More On Controlling Behavior

Posted on: May 31st, 2013

Control may be the most destructive force influencing a marriage. Let me illustrate this point with the following story. About two years ago a woman named Bracha, 47, came to speak to me about her husband’s controlling behavior. This is how she described her precarious situation:

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities

Posted on: May 31st, 2013

PART ONE: H.O.P.E. (Hold On, Pain Ends!)

It’s A Beautiful World

Posted on: May 31st, 2013

We found flowers and plants in countless colors; we watched people ard at work tending to their gardens and even saw apple, lemon and orange trees.

Life Lessons From Raising An Autistic Child (Part III) – Therapy

Posted on: May 31st, 2013

The father’s story: What’s your parenting philosophy? How do you feel about discipline? What educational approach do you find most compatible with the sum of yours and your child’s personalities?

More On ‘Depression: Not A Hopeless Malady’

Posted on: May 30th, 2013

I read the May 10 letter in your column from H.S. (Depression: Not A Hopeless Malady) regarding her husband’s rabbi’s view about depression, and your response to it.

Enhancing A Marriage’s Prospects For Success

Posted on: May 23rd, 2013

Dear Dr. Yael: Do you really believe that the Internet is the reason why the divorce rate is so high among young couples? This may be so in some cases, but what about the fact that many singles are pressured to get married at a young age despite not having any idea what they are looking for in a mate? And add to that the fact that many are pressured to make a decision about marriage after dating for a very short period of time.

Two Years Of Marital Bliss; What Next?

Posted on: May 23rd, 2013

From the moment they stand under the chuppah, newlyweds have two years to enjoy the special bliss that new love brings. This new finding, reported by the New York Times, is based on a study undertaken by American and European researchers. 1,761 people who got married and stayed married over 15 years were followed. The research shows that after two years the couples moved into a more companionable state in their relationships.

Book Smarts and Street Smarts

Posted on: May 23rd, 2013

Shel Silverstein’s 1974 poem “Where The Sidewalk Ends” is intended to paint a magical picture of a world of peace and serenity far away from the “black and dark streets.” At the time, perhaps the end of the sidewalk was a place that was “measured and slow.” Today, however, for many parents, where the sidewalk ends can feel like a scary place.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities

Posted on: May 23rd, 2013

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Defusing Tension With Kindness

Posted on: May 17th, 2013

The two proceeded to talk about everyday things and surprisingly her mother-in-law did not find anything else to criticize. This occurred a few more times, with my client changing the topic every time by complimenting her mother-in-law or mentioning something positive about her.

Decoding Sensory Processing Disorder

Posted on: May 17th, 2013

There is always a lot of confusion surrounding sensory processing disorder – mainly because there are many different diagnoses that fall under the catch-all phrase sensory processing disorder (SPD). Among them are three specific subcategories:

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From The Greatest Heights (Part V)

Posted on: May 17th, 2013

The doctor had warned us that even if we did everything right and followed the protocol after the follicle was of the right size, there was no guarantee of success. Fertilization still had to occur, and just like couples do not necessarily become pregnant every month, we had no way to know if we were actually expecting for two full weeks.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities

Posted on: May 14th, 2013

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Depression: Not A Hopeless Malady

Posted on: May 10th, 2013

Dear Dr Yael: During a shiur on Pirkei Avos, a rabbi admired by my husband spoke about how some people begrudge others certain things. He mentioned the “D” word (without saying the word itself), and I think he said it was an illness talked about in the Gemara. He said that people suffering from this “machalah shachor” (dark illness) should live in a desert with the wild animals. My assumption was that the person would be left to die there.

Reducing Controlling Behavior

Posted on: May 9th, 2013

Controlling behavior may be the number one reason that your marriage needs first aid. If you are unfamiliar with the topic of control, it’s no surprise. Most people are unaware that control is a major issue for counselors, therapists and psychologists-at-large.

Two Different Relationships

Posted on: May 9th, 2013

In all honesty, I really do feel blessed. Interestingly though only someone in a family situation like mine could possibly comprehend this particular "blessing," and many would not consider it a blessing at all. You see I feel fortunate to have not one, but two wonderful women in my life – both of whom happen to be my mothers-in-law, one from my first marriage and one from my second.

The Chassidish Shidduch Route: Tried and true

Posted on: May 9th, 2013

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From Phonics To Fluent

Posted on: May 9th, 2013

Parents often come to my office worrying about phonics instruction – occasionally because teachers do not completely explain the mechanics and at times because of myths that permeate the world of education.

How About Husband Schools? – A Reaction

Posted on: May 2nd, 2013

Instead of putting it all on the men, saying for example that they are "trained" by "society" to feel, think and behave as they do, perhaps you could have encouraged these self-described happily-married women to look in the mirror and try to figure out why their husbands seem to act insensitively toward them.

The Autism Spectrum

Posted on: May 2nd, 2013

I am Ethan. You may not understand me, or the way I feel today. You may not understand my reasoning for things I do or say. The reasons why I’m so loud and say things over and over again, Why I run so differently or lose my homework every now and then. I write my […]