There is a better, more wholesome way of creating that polarity, and we’ll address it in a follow-up column.
But for now I’ll make one simple point. We need to make our marriages more exciting. We need to make them more passionate. Do our wives really need to find this passion only in a fantasy novel about domination? It’s time to emphasize not just love but desire in our marriages.
[It’s for that reason that one of the central planks of my campaign for Congress in New Jersey’s ninth district – whose primary is this Tuesday – is to make marital counseling tax deductible, so that we attack the monstrous fifty percent divorce rate by giving couples the incentive to get the help they need and rescue their marriages from the cold winter of passionless attachment or divorce.]