Learning A New Language: Speaking To Your Tween
A lot of this unique and personal language that you develop with your child happens until around the time your child starts sixth or seventh grade.
Dear Dr. Yael
I work with many people who tell me painful things that people say to them. Often, these people are simply not thinking before they speak (most people don't mean to hurt others).
Take It Or…
The focus of your dating will always revolve on the ability for your relationship to thrive and grow in a marriage. One of the most basic tenets of a couple’s success is their commitment to a foundation of a shared hashkafa.
What Happened To You?
Our experiences quite literally shape us – and more specifically – shape our brains.
Dear Dr. Yael
Please don't make a huge issue out of this situation. As in all situations, the only person we can change is ourselves.
Thanks, But No Thanks
Any reaction offers direction and a chance for personal growth, should we be mindful and mature enough to listen to their response with humility and grace.
Lighthouse Parenting
Unconditional love means that you love your children and even as you set high expectations for them, you understand that they will make mistakes and you will love them regardless. Children need to understand this as well.
Dear Dr. Yael
Covid, which generally causes all of us anxiety, has definitely exacerbated it in individuals who suffer from anxiety disorders.
Time Bomb
To quote that mildly famous song, “All you need is time, time, time...” (Love. Whatever. It’s semantics.)
Carpe Diem!
The element of Pride comes into the experience when there is a sense that courage and recognition drove a belief in the significance of the moment.
Dear Dr.Yael
If you hear yourself saying that you’ll probably be unhappy in your marriage soon, or that you’re probably really not happy now, you need to stop yourself and change that narrative.
Covid Catch
After an enlightening conversation about your respective Covid beliefs, you worry that you have unearthed a divide too big to bridge...
Embracing The Quiet
The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw energy from their internal world of ideas, emotions, and impressions.
Dear Dr. Yael
My question is do all our needs have to be fulfilled by our spouse? Maybe some of your needs can be met by siblings, good friends, or close cousins.
History Interrupted
Whether you are set up by a shadchan, by a friend, or meet on your own at a singles event, take the time to do your research.
Learning To Belong
Women have a particularly difficult time with shame because there are different (often stricter) societal expectations for women as mothers, fashion figures, and careerists.
Dear Dr. Yael
You must make sure your child is safe and try to put him back to bed, but do not awaken him or try to calm him, since he is probably sleeping.
A Rose Among Other Roses
You don’t believe that they would want you, when they could look for girls who come from standard frum homes, and parents who offer more.
Dear Dr. Yael
Perhaps you really want to be frum, but it is hard for you right now because you don’t feel it as much as you want to, or as much as you feel that you have to.
Powerball
You have been blessed. Hashem has offered you your zivug on the first try and the parts of ourselves that fight the brachos in our lives are trying to offer you doubt when there should only be joy.
Rethinking Explosive Children
Rather than attempting to modify behaviors right away, Dr. Greene advocates for solving the underlying problems.
Dear Dr. Yael
My friend found out that one of my son’s rebbeim, who was close to him, insinuated that although he was a great boy with great middos, he was an average learner and would never amount to anything in the world of Torah.
Party Fail
Simply standing in place or talking only to those who approach you is not enough. Instead, make eye contact, smile, and engage anyone who seems exciting.