Marriage and Relationships

Your husband, as you report, has been raised in a home where his mother was completely dependent on his father. Thus, his expectation is for you to be the same way on some level.

Don't focus on the negatives, that's the easy thing to do.

Using imagery with deep breathing usually makes the techniques more effective and generally helps people maintain their focus better.

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Woman are looking for a man. This is more than a gender – it’s character. Women want someone they can rely on, emotionally, physically, and yes, monetarily.

Almost every profession has what we call the tools of the trade, and with marriage it isn't any different. If you're single, engaged or a newlywed, you need to have the tools it takes to build a successful marriage. Yet for many of us even when the chosen and kallah classes are over, they still find it difficult to use the tools that they have just learned.

In order to deal with the anxiety you are feeling, you need to identify what you are thinking. You are likely having anxious thoughts. These thoughts are probably swimming around your mind all day and are exacerbating your anxious feelings.

Networking is also a very good medium. We let the word out when we were initially looking to adopt; we told many people. She should let the word out to people she knows outside of her state.

It is also imperative that you work hard to keep the spark in your marriage alive and that you always work on communication.

I surprise my wife with gifts, large and small.

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How could they have just sent him back with a warning?

You are doing so well. Dating is a challenge that often feels like a race without rules. Perhaps now is the perfect time to breathe and regroup.

We peel away one layer after the next, our eyes tear up and it becomes harder and harder to see as we get closer to our innermost insecurities and fears.

Who created the current rules of dating? Why must the guy always pick up the girl by car, and pay for tolls, gas, etc., if things are not guaranteed to work out? After all, I may not be attracted to the girl, or our personalities may not click; thus, it turns out to be a waste of money and time for me.

We can perhaps discuss the importance of honesty. You did not give your sisters the chance to accept your choice with dignity before you began dating.

We never really know what other people are enduring. Life is so challenging. People often evaluate situations based on what they see, which is often not the whole picture.

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If, however, you are happy to give someone a second chance at a date, you do not box yourself in with lists or refuse to continue dating someone if he doesn’t meet your extensive checklist, and you know specifically why you did not connect, then you can rest assured.

In fact Hashem sets up couples that have opposite traits as an opportunity for each to help, learn, and heal the other.

I see no harm done in starting with Zoom dating to at least get to know the person initially.

You are happy with the way your dates have evolved, and may even have appreciated some advice from family along the way. Somewhere, though, boundaries were lost, and solicited opinions turned into a runaway train.

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My mother-in-law and I have had our problems since the beginning of my marriage.

One of the most powerful dimensions of a successful marriage is a couple’s ability to keep focused on each other's good points and unique personality traits. Too often, people become fixated on the negative, sweating “over the small stuff," and forgetting the positive points that brought them together in the first place.

Having a constant critic around is like having someone hitting you over the head on a regular basis.

They waited in silence for the train to glide into the station. When they got on the train, Leah said, I missed you.

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My wife comes from a dysfunctional home where her mother always put her father down.

My husband expects me to be the tzaddaikes and always give into my mother-in-law for kibud em. He says that Hashem gave him a difficult mother, but he chose me to be his wife.