The Pursuit Of Happiness: Getting Married Without a Mother’s Presence
You have been doing so well, striving for growth and joy every day.
Dates Are Just A Number
Take a deep breath. You are doing so well. Dating someone you like, and feeling positive about your dates is huge. Everything was going nicely until your sister’s blanket statement about timelines and expectations through you off course.
The Money Tree
You family has done you a disservice in not being more transparent about the money that they earn to afford the lifestyle that they have raised you in and the effort that it takes for them to get there. Life in expensive.
An Inner Harmony Like No Other
Dear Dr. Respler:
Although I am only 40 years old, I feel as if I have discovered the ultimate emotional healing remedy.
The Meaning Of Time
Not enjoying saying no, I often succumbed to requests viewing them as demands I couldn't refuse.
Complaint From Husband About Wife Who Is Constantly Screaming
Question: My wife screams and curses at me. For years I have been asking her to stop, but she hasn’t. Now she’s begun doing the same thing to our children, ages 10 and 7 – and they cower in fear. Actually, we are all afraid of her. She never hits, but I think the verbal abuse and screaming is worse.
Marital Connection Plan (Second Of Two Parts)
Dear Mordechai,
Our marriage has gotten stale. It’s not that we don’t love each other but with the kids and everything else there seems to never be any time for my husband and me. I’m sure we’re not the only ones but we need some real help. What can we do and how can we go about making time for our marriage. Everyone says just make time but that never seems to work.
Yankel and Leah – Chapter 3
It had never before occurred to him in such stark terms that his G-d and the G-d of his father were not the same. In fact, they were very different.
Dear Dr. Yael
Every situation is different. Also, it is important to try to remember that your children may still love you, even if they don’t come for the holidays. Perhaps they have more difficult children or really need more space for whatever reason.
The Perils Of Giving Advice: A Reader Reacts
Her actions and advice told them that they didn't know how to raise their children and as a child-rearing expert, she was showing them how to do it correctly.
Coping With The Loss Of A Child
Caring gestures like a homemade, baked item, a small gift, or a card are very appreciated and leave an extra-special warm feeling - that someone with whom you are not particularly close is thinking of you. It also takes away the lonely feeling of being "failures" or "ones who are different."
Beyond The Picket Fence
At a wedding, I sit across from a woman I don't know.
"What's your name?" she asks me.
"Alanna Fine," I say, choosing to introduce myself with my maiden name.
"And what's your maiden name?" she asks me.
"That is my maiden name."
"Oh, I'm sorry. I thought that was a sheitel on your head."
"It is. I'm divorced."
"Oh, I'm sorry."
"It's ok," I reply, knowing it won't be the last time I hear that.
Yankel And Leah – Chapter 17
Yankel’s father held on to his son’s hand for a brief moment. I was passing by and I was seized by the urge to see this place. I hadn’t planned on disturbing you, but I was recognized by one of your yeshiva bochur friends who insisted on fetching you.
Let’s Be Real
For an introvert, a date can feel like a huge obstacle that they are unable to scale. There is a lot of talking on dates.
Getzlight – Chapter 3
Everything changed from that day. No more smiles, no more evening walks, no more asking about the other’s day. Nothing between us would ever be the same.
Old News In A New Age: Online Dating For Cheating Spouses
They see these sites and all the other avenues available on the web as part of a fantasy world and convince themselves that they will not be held accountable for their actio
Dear Dr. Yael
It seems like Hashem gave you important things in life that money can’t buy. He gave you a special husband and a good family. These brachos are invaluable. Money does not buy happiness.
The Good And Bad Lies In Marriage
Are we allowed to lie for shalom bayis? It would seem so, but what might be a healthy guideline for when it’s okay and when it’s not?
After All
Please don’t think I am minimizing what you feel, but you must immediately expand your circle, your horizons, and your world.
Dear Dr. Yael
When physicians prescribe steroids, they usually do it as a last choice. They don't inform the patient of the effects it can have on his personality since they don't want to suggest something that may not happen.
Enhancing A Marriage’s Prospects For Success
Dear Dr. Yael:
Do you really believe that the Internet is the reason why the divorce rate is so high among young couples? This may be so in some cases, but what about the fact that many singles are pressured to get married at a young age despite not having any idea what they are looking for in a mate? And add to that the fact that many are pressured to make a decision about marriage after dating for a very short period of time.
Always Leads To Never
It is perfectly normal to have a specific vision for your future and can even be helpful in helping you to achieve and grow. Presumably however, you have dated people with these criteria and have not yet found the person for you.
Dear Dr. Yael
First try to figure out what is making your husband angry. He may have an issue with anger in general, but perhaps you can isolate the trigger points.
Starting All Over
When searching for a partner in marriage we are often attracted to people who are different than we are. Sometimes the very same qualities we find charming and exciting are the ones we find ourselves trying to change after marriage. Rather than understand, accept and appreciate our partners for who they are, we turn the differences into the source of our frustration, irritation and dissatisfaction.
The Numbers Game
Unless your crystal ball works better than mine, no one can predict the future of any couple or knows what life may bring.
Dear Dr. Yael
My question is do all our needs have to be fulfilled by our spouse? Maybe some of your needs can be met by siblings, good friends, or close cousins.
Dear Dr. Yael
"I know people mean well... but..."
How About Husband Schools? – A Reaction
Instead of putting it all on the men, saying for example that they are "trained" by "society" to feel, think and behave as they do, perhaps you could have encouraged these self-described happily-married women to look in the mirror and try to figure out why their husbands seem to act insensitively toward them.