Marriage and Relationships

Carefully and respectfully raise this issue again. Explain to him that while your salary might be higher than his, your earnings would be used for your collective family.

Although you are trying to lighten the atmosphere, it sounds like the humor in these situations is sometimes damaging to your relationship with your children.

I would be remiss if I didn’t take a moment to mention that while I could never condone hurting someone’s feelings, the truth still matters.

I was a young wife, with two young children and my husband became remarkably successful financially... While I tried to be a loving mother and wife, I often felt very alone in raising our children.

Taking the time to reach out to those who know a potential date will offer insight into personality and character traits before you even meet them.

I never thought that my going out to lunch alone with our daughter would trigger him. He told me that he felt left out. It reminded him of his childhood when he felt excluded by his parents and his friends.

You have been blessed. You met someone quickly and forged a strong connection with ease. There are however, some guidelines that you can remember to reassure yourself that you are making a healthy decision. It’s all about the C’s.

I am sure you have a lot to offer someone and it would be good to start focusing on your positive attributes in order to help pull yourself out of this depression.

Controlling behavior is always a red flag. A healthy relationship includes compromise and at the very least a willingness to listen.

I strongly believe in something I call “cozy time.” This is the time when you put your children to sleep. It would be most advantageous for each child to get five to ten minutes of alone time with both of you every night.

You want to make a life with this wonderful guy, but you worry that when he sees where and how you have grown up, he will think less of you, less of your family. You feel ashamed.

It appears that you have to try to navigate this situation in a loving manner and try to help your husband understand that you get headaches from a hot house.

You need to recognize that while you like each other and see promise in a future together, something in one or both of you is preventing an emotional connection from developing to the point that you can commit to one another.

When a person gives you unsolicited advice, you can say, I appreciate your suggestion, but what I really need is a listening ear and support through my situation.

We can perhaps discuss the importance of honesty. You did not give your sisters the chance to accept your choice with dignity before you began dating.

OCD responds extremely well to cognitive-behavioral therapy. Research has demonstrated that cognitive-behavioral therapy is indeed most effective in treating OCD.

It is frustrating to feel like an afterthought. While I would like to give your date the benefit of the doubt and assume he most certainly wanted to be there, how he presented himself made you feel otherwise.

Psychologically, you can try to approach them in a calm manner to discuss what happened, but I am not sure that this will be helpful and it may just escalate the issue.

I have said this before and I will say it again; if someone cannot commit to you after a year, they are unlikely to commit to you ever.

I question whether you must call her often and bear the pain of her hurtful remarks.

While there are definitely older singles who are doctors, they are not standing en masse waiting for accomplished women outside the Emergency Room.

On the question whether singles felt that the Orthodox system of dating was going well, Nishma found that most singles had an unfavorable view.

Try to remove your feelings from the situation and become neutral. Don't feel that the child is purposely trying to upset you as this will just exacerbate the situation.

We can always argue that we only need that 'one' right person, but we still need to be offered the opportunities to meet that special guy.

Rabbi Wallerstein answered me, We cannot live without time. When your time is up, Hashem takes your neshama. There is no choice.

You friend is not expecting you to pull a perfect single guy out of a magic hat. She does however, want your care, concern, and friendship.

It is always possible to overcome a tough situation through out of the box thinking, and not give in to the only options you think you have to pick from.

How you present yourself is key. Both your character and your appearance should be refined to reflect who you are accurately and to your highest standard.

My husband expects me to be the tzaddaikes and always give into my mother-in-law for kibud em. He says that Hashem gave him a difficult mother, but he chose me to be his wife.

Please don’t think I am minimizing what you feel, but you must immediately expand your circle, your horizons, and your world.