are vigilantly removing from ourselves and our surroundings.

Each day of Sefirat Haomer between Pesach and Shavuot, on the other hand, reflects a different midah (character trait) that we are working to refine in our personalities. Finally, on Shavuot, we bring an offering of “Shtei Halechem”? real Chometz bread.

Only after an initial scourging of ourselves from our unhealthy sense of self prior to Pesach, and our intense work on personality refinement during Sefirat Haomer, are we able to use our talents and capabilities and our healthy, rectified sense of self for a G-dly offering.

Below are some thoughts on this process, as well as some thoughts to reflect on during your pre-Pesach cleaning.

Last year, on the first day of Pesach as I reached into the top right corner of my jewelry box to fetch my special pair of earrings, my hand returned empty. I rummaged around the back of the jewelry box in case my earrings had dropped into a concealed crevice. I ran my fingers over every small compartment in the box. I scrutinized the top surface of my dresser as well as every small container near my jewelry box, and I groped inside all the drawers throughout my bedroom – all to no avail. My earrings had vanished.

Of course I was upset. After all, this was my favorite pair of earrings, worn solely on special occasions. Moreover, these earrings had personal sentimental value. They were presented to me by my husband commemorating our anniversary. I noticed the tender care in how he chose this pair – delicate white gold shapes, with tiny clasps of yellow gold, surrounded by linear, perfectly aligned square diamonds. Understated and refined elegance.

Almost equally disturbing was the unrest it caused within. My belongings are usually well organized, especially now, after an intense Pre-Pesach clean-up. This threw my calm order out of balance. I couldn’t help but question what else was out of order? Why hadn’t I noticed my misplaced earrings in the immense clean up? Had I neglected some other area of my home?

My initial response to my predicament was, of course, to blame myself. I had been careless and not vigilant enough. Mentally, I went over the times that I had worn these earrings and I hunted inside the pockets of possible outfits where I might have accidentally misplaced them. I checked my desktop if perhaps I had haphazardly taken them off while on the phone.

My next reaction was to blame those around me. Maybe one of my children had thought it would be fun to play with Mommy’s precious present. Or maybe I had instructed one of my youngsters to put the earrings away and the child had gotten sidetracked in the process. I searched through my children’s rooms. I looked through their dressers, their boxes and their toy containers - with no success.

Disconcerting, too, was that over the last several days, I had many workers coming through my home. One polished the wooden floors, another installed a new countertop, and then there was the carpet cleaner. I admit to secretly suspecting that my earrings may have been pocketed by some lucky worker, even though, rationally, I knew that none had even come close to my bedroom.

Finally, after retracing all possible places and a conducting a thorough search of any possible location, lots of mental blaming, an acceptance finally set in. It really wasn’t a tragedy, and it was simply meant to be.

This insignificant incident was small enough for me to apply to the many bigger situations in life, when we have a dream or goal that is “lost”, or goes “missing”. It upsets our plan of organization, of how we feel our life and world “ought” to be. It upsets our careful clean up, our careful plotting and arranging of what goes where and how neatly organized our life should be. Suddenly, this uncalled for change of direction makes us realize that we are not in charge.

Our reaction to these sudden losses of dreams, goals or plans is manifold. First, we usually search our ways, to determine if all is in order. This is healthy self-evaluation and productive reorganization.

But then, we sometimes progress to the next unconstructive step, becoming obsessed with the loss, blaming ourselves irrationally, and incriminating others accusatorially.


There comes a time when we have to reach an acceptance, that for reasons beyond our control, the situation was simply meant to be.

And sometimes, unexpectedly, with that acceptance, may come the solution to our missing goal or dream.

For example, a few days later, when I opened up my jewelry box, I found my special earrings in their proper spot. “Hey, I am so happy! Who found my lost earrings?” I jubilantly exclaimed to my children.

Apparently, my oldest daughter spotted my missing earrings in my youngest child’s room, where they were nestling on his bookshelf and, knowing how distraught I was, she was pleased to return them to their rightful location.

The exact path that my earrings journeyed en route to my son’s room still remains a mystery – one which I don’t care to unravel. Mystifying, as well, is the fact that I checked my son’s room, as well as this bookshelf several times. How this obvious spot missed my vigilant search still eludes me.

But the case of my missing earrings did teach me that, despite careful plotting of goals, aspirations and dreams, there are times when we need to let go, and let things be. Furthermore, once we reach the acceptance that it is just meant to be – often the solution is at hand.

Chana Weisberg is the author of The Crown of Creation and The Feminine Soul. She is the dean of the Institute of Jewish Studies in Toronto and is a scholar in residence for www.askmoses.com. She is also a columnist for www.chabad.org’s Weekly Magazine. Mrs. Weisberg lectures regularly on issues relating to women, relationships and mysticism and welcomes your comments or inquiries at: weisberg@sympatico.ca. 

Q & A: Women Counting Sefirat Haomer (Conclusion)

Wednesday, June 13th, 2001

QUESTION: In my wife’s family, women count Sefirat Haomer. This is something that I have not seen in my own family, although they are quite observant. As a newly married couple, we are quite confused.
 
Please discuss this matter and explain.
No name please
Toronto, Ontario
 
ANSWER: Last week we explained that though all Jews were given the Torah, not every Jew is able – or responsible – to perform every command due to circumstance. One such example being those ‘Mitzvot Hateluyot Ba’aretz’ – commands unique to those who dwell in Eretz Yisrael, which those living in the Diaspora are exempt from.

We also quoted the mishna in Kiddushin (29a) which exempts women from ‘mitzvot asei she’hazeman garma’ – timely positive precepts. In seeking a source for this ruling the Gemara on the Mishna based this on the mitzva of Tefillin.

Kol Bo explains the Torah’s reason for exempting women from performing these mitzvos as being due to their heavy household responsibilities (including raising the family).

We then set out to determine the status of this mitzva of Sefirat Haomer – counting the omer – is it indeed a timely precept or not.

We then began to quote from the discussion on this matter found in the Sefer ‘Orot Hapesach’ by Harav Shlomo Wahrman, Rosh HaYeshiva of Nassau County. He quotes the Rambam who rules that Sefirat Haomer is a positive precept incumbent [only] upon males. Kesef Mishneh explains this is due to it being a timely precept. Ramban, whom we quoted, rules otherwise and and includes Sefirat Haomer among those mitzvos that are not timely, thus obligating women in their performance. We now continue with this discussion.

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Avnei Nezer on Orach Chayim 384 finds great difficulty with Ramban’s inclusion of Sefirat Haomer in this grouping, since how is it possible to refer to Sefirat Haomer as a non-timely precept as it is only observed between Pesach and Shavuot’

Rav Wahrman postulates as follows. Perhaps the words of the Ramban including Sefirat Haomer as an non-timely precept [and thus women are obligated in this mitzvah] is really due to a different reason. It is well known that there is a dispute regarding Sefirat Haomer in our times [bereft of the Beit Hamikdash, our Holy Temple] as to whether this is considered a Biblical command. The Ramban, as we quoted, rules that even today it is a mitzvah of Biblical nature – and so rules the Chinuch, R’ Eliezer ben Yoel Halevi, R’ Amram Gaon, Ritz Gaos, as well as the Be’er Halachah and the Orach Chayyim 489, who quotes as well the names of many Rishonim.

However, on the other hand the Tur, Mechaber and many other poskim (see Be’ur Halachah ad loc.) rule that in our times this counting is only Rabbinical [however it was established in the style of a Biblical mitzvah, thus we must wait until 'Tzeit HaKochavim,' the minimum three stars required to begin to count] and was instituted as a remembrance for the Temple.

If we rule that counting the omer today is Rabbinical, continues Rav Wahrman, then indeed women should be obligated. This is according to Bircei Yosef, Orach Chayyim 291:8 who quotes Orchot Chayyim and Rabbeinu Tam as saying that regarding Rabbinical commands, men and women are equally obligated [and thus there are no exemption]. We find this rule as well in the Sefer Hamanhig, who explains that for this reason women are obligated to partake of the three meals on the Sabbath [which one may reason as being a timely command].

The only difficulty with this solution to our problem is Tosafot S.V. ‘Mi shelo Ra’ah Meorot, etc.’ (Megillah 24a), where it is stated that women are absolved from performing ‘Mitzvot Asei Shehazeman Garma,? positive timely precepts, even when they are only of Rabbinical nature, because we find as relates to Chanukah candles, four cups [of wine at the Seder on Pesach], and the reading of the Megillah [Esther on Purim], which are only Rabbinical and yet they [women] are obligated in these mitzvot [for a different reason] because they too were beneficiaries of each of those miracles.

Even as such, while we might venture a solution notwithstanding this difficulty, from Ramban’s words we see clearly that he refers to Sefirat Haomer as ‘Mitzvot Asei She’Ein Hazeman Garma’ – a non-timely precept. We thus remain with Anvei Nezer’s question as to how can Sefirat Haomer, which takes place in a specific time each year [between Pesach and Shavuot], be included among those mitzvot that are indeed non-timely.

In order to understand those Rishonim who posit that women are obligated in all Rabbinical precepts, we must note that Rambam (in Sefer Hamitzvot, shoresh 1) and the Ba’al Halachot Gedolot both rule that these precepts too are of Biblical origin via the Pasuk in Parashat Shoftim (Devarim 17:11) ‘…Lo Tasur Min Hadavar Asher Yagidu Lecha’ – you shall not turn aside from that matter that they [the sages] shall tell you.’ We must question, however, the aim of the mitzvah – whether it is, in regard to Chanukah candles, for example, the lighting itself, or that we have fulfilled the condition of listening to the sages.

Thus if the purpose is listening to the sages, it would seem that the aim of the mitzvah is not the actual individual mitzvah but only its performance in the context of ‘listening to the sages.’ Thus regarding a Rabbinical mitzvah, even though it is timely, its purpose ‘to listen to the sages’ would make it non-timely and women as well as men would be obligated in its performance.

However, due to various questions in his more detailed discussion, Rav Wahrman suggests yet another approach in explaining the Ramban’s reasoning. In certain instances, the performance of a mitzvah would be possible at all times, were it not for a statement in the Torah such as regarding tefillin in Parashat Bo (Shemot 13:10), ‘Veshamarta et Hachukah Hazot L’Moadah Miyamim Yamima,’ you shall keep this law in its times, from time to time [Rashi ad loc 'from year to year,' but lit. 'from days to days']. In the Gemara Eruvin 96a we find that from the first word ‘Yamim,’ days, we exclude nights, and so rules Rabeinu Tam, Tosefet S.V. ‘Ve’shamarta et Hachukah,’ and Rambam Hilchot Tefillin 4:10.

Thus we might possibly argue that only in such a case where we have a specific exclusion do we refer to a precept as timely, but where its observance is in a certain time frame only due to circumstance, i.e. that the wheat must have ripened and that time happens to occur on the 16th of Nissan, but if that ripening would occur at another time perhaps the obligation to count would be at that different time (as well), thus this could be a possible explanation for Ramban positing that this is a non-timely precept.

Regarding the actual halachah as pertains to women’s obligation in Sefirat Haomer, Rav Wahrman quotes Magen Avraham, Orach Chayyim 489, who states that women are exempted from Sefirat Haomer because it is a timely precept, however ‘they have already accepted upon themselves [this mitzvah] as obligatory.’

Sha’ar Hatziyun quotes the Pri Chodosh, who states that women are indeed exempt, and he makes no mention of them having accepted upon themselves its obvservance. Minchat Chinuch Mitzvah 206 further questions this reasoning of the Magen Avraham, for we do not see that in observance of any mitzvah where one accepted upon himself the mitzvah should become obligatory [as if actually obligated].

The Mishnah Berurah (ad loc) quotes the sefer Shulchan Shlomo that at the very least women should not recite the blessing because they possibly will either forget one day [*and thus not complete the Mitzvah properly for the remainder of the days'], and as a general rule women do not know the meaning of the words.

Rav Wahrman finds difficulties with this last statement as many women in today’s generation are quite learned and do understand Hebrew well [and possibly their scholarship will prevent them from forgetting to count on any given night as well]. He then concludes by quoting Aruch Hashulchan ad loc, ‘And the women are exempted [from Sefirat Haomer] because it is a timely precept, but nevertheless they have accustomed themselves to bless and count as in all timely precepts, such as shofar, sukkah and lulav.’

Harav Zvi Cohen writes in his sefer Halachot U’Minhagim Hashalem, Sefirat Haomer volume chapter 4:18 regarding a woman who indeed is accustomed to recite the blessing of Sefirat Haomer, that she can fulfill the obligation of another woman [but not another man]. He quotes the Gaon R? Chaim Kanievsky who says that this rule applies even though their blessing requirement is not obligatory but of permissible nature. I might have thought, he explains, that one cannot act as a meesenger for another in such a case, but rather, our rule here is that just as one who has already fulfilled his obligation [for kiddush, for example] can fulfill another individual?s requirement, the same must be true here as well.

As to why we see that women do indeed recite a blessing on certain timely mitzvot, we find the following in the responsa Tiferet Tzvi (of Harav Hagaon Nachum Tzvi Kornmehl, zt”l) siman 6: Certain mitzvot that deal with Kedushah al Haguf, holiness on the body, meaning that the body is the object of the mitzvah – such as tefillin, which we wear, or sukkah, which we are required to sit therein, or talit, which we wear – in such cases women do not recite the blessing, but with lulav and shofar, where the mitzvah is itself the object, we find that women do recite the blessing.

Nevertheless, since in this case the mitzvah of counting as well as the blessing are not obligatory, where your wife’s family has a minhag that differs from yours, we already have a rule that a women follows her husband’s minhag (see Igrot Moshe, Yoreh Deah vol. 4:3, who attributes this to Chullin 110b).

Q & A: Women Counting Sefirat Haomer

Wednesday, June 6th, 2001

QUESTION: In my wife’s family, women count Sefirat Haomer. This is something that I have not seen in my own family, although they are quite observant. As a newly married couple, we are quite confused.

Please discuss this matter and explain.
No name please
Toronto, Ontario
 
ANSWER: It is understood that the Torah was given to us so that we study it and learn therein to perform its many commands, which Hashem so commanded us.

In this regard, all Jews are equally responsible in their performance, albeit certain situations which obviate their performance, such as the case of a Yisroel being unable to perform any of the myriad mitzvot that are incumbent upon Kohanim in their service of Hashem.

We find as well ‘Mitzvot Hateluyot Ba’aretz’ – commands that are unique to those who dwell in Eretz Yisroel – shmittah, yovel, etc., which any Jew who lives there must perform, while a Jew who lives in ‘Chutz L’Aretz’ - in the Diaspora – is totally exempt in their performance.

We also find certain mitzvot that are gender restricted and relate to our question. The source for these restrictions and what circumstance causes these restrictions is found in Perek Haisha Niknit (Kiddushin 29a). The Mishnah states, ‘…And any positive precept that is performed in a timely manner, men are required to perform them and women are exempt from them. And any positive precept that is not performed in a timely manner, both men and women are required to perform them….’

The Gemara on the Mishnah discusses in detail the source for the Mishnah’s ruling and finds numerous possibilities - firstly that we compare all mitzvot to tefillin, which is in itself compared to Talmud Torah, of which the Pasuk in Parashat V’etchanan (Devarim 6:7) [which happens to be the first parasha of Kriat Shema] states, ‘VeShinantam L’[b]anecha,’ and you shall teach them to your sons. The Gemara goes into a long discussion and finds exceptions to the rule. The Gemara also gives us another source, ‘Reiah’ - the mitzvot of going up to Jerusalem three times a year, which the Torah in Parashat Mishpatim (Shemot 23:17) states, ‘Shalosh Pa’amim Bashanah Yeraeh Kol Zechurecha,’ three times in the year shall all your males be seen [in Jerusalem]. The Gemara in its discussion seeks out many other mitzvot, such as ‘Kibud av v’em,’ etc., to serve as our source for women’s requirement in those precepts that are not time related, and throughout the whole discussion uses a process of elimination. Our rule, though, is such that generally women are not required to perform any of these time related mitzvot, and men are.

Kol Bo Siman 73 quotes the Ba’al HaMelamed on Parashat Lech-Lecha in explaining the reason that the Torah freed women of this responsibility: Since the woman is the helpmate for the man [and she is the one in charge of the household], thus if she would be occupied with all timely mitzvot, her aid to him [lit. her work] would be left undone and this would be a source of friction between the couple.

It is pertinent to our discussion to delineate our attitude in regard to counting the omer: Is it indeed a timely precept’ It would seem to be such since it comes at a certain time in the year. Or is it likened to ‘matzah,’ which comes at a certain time in the year, yet women are nevertheless included in the obligation’ This (matzah requirement) is part of the Gemara’s discussion in Perek Haisha Niknit.

In researching this question I recalled having seen a similar discussion in the sefer ‘Orot HaPesach’ by Hagaon Horav Shlomo Wahrman, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva of Nassau County. We will highlight some of his in-depth discussions found in siman 79.

Rav Wahrman quotes the Rambam Hilchot Temidin U’musafin 7:22-24: It is a positive precept – Mitzvat Asei – to count (Sefirat Haomer) seven full weeks from the day that the omer was first brought, as it says in Parashat Emor (Vayikra 23:15), ‘Usefartem Lachem Mimacharat Hashabbat Miyom Haviachem et Omer Hatenufah Sheva Shabbatot Temimot Tihiyena,’ and you shall count from the morrow of the Sabbath [i.e. Pesach] from the day you bring the omer of waving, seven complete weeks shall they be. It is a mitzvah to count days with weeks, as it says [in the next pasuk, 23:16], ‘Tisperu Chamishim Yom,’ you shall count 50 days…. We count from the beginning of the day, i.e., the night of the 16th of Nissan. If one forgot to count at night he counts by day, and one must count standing - but if one counted while sitting, he has nevertheless fulfilled his obligation. This mitzvah is incumbent on all Jewish males in every place and at every time, and women and slaves are exempt from its performance.’

Kesef Mishnah explains that the exemption for women is due to this being a ‘Mitzvat Asei She’Hazeman Garma,’ a positive timeley precept. We find as well in the Chinuch in Mizvah 306 that Sefirat Haomer is a Biblical command observed by males.

The Ramban in his novella on Mesechet Kiddushin 34a states the following: ‘And as regards positive [Biblical] precepts that are not timely, many are yet left [such as] ‘morah,’ fear [of one's parents], ‘kavod,’ honor [of one's parents], ‘bikurim,’ first produce, ‘chalah,’ [which we take from the dough], ‘kisuy hadam,’ covering of the blood [of non-domesticated animals, i.e., 'chaya,' or of fowl, when they are slaughtered], ‘raishit hagez,’ the first shearing [of the sheep], ‘matanot,’ lit. the ‘presents’ one gives to Kohanim, Leviyim and the destitute, ‘Sefirat Haomer,’ lit. the counting of the omer, ‘prikah u’teinah,’ lit. ‘unloading and loading,’ i.e., helping one’s fellow with the loading and unloading of heavy parcels, etc.’

(To be continued)

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