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One of the biggest downsides to sending your kids to camp is that you have no idea what’s going on over there. You have no idea how things work, and what the logic is behind all the things that they do. There’s no teacher conferences, no orientation, no dinner, no parent meetings in middle of the workday (“Your son is performing below average in sports. You might want to consider moving him to the small bunk.”), no farher to get in… It’s like they accept just anyone. You’d think there’d be some kind of farher on the subjects that are big in camp – sports, incoherent songs, ignoring the learning rebbi… But no. We know nothing about the rebbeim or the counselors other than that most of them are of the age that, if they were our kids’ teachers, we’d be constantly worried about them getting married during the school year.

We don’t even get letters asking for more money because the kids are on a trip. Whenever my son’s class takes a walk to the corner, I have to send in five bucks, but his camp goes on trips every week and I don’t hear a word. In fact, they get on a bus to go swimming every day, and they still don’t hit me up for money. The bus driver apparently gets paid in appreciation songs –


“2! 4! 6! 8!” – like they’re counting out money. He gets an $8 tip.

There is zero contact. Sleep-away camp has a visiting day, but that’s more about seeing your kid and taking him to that one pizza shop in the mountains that his camp orders from once a week anyway.

So this week, we’re going to see if we can answer some of your basic questions, using mainly guesswork:


Dear Mordechai,

Why is the second half of camp considered better?

Alma Mater


Dear Alma,

I don’t know. They’re not really that different, unless you count Color War, or that really sad overemotional last night where everyone cries because they won’t see each other for ten whole months. They’ll just get to text each other. But the kids who left after the first half didn’t do that, even though they won’t see anyone for eleven months.

Honestly, I don’t even know why the summer gets split. The entire school year is ten months long, and they split that into 4 quarters, tops, and each one longer than all 8 weeks of camp. It’s not like there’s report cards.

Is it so the counselors can go off and get married?

The basic logic of the second half being better, I think, is that the staff is going to keep trying to top itself, as far as activities. The first half, the kids are happy just not to be in school.

“What’s today’s special activity?”


Whereas I would think that in the first half, the head staff has more energy, because the point of camp is to tire out the kids, but unfortunately, it also tires out the counselors.

In fact, the first half of the school year is probably better too, from a teaching standpoint. The first day everyone comes in and behaves, the teacher has a plan, everyone still has supplies… The second half of the year, no one can settle down, because “It’s almost the end of the year.” “It’s almost Shavuos.” “It’s almost Pesach.” “It’s almost Purim.” “It’s almost Tu B’Shvat.”

On the other hand, if you ask a kid, “Which half of school would you rather go to – the first five months or the last five months?” He’d say, “The last five months.” It’s like how adults don’t like Mondays. In fact, most kids who split the summer between two camps would go to both for the second half, if possible.


Dear Mordechai,

Why is every head counselor so corny?



Dear Oy,

Probably because the average head counselor is generally someone who wanted to be a principal but he couldn’t get hired because of his sense of humor.

“Mrs. Klein, We’d like to move your son to the small class. Wow, there are so many people in the small class, we’re going to have to start calling it a big class, huh?”

In fact, it’s one of the requirements in a head counselor, aside from owning a megaphone and having a loud voice that he can gradually lose over the course of the summer. At the job interview, they’re like, “Can you make lousy jokes for eight weeks straight?” And he goes, “Do you mean “lousy” as in “dumb”, or “lousy” as in “about lice”? And they go, “You’re hired!”


Dear Mordechai,

I’ve always wondered about punchball and kickball. There are no professional punchball leagues. Who invented them?

Violence Ball


Dear Violence,

Corny head counselors.

There are plenty of games you play in camp that you don’t really play anywhere else, like capture the flag, steal the salami, sitting soccer, yarn hunt, red rover, activities involving watermelon, and watching a Chofetz Chaim heritage video during the 9 days. It’s also nice to have some kind of variation, because there actually isn’t a huge variety of professional sports, and there are 2 whole halves to camp. And no matter what you do with kids, if you do it every day, it gets boring.

Or maybe it started when they wanted to play baseball, and the supply cabinet was locked. Baseball needs too much equipment anyway. Most sports need a ball and maybe some goal posts, and technically anything can be a goalpost. You can use knapsacks or trees or people…   You can steal cones off a highway. Baseball needs bats and bases, and every single player needs a glove, regardless of whether they have ever or will ever come in contact with the ball.


Dear Mordechai,

Seeing as every camp strives to have such varied activities, why does there HAVE to be a Color War every year? And sometimes twice a year, but it’s called something else, but we still have to wear colors?

Go Blue!


Dear Go,

To give the head counselors a break. For 3 days, everyone looks to their captains for leadership, and the head counselors just have to walk around and say things like, “I can’t hear you!”

Well, if you didn’t make us scream so loud, your hearing wouldn’t be going.

And every year there has to be a breakout. Every year there’s a fight between the counselors or a camp disaster that turns into an all-out war. You’d think they’d take some notes for following years, like pitfalls not to fall into. Sensitive topics not to bring up. Or just basic notes, like, “Don’t stand too close to the pool in full clothing on the 7th week of camp.” That kind of thing.

This is why color war always comes in the second half. Tensions are high; everyone’s running on no sleep, and the head counselor needs a break.

Okay, you can say that every Color War is really about achdus, because that’s what half the cheers are about.

Achdus? If we had achdus, we wouldn’t be fighting like this. In the 3 Weeks. It’s not even like regular competitive sports. For 3 days, everyone actively hates everyone else because of the color of their shirt. It’s like a gang war, but with competitive bentching.

And this wasn’t even our fight! Most of the campers aren’t even sure what we’re fighting about. Why are we all taking sides? This fight is between the counselors. You can’t just fire them? If rebbeim would get into massive yeshiva/splitting wars twice a year…

But no. The head counselor isn’t going to do anything to stop it. He’s like, “Awesome! The staff is fighting again! I don’t have to do anything for 3 days. I just have to walk around with a clipboard and assign arbitrary point numbers to things!”

“Wait. How come davening this morning was 100 points, but davening to YOU is 1,000 points?”

“I can’t hear you.”


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