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Too Busy With Kiruv to Remember Chesed (Part I)

Wednesday, October 22nd, 2008

(Names and situation changed)

We live in a time where there is a great need for kiruv (outreach). Many Jewish children are growing up with little or no knowledge of their Jewish heritage. Assimilation is rampant.  Even in religious communities many of us have family and friends that are choosing non-religious paths. Baruch Hashem we also live in an age that is addressing this problem. There are many wonderful kiruv organizations and wonderful people fighting tirelessly to bring these souls back to their roots.

It is not uncommon for adversity to be the catalyst that causes people to challenge their belief system.  Watching a parent suffer from long-term illness, watching them suffer through pain for years may cause children to have questions about their own and their parents’ observance. How the children and adults come through this adversity is sometimes related to who gives the family support and how that support or lack of it is dealt with.

I discussed this issue with some religious well spouses. I asked them how they and their children dealt with chronic illness and religion. For many, the illness was as much an issue in determining the future observance of the children as was the support they received from their community. The more support the family received from their religious community the less there seemed to be a problem with later religious observance.

However, if the religious community’s support was non-existent especially in contrast to the support given by to the family by non-religious Jews or even non Jews, the more the likelihood seemed to be that the children (and sometimes the parents) would step away from their own observance.

I interviewed some well spouses who lived in smaller religious communities where the emphasis of the community and religious leaders was on kiruv. Hamantashen baking, shmura matzah distribution, Shabbatonim and any activities that would get people to enjoy their heritage and implant a desire to learn more about Judaism was the order of the day. It involved the whole religious community.

The Rosenberg family was very involved as well. Their house was always open to people who needed a Shabbos experience and Mr. and Mrs. Rosenberg rarely said no when called upon to help with the many kiruv activities. That was until Mr. Rosenberg was diagnosed with a chronic illness. At that point, the Rosenberg’s focus turned inward and though they were still involved in kiruv, their life began to revolve around illness.

Mr. Rosenberg was then hospitalized for almost a year. Community visits to him became less frequent over time, and after three months only one person in his community ever bothered to visit him in the hospital. It was as if the family had become invisible. Mrs. Rosenberg and her children were left alone for every Shabbos and Yom Tov meal. They were seemingly forgotten except when there was a need for a kiruv project.

At one point, a package of 30 shalach manos was just left at her door with a note to please deliver these to the addresses listed. It was just assumed she could and would help. No one had asked her (now that illness had invaded her home) if she had time and energy for this delivery job while working, making hospital visits and dealing with her husband’s inability to work.

Mrs. Rosenberg told me of another incident that occurred while she was feeling very depressed from the absence of any Shabbos invitations for the months of her husband’s hospital stay. In shul one Shabbos morning, Mrs. Rosenberg was sitting between the kiruv rabbi’s wife and the young mother of a new ba’al teshuvah family when the rabbi’s wife leaned across her to invite the ba’al teshuvah’s family to lunch without even asking Mrs. Rosenberg about her lunch plans. Going home with her children to their fatherless house, Mrs. Rosenberg cried her way through kiddush.

The eldest Rosenberg child was to have his bar mitzvah shortly after his father’s release from hospital. Adjusting to her husband’s new condition, Mrs. Rosenberg felt she could not handle the food preparation for the kiddush (as there was very limited kashrus available in the city) as well as deal with the changes illness had brought into the home. And so, she asked one of the women in the community who sometimes did catering what it would cost her for a kiddush. Mrs. Rosenberg was astounded at the high price (especially for something she used to do at cost or less, as a chesed). But she knew everyone needed to earn a living and so she was going to find the money somehow. But it was when she was told that there would be an extra $200 charge for the cost of the rabbi’s wife as mashgiach that she lost it.

Today, the Rosenbergs are still observant. Some of their children, however, are not. Mrs. Rosenberg attributes their turn-off to the lack of chesed when her husband became ill. She wonders why chesed had to be sacrificed for kiruv and why both could not exist side by side. She wonders who will provide the kiruv for her unobservant children and her grandchildren – kiruv that she feels would not have been necessary if chesed had not been lost in the stampede to do kiruv.

You can reach me at annnovick@hotmail.com

Ann Novick

Letters To The Editor

Wednesday, May 9th, 2007

In Praise Of Marc Shapiro (I)
   I thoroughly enjoyed Elliot Resnick’s interview with Professor Marc Shapiro (“Things Once Taken For Granted Are Now Considered Unacceptable,” April 27). It’s a real credit to The Jewish Press that the article ran at all, which is a sad commentary on the state of Orthodoxy today and the fearful, obscurantist mentality of the other Orthodox publications out there.
   The reason an outspoken Orthodox intellectual like Marc Shapiro is considered persona non grata in certain circles is that he isn’t afraid to point out uncomfortable truths and to shine the light of history on troubling developments in Orthodox life that have come to be viewed, wrongly, as somehow a natural progression from the Orthodoxy of our fathers and grandfathers.

Rabbi Shmuel Bailinson

(Via E-Mail)


In Praise Of Marc Shapiro (II)
   Having read the interview with Professor Shapiro, I have renewed hope that sanity can again emerge in Orthodox life. I can’t wait to read his next book.

Eleanor Ehrenkranz

(Via E-Mail)


Shapiro On Glatt
   Re Marc Shapiro’s reference to how glatt became the accepted standard among Orthodox Jews:
   I’m old enough to remember that in the 1960’s a brand like Hebrew National advertised in Orthodox publications, and as recently as the 1970’s Torah luminaries like Rav Pinchus Teitz, zt”l, decried the claim that non-glatt was somehow unacceptable for frum Jews.
   Professor Shapiro was spot-on with his observation that “it’s very unusual for a tradition that regards itself as following the past to reject what previous standards were.” So much of what I see practiced in right-wing yeshiva circles is predicated on a rejection of the Orthodoxy that was perfectly acceptable to the rabbonim of thirty and forty years ago. That’s a proper mesorah?

Isaac Meltzer

New York, NY


Football To Frumkeit
   I had the pleasure of meeting former NFL player and now Orthodox Jew Alan Veingrad (“From the Super Bowl to the Shabbos Table,” April 20) when he spoke at Chabad of East Boca Raton on a Friday night in 2005. I am a very big football fan and an observant Jew, so the experience was a big treat for me.
   Mr. Veingrad was a bit surprised when I told him I was such a devout (female) football fan that I actually owned a college football playbook and read it in my house.
   I remember that Mr. Veingrad talked about how much more satisfaction he got from the Torah way of life than from life in the NFL. I can understand this because Penn State Coach Joe Paterno and Oklahoma Coach Tom Osborne talk about the runaway divorce rate among pro football players. In addition, many players are seriously injured during their time in the NFL.
   In contrast, the Torah way of life provides a spiritual path of healing and satisfaction that comes from following an ancient connection to Hashem and the fulfillment of mitzvot like Shabbos, kashrut, and Torah study. Judaism provides the spiritual and intellectual nourishment and the family life that are lacking in professional sports.
   Thanks for the wonderful portrait of Mr. Veingrad. It brought back a memorable and uplifting spiritual experience.

Rebecca Witonsky

Boca Raton, FL

Fans Of Dr. Levine

   We just wanted to let you know how much we look forward to Dr. Yitzchok Levine’s monthly “Glimpses Into American Jewish History” columns as well as his longer front-page essay articles.
   Dr. Levine manages to pack so much interesting historical material into his articles and he does so in manner that, while scholarly, is easily accessible to non-scholars.

Max and Barbara Morris

(Via E-Mail)




Campus Kiruv: Who Came First?


Giving Credit
      I read with great interest Rabbi Meir Goldberg’s op-ed article (“Encouraging Trends in Campus Kiruv“) in the May 2 issue. It is wonderful to see the Orthodox community recognizing that college campuses are filled with Jews waiting to be engaged, as well as Orthodox students in need of chizuk. But when Rabbi Goldberg writes “Approximately ten years ago things started to change,” I believe he is greatly mistaken, particularly with regard to Rutgers University, where he directs his programming.
      First, to ignore the work over the years of many Orthodox rabbis and professionals in Hillel Foundations as well as Chabad Houses is simply unfair. During my time as a Rutgers student, during the mid-1990’s, Rutgers Hillel was led by Rabbi David Gutterman, a musmach of YU and Mir, who attracted students from Orthodox day schools while inspiring many students from non-Orthodox backgrounds like myself to increase their observance.
      Second, the Partners In Torah program, with members of the Lakewood Yeshiva community, was active in the Rutgers community at least since 1993 in partnership with Hillel. I’m proud to say I participated in that program as well. My chevrusa and I learned many things together, and he has been a close friend and supporter during my path to observance. In fact, I recently attended the bar mitzvah of his son, who was born just before we began learning together.
      Finally, the work of the Jewish Learning Initiative, a joint program of the OU and Hillel International, should not be underestimated. This program, headed by Rabbi Ilan Haber and one of my teachers, Rabbi Menachem Schrader of Yeshivat Hamivtar in Efrat, has placed rabbinic couples on at least 10 campuses nationwide, including Rutgers, serving to strengthen the Torah atmosphere for Orthodox students and engaging many non-Orthodox Jewish students as well.
      I had the pleasure of meeting Rav Beryl Gershenfeld many years ago, and I have no doubt that the programs of the Maimonides fellowship have had tremendous success at Rutgers and across the country. I believe it is important for the greater Orthodox community to be aware of all of the different programs that continue to do incredible work on college campuses nationwide.
      To suggest, however, that campus kiruv was virtually non-existent 10 years ago is simply misleading. I hope the Orthodox community will continue to support the important work of all of these organizations as well as encourage these organizations to work in partnership rather than in opposition in order to maximize the effect they can have on campuses.

Rabbi Yossi Pollak

Congregation Bnai Jacob Anschei Brzezan (The Stanton Street Shul)

New York, NY



Rebbe Bucked Anti-Kiruv Trend

      Rabbi Meir Goldberg writes of a nascent movement in campus kiruv emanating from the yeshivish world. This is of course welcome news, all the more so if it is the harbinger of a serious shift in yeshivish priorities. One can only welcome serious outreach efforts to disenfranchised Jews, especially on those college campuses where such programs do not yet exist.
      However, Rabbi Goldberg does himself and the reader a disservice by turning history on its head and declaring that “kiruv in its early stages was performed mostly by Torah Umesorah and NCSY.” Kiruv in the United States originated with the Lubavitcher Rebbe, ob”m, who actively bucked the anti-kiruv sentiment that was nearly universal in the yeshivish world until quite recently.
      Indeed, to this very day kiruv is barely emphasized in major bastions of Torah learning such as Lakewood.

JJ Gross

Riverdale, NY


Chabad’s Role
      Rabbi Goldberg presents Torah Umesorah (founded 1944) and NCSY (founded 1954) as the founders of outreach in America, while including Chabad with Aish HaTorah (founded 1974) and Ohr Somayach (founded 1970).
   The truth is that Chabad began its outreach work when the previous Lubavitcher Rebbe arrived in America in 1941, sending emissaries to many big cities where they founded big Jewish day schools. This was at the same time that Torah Umesorah was founded, if not before. Chabad expanded its outreach activities to such an extent that it became widely known as the pioneer of Jewish outreach.
      Rabbi Goldberg continues: “The one area that had been severely neglected, however, was outreach on college campuses. The father of college kiruv was and is Rabbi Avrohom Jackobavitz, who created JAAM – Jewish Awareness America – on the campuses of University of Michigan and Michigan State.”
      Although I do agree that college campuses were underserved in the 60’s and 70’s, and that Rabbi Jackobavitz does great work, Chabad already had its first campus shliach at UCLA in the 60’s, and many more in the 70’s, including Rabbi Goldstein, shliach at the University of Michigan in 1975.
      It would be inappropriate to say that “The father of college kiruv was and is Rabbi Avrohom Jackobavitz” when the University of Michigan had a shliach long before Rabbi Jackobavitz began working there.
      Chabad has recently expanded its permanent campus Student Centers to close to 200 campuses, while offering varied activities at an additional 150 universities.

Avrohom Simmonds

(Via E-Mail)
      Rabbi Goldberg Responds: Some readers were offended that the work of Chabad was seemingly slighted in my article. Indeed, Chabad opened at Brandeis in 1949. Let me try to explain where I was coming from.
      In most non-Chabad communities, when we speak of kiruv we are not usually referring to Chabad. Not because we disrespect Chabad, or because we don’t recognize Chabad’s tremendous achievements, but rather because what Chabad does and what other organizations do are very different.
      It is beyond the purview of this response to explain the differences in motivation and approach of Chabad rabbis as opposed to non-Chabad rabbis; suffice it to say that Chabad does not call its outreach efforts “kiruv” but specifically “shlichus.” (Those who would like me to explain the difference are welcome to e-mail me at mgoldberg@rutgersjx.com.)
      Though I made a passing acknowledgment in my article to Chabad, I should have made it clear that I was concentrating mainly on non-Chabad kiruv organizations. I should have written that Chabad deserves a separate article due to its tremendous accomplishments on and off campus.
      If I offended anyone by omitting Chabad, I am profoundly sorry.
      Hillel, while it does tremendous work on campus, is non-denominational. Some Hillel rabbis do involve themselves in kiruv, but that is not, by and large, their mission. I wasn’t looking to minimize their contribution. Here at Rutgers, the Maimonides Program is run inside the Hillel House, as is often the case nationwide. Our organization, the Rutgers Jewish Xperience, has an excellent relationship with the Hillel here, as is true on many other campuses.

      While non-Chabad campus kiruv did exist years ago (as in the case of the Lakewood chevrusa program at Rutgers), it certainly did not do so on a large scale. A once-a-week chevrusa program, as important as it was, simply cannot compare to the full-time kiruv initiatives now occurring on campuses across the country.


Letters to the Editor

Kosher Food Production

Wednesday, March 9th, 2005

Title: Kosher for Everybody – The Complete Guide To Understanding, Shopping, Cooking And Eating The Kosher Way
Author: Trudy Garfunkel
Publisher: Jossey-Bass, a Wiley imprint, San Francisco, CA


Title: How To Keep Kosher – A Comprehensive Guide To Understanding Jewish Dietary Laws
Author: Lisë Stern
Publisher: Wm. Morrow, div.
HarperCollins Pub., New York, NY


Title: Kosher Food Production
Author: Rabbi Zushe Yosef Blech
Publisher: Blackwell Publishing, Ames, IA



Whether we are involved in kiruv, or in kashrus management, at home, in shuls, or in institutional management, we have a need for a kashrut authority to refer to. One or more of these recently published books might just fit the bill.

The most elaborate of these is certainly not for everybody – Rabbi Zushe Blech’s Kosher Food Production is really a textbook for teaching college courses or for training those involved in professional kashrus as mashgichim and in hashgacha management. This manual is written with exacting detail. Rabbi Blech has produced a classic that explains just about every aspect of kashrut for the working professional who has to deal with the myriad aspects of kashrut year-round and for Passover.

Rabbi Blech explains the kosher certification process, basic halachic concepts, ingredient management (for food production and institutional use), fruits and vegetables, dairy, fish, flavors and essences, oils and fats, meat and poultry. In a series of essays, Kosher Food Production discusses many individual subjects, such as what could be treif about vitamins and food additives; how wines, liqueurs and cheeses are produced; and what could rend either kosher or not.

But such authority comes at a price – $150 – quite a bargain for a lifetime of knowledge and scholarship distilled into one portable, convenient volume, but expensive if all you have a simple kashrus question. Kosher For Everybody, on the other hand, is an easily understandable paperback for less than $20.00. Trudy Garfunkel lists major kashrut identifications to look for when shopping, a selection of menus to start with, advice for vegetarians and people who may be lactose intolerant or allergic to milk products (which includes many Ashkenazic Jews).

This is a perfect small book to help anyone who has not grown up in a frum household to begin to understand the practices of kashrus and kitchen and food management for the kosher home. A literal bonus is the directories of kosher sources, including kosher hotels and resorts throughout the U.S. and worldwide, kosher-for-Passover tours, summer youth camps, mail-order kosher food purveyors, restaurants and caterers, kosher bakeries and markets.

Finally, there is How To Keep Kosher, a very attractively published manual. It is designed for the kiruv market and the less knowledgeable who wish to bring their kashrus observances up to par.

Ms. Stern not only discusses issues of kashrus – her book revolves around the Jewish calendar and goes somewhat into Shabbos and holidays observances.

She too includes a number of “starter” recipes, and goes into detail how to kasher a kitchen. One section even quotes a world-renowned ichthyologist, Dr. James W. Atz, of New York’s American Museum of Natural History, who is a leading authority on which species of fish are kosher and which are not. Although Ms. Stern also presents non-Orthodox points of view to kashrus observance, it is apparent that her own predilection is toward strictly Halachic observance.

Aharon Ben Anshel

Q & A: On The ‘Evergreen Tree’ In A Jewish Home

Wednesday, January 28th, 2004
QUESTION: I am active in kiruv work in a neighborhood where there are many Jewish immigrants from the former Soviet Union. Unfortunately, these people were kept ignorant of their Jewish heritage.
Lately I’ve noticed a new phenomenon. At this time of year, many of them seem to be bringing evergreen trees into their homes. They claim that they always did this in Russia in celebration of the “winter festival”.
What should my attitude be as a kiruv professional?
Name Withheld
Brooklyn, NY
ANSWER: Your work is vital, and by all means you must keep the channels of communication open and explain to them, individually or as a group, that this is not appropriate. Contrary to what you refer to as being a new phenomenon, this problem has been with us for many years.My uncle, HaRav Sholom Klass, zt”l, was asked this same question thirty years ago, before the latest large immigration of Russian Jews to America.

His answer specified: “It is prohibited for a Jew to use any religious object or even a symbol related to another religion on their holiday. Christmas is a day on which Christians celebrate the birth of Jesus.

“Different customs and symbols are observed in various countries. Such symbols as a star, a yule log, mistletoe, a Christmas tree, Santa Claus, etc., are related to the Christmas holiday. That holiday has always been, and is, a religious festival but many people have made it into a secular holiday because of its impact upon industry and commerce, when millions of people buy products of all kinds as gifts. Merchants sell more of almost every kind of merchandise during this season than at any other time of the year. Stores in the United States and other countries depend on Christmas shoppers for a fourth of the sales they make during the entire year.

“But this does not detract from the fact that it is a Christian holiday and we must not use any of its symbols.

“The Gemara (Avoda Zara 6b) tells us that a certain official once sent to Rabbi Judah Nesiah II (who lived in the middle of the 3rd century) a Caesarean denar (a coin engraved with the image of the Emperor in commemoration of his coronation, as many emperors considered themselves gods to be worshiped) on his festival day. Resh Lakish happened to sit before him. Rabbi Judah asked him, ‘What should I do? If I accept the coin, he will go to praise the idols for it; if I don’t accept it, he will be displeased.’

“‘Take it,’ answered Resh Lakish, ‘and drop it into a well in the messenger’s presence.’

“But this will displease him all the more,’ said Rabbi Judah.

“I mean that you should do it as if by accident,’ Resh Lakish replied. (This way he will not be angry and you will not have accepted a gift bearing a symbol of their religion on their holiday).”

My uncle concluded that it amazed him that we seek to follow other people’s practices when we ourselves have many beautiful holidays, such as Chanukah, Sukkot, etc., and our religion is the source of all worship of G-d.

Indeed, our Father Abraham, who came to the unusual understanding of his Creator at age three (Nedarim 32a), is today the undisputed source of true belief in G-d. Other nations subverted that belief, in contrast to Abraham who destroyed his father Terach’s idols because they were the vehicle that fostered the denial of G-d’s existence (Bereishit Rabbah, Parashat Noach; Yalkut Shimoni, Parashat Noach).

As stated by Rambam (Hilchot Avodat Kochavim 7:10-11), idol worship trees such as the ashera – pagan symbols adapted by Christianity – are a violation of the prohibition of idol worship. A Jew is forbidden to derive any pleasure from it, much less possess anything that is part of it. The only way we can combat lack of Torah practice and at the same time promote the removal of all vestiges of idol worship in any form is by providing a true Torah education for every Jewish child and adult.

This was how Abraham, who was entrusted by his father to watch and run his idol “shop,” sought to prevent his customers from purchasing and worshipping idols. He tried to explain logically to the customers the futility of the idols.

You are now in the same situation Abraham was. Just as Abraham’s wisdom, patience, and caring were rewarded with a great nation that would follow his beliefs, so may you be rewarded for the merit of seeking to rescue his children and restore them to the true belief in Hashem that their fathers sought for them.

Rabbi Yaakov Klass

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