Who’s Looking For A Social Butterfly?
For most children, basic social skills (e.g. initiating conversation, working cooperatively, respecting boundaries, observing conventional rules of courtesy) are acquired naturally.
Dear Dr. Yael
You should move if you want to move, but you shouldn’t feel pressured by what other people do or by what other people tell you to do.
Clever But Clueless: More on Teaching Social Skills To The “Out-Of-Sync” Child
Chanie’s mother tried to salvage the situation by calling her daughter to the side and whispering a few succinct reproaches in her ear.
Dear Dr. Yael
Compliments are gifts of love, but they only work if they are sincere and are given freely, without coercion.
Diet For Dates
Sure, I would not be so glib as to deny that our appearance and even size matter in shidduchim. Perhaps there is even a point in being mindful of what we eat regardless of size or weight. Yet, this question impacts you as a whole, your life, and your goals that supersedes dating.
The Tyranny Of OCD
OCD was long assumed to be purely psychological, the mind's reaction to overly-strict parents or abnormal emphasis on cleanliness. Scientists now believe it is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain.
Dear Dr. Yael
Is your wife using the silent treatment as a manipulation tactic or is she using it because she doesn’t know how to talk about her feelings?
The Feels
Be vulnerable. This can feel scary at first, but it is the only way that you will know if you are dating someone worthy of your trust and love.
The Explosive Child: Dealing With The Explosive Child
It makes a parent feel both helpless and angry at the same time. Helpless at the thought of having no control whatsoever over the situation. And angry that your child insists on behaving irrationally and well beyond acceptable modes of behavior.
Dear Dr. Yael
It is a good idea to start with giving the other person the benefit of the doubt. Some people truly do not realize that they interrupt others often, thus if you frame your words objectively, you are more likely to produce behavioral change.
Time Traveler
I would argue that finding your bashert trumps sightseeing and as far as I am aware, couples are still allowed on planes, not just singles.
Dear Dr. Yael
Black and white thinking is considered to be a cognitive distortion by psychologists because it stops people from seeing life as it truly is, complex, uncertain, and always changing.
Bride Pride
It is infectious and we become transfixed by our screens, and laugh and cry at the weddings of strangers who understand so clearly that a wedding is about marriage, love, and the future.
Stop The Bully Cycle
Research shows that children do need friends, however, they do not need tons of friends nor do they need friends to surround them 24/7.
Dear Dr. Yael
In order to deal with the anxiety you are feeling, you need to identify what you are thinking. You are likely having anxious thoughts. These thoughts are probably swimming around your mind all day and are exacerbating your anxious feelings.
The Minimizer
Dearest Minimizers, please, I beg you, listen to me. We know that there are varied levels of sorrow. But our pain counts. It matters, and it should be acknowledged.
Shidduchim, Self-Esteem, and Emotional Intelligence: The Best Recipe
Why bring up the concept of emotional intelligence when discussing shidduchim? The answer is simple: if a young adult has a low EQ, no matter how smart or accomplished she is, she will never be able to show that to her prospective mate.
Dear Dr. Yael
Treatment for emotional detachment depends on the reason that is happening. It is important to seek professional help to see why you are having difficulty connecting to others.
Read The Room
It is specifically during sorrow that we feel happiness so acutely. It is then that we truly understand how precious joy can be. How fleeting it can be. We can see blessings so clearly and know that they are gifts that must be cherished.
Taking Control Of Your Anger
We all deal with anger once in a while. But, during the teenage years, anger is something that can take over both teenagers’ and parents’ lives.
Dear Dr. Yael
Notice the positive in your life. When you take time to notice positive moments in your day, your experience of that day becomes more positive.
Dear Dr. Yael
Once someone learns how to manage their time, they often find that they have more time for things that they enjoy doing. Additionally, when you manage your time effectively you are generally more productive, less stressed, and have more energy.